JasonNC 0 #1 December 27, 2013 My bros girlfriend is cheating. Should I tell him or not? Been here before and it has ruined friendships. Would you want to know or not? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #2 December 27, 2013 I've always voted for the hard truth. I think the very fact that you don't want to do it is an indicator that you should. It's hard. That makes it more likely to be right IMO.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mjosparky 4 #3 December 27, 2013 She's not cheating with you is she? That's a tough call. I did it once back in the day and got knocked on my ass. SparkyMy idea of a fair fight is clubbing baby seals Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TriGirl 333 #4 December 27, 2013 Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him.See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #5 December 27, 2013 TriGirlGive her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Probably more tactful than my method.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TriGirl 333 #6 December 27, 2013 davjohns ***Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Probably more tactful than my method. Still incorporates your method, but gives him a chance to save the friendship. Especially as it closes any "outs" for her, since she will have had a chance to get herself out by telling the truth. See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #7 December 27, 2013 TriGirl Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. ^THIS. Whatever you do, don't pussy out and do the anonymous letter thing to your friend telling him she's cheating. That shit does more mental harm than you could ever imagine. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #8 December 27, 2013 #1.. Make sure that you have got your facts right. #2.. Tell him... if he's a good friend you won't lose him as a mate, if not, it wont matter #3.. Make sure that you have got your facts right. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #9 December 27, 2013 If you have pics and/or video to prove said cheating, have it at hand but don't show it to your friend unless he asks or is in complete denial. I'm not sure if that is good advice or not. Just throwing that our there... In February 2011, I told my exHusband's live in girlfriend he was texting me and coming to my home to try to get back together. He was drunk and wanted to spend the night. I was insulted and furious he was disrespecting both me and his live in girlfriend. I gave him the chance to stop and leave me alone but he was an asshole. I emailed his girlfriend the next morning all of the texts. I told him exactly what I was going to do. When he was cheating on me no one, the people who called themselves our friends, told me what he was doing to me. I vowed never to let another woman sit blindly in the dark again. She thanked me because she said she would've never known what he was doing. Once a cheat, always a cheat in my book.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sfzombie13 324 #10 December 27, 2013 i'm with you on this one. give a chance to her, then tell him. had all the nco's in my unit told me about my 1st wife sleeping with my squad leader after getting me moved back into the barracks so i was out of the way, i would have been a lifer. turned my stomach on the whole army thing at the time. i eventually recovered and went back in the sf, but got out after 6 years. of course, i wouldn't have had my son i have now, so..._________________________________________ Si hoc legere scis nimium eruditionis habes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flygirl1220 0 #11 December 27, 2013 I agree with trigirl. Give her a chance first with a deadline. Then if she doesn't you need to do it. But as Shropshire said make sure you have your facts straight. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #12 December 27, 2013 LuckyMcSwervyIf you have pics and/or video to prove said cheating, have it at hand but don't show it to your friend unless he asks or is in complete denial. I'm not sure if that is good advice or not. Just throwing that our there... In February 2011, I told my exHusband's live in girlfriend he was texting me and coming to my home to try to get back together. He was drunk and wanted to spend the night. I was insulted and furious he was disrespecting both me and his live in girlfriend. I gave him the chance to stop and leave me alone but he was an asshole. I emailed his girlfriend the next morning all of the texts. I told him exactly what I was going to do. When he was cheating on me no one, the people who called themselves our friends, told me what he was doing to me. I vowed never to let another woman sit blindly in the dark again. She thanked me because she said she would've never known what he was doing. Once a cheat, always a cheat in my book. If you don't have trust...you have nothing. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #13 December 27, 2013 airtwardo***If you have pics and/or video to prove said cheating, have it at hand but don't show it to your friend unless he asks or is in complete denial. I'm not sure if that is good advice or not. Just throwing that our there... In February 2011, I told my exHusband's live in girlfriend he was texting me and coming to my home to try to get back together. He was drunk and wanted to spend the night. I was insulted and furious he was disrespecting both me and his live in girlfriend. I gave him the chance to stop and leave me alone but he was an asshole. I emailed his girlfriend the next morning all of the texts. I told him exactly what I was going to do. When he was cheating on me no one, the people who called themselves our friends, told me what he was doing to me. I vowed never to let another woman sit blindly in the dark again. She thanked me because she said she would've never known what he was doing. Once a cheat, always a cheat in my book. If you don't have trust...you have nothing. I totally agree. Totally.