yoink 321 #26 August 21, 2014 A successful relationship is full of compromises. 'I'll be away every weekend for 7 months of the year' is a pretty big starting caveat for any relationship, particularly when the subtext can easily be read as '(doing something I enjoy more than you)'. 'You can join me if you want' usually comes across in the worst possible way as well. ('I can put up with you if I have to...) You may think skydivers are the best people in the world to hang out with but you have to understand that we're a) usually super intense and type A, and b) typically talk about nothing other than skydiving. Imagine is she forced you to go to an event full of people you didn't get on with, who talked incessantly about stuff you have no interest in. Is that your fault? If you're THAT into skydiving, you need to find someone who is either just as into it as you, or has their own thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TriGirl 330 #27 August 21, 2014 First, I'll agree with the posters here who noted that the first red flag should have been the lack of hobbies and interests. I would think that someone like that just might be interested in checking out your hobby, so that she could finally have one, too! Now, as to your original question -- is it possible to date a whuffo? I wouldn't know. Since I started skydiving, the only whuffo who expressed any serious interest was a guy who pretty much only wanted to date my resume. (he liked the fact that he was dating someone with a cool job and cooler hobby -- not really that he liked ME). The other whuffos guys run the opposite direction, since they're afraid that I'll think they're pussies because they have no interest in jumping out of a plane. (or they really are pussies and don't want the truth to get out? I'm brainstorming here) If you think it's tough being a male skydiver trying to date whuffos, try looking at it from the female perspective! Hope you still had an awesome time at Summerfest. See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyhi 24 #28 August 21, 2014 QuoteMine's a Whuffo, but I found her at Square1 Square 1 has everything, don't they?Shit happens. And it usually happens because of physics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #29 August 21, 2014 Boomerdog Something tells me from your writing that this lady made an attempt to change you. It's one of the biggest mistakes some (not all) women make with men. They try to change them and when they finally realize the impossible effort they took on to no avail, they either leave or accept you the way you are. In this case she left... You forgot the third option. They succeed in changing the person and then leave them because they've changed. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomerdog 0 #30 August 21, 2014 Quote You forgot the third option. They succeed in changing the person and then leave them because they've changed. RRIIIGGGHHT you are and GOOD CATCH!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hcsvader 1 #31 August 21, 2014 Find a partner who has similar hobbies. Does not have to be the same sport. My wife does not skydive (yet ) but she has a very active outdoor lifestyle. Climbing, hiking, mountain biking etc. All this stuff is also really fun to do. You also need to make time and compromises to do things together. I was at a week long boogie a couple weeks ago. I spent the tues - fri jumping, then took the weekend off to go hiking in the mountains with the family. Then on sunday evening took Wifey for a Tandom on the sunset load. Sure I missed all the awesome weekend jumping action, but I still had a fantastic weekend and a very happy partner. Have you seen my pants? it"s a rough life, Livin' the dream >:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #32 August 21, 2014 TriGirl If you think it's tough being a male skydiver trying to date whuffos, try looking at it from the female perspective! On the plus side, you're outnumbered by men in our sport by a margin of at least 3 to 1. Lot's of skydiver guys to choose from. On the downside . . .? They're all skydivers. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Avikus 0 #33 August 21, 2014 You guys are funny! Glad that I'm not the crazy one here! First round on me! ;)Avikus - Packer and Jumper - Hate landing with the plane! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #34 August 21, 2014 JohnMitchell *** If you think it's tough being a male skydiver trying to date whuffos, try looking at it from the female perspective! On the plus side, you're outnumbered by men in our sport by a margin of at least 3 to 1. Lot's of skydiver guys to choose from. On the downside . . .? They're all skydivers. The odds are good, but... :-DRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
promise5 17 #35 August 21, 2014 JohnMitchell *** If you think it's tough being a male skydiver trying to date whuffos, try looking at it from the female perspective! On the plus side, you're outnumbered by men in our sport by a margin of at least 3 to 1. Lot's of skydiver guys to choose from. On the downside . . .? They're all skydivers. mmhhhmmmm sure Let's see every guy here that skydives is either married, in a relationship or over 70. Yup, "lots" to choose from !No matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Avikus 0 #36 August 21, 2014 Come see us! You're problem will now be "everyone wants to sleep with me!" :PAvikus - Packer and Jumper - Hate landing with the plane! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
promise5 17 #37 August 21, 2014 More like the lack of good coffeeNo matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Avikus 0 #38 August 21, 2014 We have Tim Hortons for that :PAvikus - Packer and Jumper - Hate landing with the plane! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
promise5 17 #39 August 22, 2014 Tim Hortons???No matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #40 August 22, 2014 promise5Tim Hortons??? http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Tim+Hortons"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #41 August 22, 2014 promise5 mmhhhmmmm sure Let's see every guy here that skydives is either married, in a relationship or over 70. Yup, "lots" to choose from ! Damn, you're at the wrong DZ. Come down to our place. We're awash with young guys running around, including my 22 yo son last weekend. Fort Lewis is just minutes away, so we have all kinds of young Ranger and SF guys jumping here. Are you into short hair and big biceps? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kcjen24 0 #42 August 22, 2014 Apparently, I need to travel more.... sooner rather than later! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #43 August 24, 2014 LuckyMcSwervy*** And that's the other thing! She had no hobbies herself! What so ever! I was her main source of entertainment! There's your problem. Someone can't possibly depend on you and you alone for her "entertainment". I think someone who doesn't have any interests/hobbies/passions outside of a coupling is a huge red flag. I'd beat feet ASAP but I wouldn't have let myself get into a relationship with someone without any depth in the first place. ] Yup. The problem isn't that she was a wuffo the problem is she was not a healthy individual to be in a relationship"What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TriGirl 330 #44 August 25, 2014 Remster ****** If you think it's tough being a male skydiver trying to date whuffos, try looking at it from the female perspective! On the plus side, you're outnumbered by men in our sport by a margin of at least 3 to 1. Lot's of skydiver guys to choose from. On the downside . . .? They're all skydivers. The odds are good, but... :-D Exactly! (to both of you!)See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #45 August 25, 2014 TriGirl On the downside . . .? They're all skydivers. The odds are good, but... :-D Exactly! (to both of you!) Well, at least Remi and I are self aware. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #46 August 25, 2014 Quote The odds are good, but... :-D ...The goods are ODD! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