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #14 December 27, 2013 I told my friend once about my doubts about her (then) boyfriend. It wasn't even an awkward conversation, since she confirmed to me that she had her suspicions as well... They eventually broke up and she and I are still friends. But we've always had that kind of relationship where we appreciate each-other's honesty - some people prefer to live in la-la-land."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pacific 0 #15 December 27, 2013 TriGirlGive her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #16 December 27, 2013 Pacific ***Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. Or, if you know where the girlfriend is with the guy she's cheating on him with, take him with you to within view and say "is that your girlfriend over there?" then step back and watch the fireworks. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TriGirl 333 #17 December 28, 2013 Pacific***Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away.See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arvoitus 1 #18 December 28, 2013 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. Well there is always the risk that she might try and manipulate her boyfriend by lying about it by telling him(boyfriend) something like that friend tried to make a move on her and then when she rejected him he got pissed off and is now trying to get in between them and telling him(boyfriend) lies about her having cheated him and so on and so forth.Your rights end where my feelings begin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
D22369 0 #19 December 28, 2013 ***Well there is always the risk that she might try and manipulate her boyfriend by lying about it by telling him(boyfriend) something like that friend tried to make a move on her and then when she rejected him he got pissed off and is now trying to get in between them and telling him(boyfriend) lies about her having cheated him and so on and so forth. Quote this happened to me in/around 1986 or so, I was fresh out of the Marine Corps and moved back to my home city. My roommate proposed to his gf and not a week later I found her in our apartment with another guy... I gave her a day to tell him... later that night I ended up in a brawl with my "friend" for trying to sleep with his fiancé - the conniving little bitch turned the tables on me and came out smelling like a rose. I vote for just tell him straight up. RoyThey say I suffer from insanity.... But I actually enjoy it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites TriGirl 333 #20 December 29, 2013 D22369***Well there is always the risk that she might try and manipulate her boyfriend by lying about it by telling him(boyfriend) something like that friend tried to make a move on her and then when she rejected him he got pissed off and is now trying to get in between them and telling him(boyfriend) lies about her having cheated him and so on and so forth. Quote this happened to me in/around 1986 or so, I was fresh out of the Marine Corps and moved back to my home city. My roommate proposed to his gf and not a week later I found her in our apartment with another guy... I gave her a day to tell him... later that night I ended up in a brawl with my "friend" for trying to sleep with his fiancé - the conniving little bitch turned the tables on me and came out smelling like a rose. I vote for just tell him straight up. Roy In that case you definitely had the proof. And if they're brazen enough to do it in the apartment, you're right -- they'll stop at nothing.See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #21 December 29, 2013 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. People screw up. They need the chance to do the right thing. I agree with you.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Skyrad 0 #22 January 3, 2014 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type.When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mjosparky 4 #23 January 5, 2014 Skyrad *********Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type. That’s already established that as fact.SparkyMy idea of a fair fight is clubbing baby seals Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jimmytavino 16 #24 January 5, 2014 If those involved are grown ups... AND unless you Know all the details about their relationship and the behavior of BOTH parties..... I would leave this rock Unturned..... and respectfully suggest that you do NOt even get involved... it's not any of your business......Let someone ELSE drop the bomb and stand back... Boyfriend / Girlfriend relationships have all sorts of dynamics. many MANY of them don't last, for allll sorts of reasons. stay clear of all minefields.. imhoNo winners here.......... jmy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites GeorgiaDon 379 #25 January 5, 2014 sfzombie13i'm with you on this one. give a chance to her, then tell him. had all the nco's in my unit told me about my 1st wife sleeping with my squad leader after getting me moved back into the barracks so i was out of the way, i would have been a lifer. turned my stomach on the whole army thing at the time. i eventually recovered and went back in the sf, but got out after 6 years. of course, i wouldn't have had my son i have now, so...I hope that was the end of your squad leader's career, and that he spent some time in the brig before his dishonorable discharge with loss of pension and VA benefits. Don_____________________________________ Tolerance is the cost we must pay for our adventure in liberty. 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TriGirl 333 #20 December 29, 2013 D22369***Well there is always the risk that she might try and manipulate her boyfriend by lying about it by telling him(boyfriend) something like that friend tried to make a move on her and then when she rejected him he got pissed off and is now trying to get in between them and telling him(boyfriend) lies about her having cheated him and so on and so forth. Quote this happened to me in/around 1986 or so, I was fresh out of the Marine Corps and moved back to my home city. My roommate proposed to his gf and not a week later I found her in our apartment with another guy... I gave her a day to tell him... later that night I ended up in a brawl with my "friend" for trying to sleep with his fiancé - the conniving little bitch turned the tables on me and came out smelling like a rose. I vote for just tell him straight up. Roy In that case you definitely had the proof. And if they're brazen enough to do it in the apartment, you're right -- they'll stop at nothing.See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus Shut Up & Jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #21 December 29, 2013 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. People screw up. They need the chance to do the right thing. I agree with you.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Skyrad 0 #22 January 3, 2014 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type.When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mjosparky 4 #23 January 5, 2014 Skyrad *********Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type. That’s already established that as fact.SparkyMy idea of a fair fight is clubbing baby seals Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jimmytavino 16 #24 January 5, 2014 If those involved are grown ups... AND unless you Know all the details about their relationship and the behavior of BOTH parties..... I would leave this rock Unturned..... and respectfully suggest that you do NOt even get involved... it's not any of your business......Let someone ELSE drop the bomb and stand back... Boyfriend / Girlfriend relationships have all sorts of dynamics. many MANY of them don't last, for allll sorts of reasons. stay clear of all minefields.. imhoNo winners here.......... jmy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites GeorgiaDon 379 #25 January 5, 2014 sfzombie13i'm with you on this one. give a chance to her, then tell him. had all the nco's in my unit told me about my 1st wife sleeping with my squad leader after getting me moved back into the barracks so i was out of the way, i would have been a lifer. turned my stomach on the whole army thing at the time. i eventually recovered and went back in the sf, but got out after 6 years. of course, i wouldn't have had my son i have now, so...I hope that was the end of your squad leader's career, and that he spent some time in the brig before his dishonorable discharge with loss of pension and VA benefits. Don_____________________________________ Tolerance is the cost we must pay for our adventure in liberty. 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turtlespeed 226 #21 December 29, 2013 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. People screw up. They need the chance to do the right thing. I agree with you.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrad 0 #22 January 3, 2014 TriGirl******Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type.When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mjosparky 4 #23 January 5, 2014 Skyrad *********Give her the chance to break it off with him first. Tell her you know, and you can't let her do that to your friend. Give her a couple of days, and if she continues as she is, then you can tell him. Bullshit. She isn't the victim here so allowing her to resign doesn't fix the fact that she is just a dishonest piece of shit. Dude, be a man and a loyal friend and tell him. OP said he was worried about losing a friendship, and he gave us limited info. By confronting her first he can 1) confirm his suspicions, and 2) take away her options. If she steps up, the guy likely will believe it more coming from her than even from his best friend (again, just going by the limited info provided by the OP). Bottom line is still that he tells his friend, one way or another. It's just a matter of how he saves the friendship and actually gets the dude to believe it and cut away. All good points but it also gives her a chance to get in a first strike on the OP with a pack of lies to her boyfriend if she's the malicious and devious type. That’s already established that as fact.SparkyMy idea of a fair fight is clubbing baby seals Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jimmytavino 16 #24 January 5, 2014 If those involved are grown ups... AND unless you Know all the details about their relationship and the behavior of BOTH parties..... I would leave this rock Unturned..... and respectfully suggest that you do NOt even get involved... it's not any of your business......Let someone ELSE drop the bomb and stand back... Boyfriend / Girlfriend relationships have all sorts of dynamics. many MANY of them don't last, for allll sorts of reasons. stay clear of all minefields.. imhoNo winners here.......... jmy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaDon 379 #25 January 5, 2014 sfzombie13i'm with you on this one. give a chance to her, then tell him. had all the nco's in my unit told me about my 1st wife sleeping with my squad leader after getting me moved back into the barracks so i was out of the way, i would have been a lifer. turned my stomach on the whole army thing at the time. i eventually recovered and went back in the sf, but got out after 6 years. of course, i wouldn't have had my son i have now, so...I hope that was the end of your squad leader's career, and that he spent some time in the brig before his dishonorable discharge with loss of pension and VA benefits. Don_____________________________________ Tolerance is the cost we must pay for our adventure in liberty. (Dworkin, 1996) “Education is not filling a bucket, but lighting a fire.” (Yeats) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
