DrDom 0 #26 November 2, 2013 OldHand that is so disrespectfull to her and also to me. she is wonderfull person and not someone i just bang with. we had a long talk. yes i told her. and my family and all my friends love her and think im crazi for broken up with her. nobody understands but i have doubts from the start. i think this is bad to think all the time. i love her but i see no futur. I agree the lack of compassion in some posts leaves something to be desired. I'm sorry to hear about your breaking up. Yes, anyone can point out the "it could be worse" and indicate death, injury, illness, poverty, whatever... but we are all human and loss hurts. I'm sure you invested a lot of time and emotion in your relationship and its hard to let go. But do ask yourself would you have been better of "faking it" and staying in the relationship or moving on to someone who will meet your needs? Change is always hard, but you can overcome it. Remember I'm sure you have had breakups in the past, and someday you'll look back and realize you are better for it. Yes, it hurts now. But you can and will overcome it. Be strong, and good luck :)You are not the contents of your wallet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DiverMike 5 #27 November 2, 2013 In hindsight, my post was not very compassionate. What I read was he made a difficult decision, which is good. Agonizing over it , maybe not so much. Many people with more compassion than I have offered him similar advise to accept his own decision and move on. For the same reason I jump off a perfectly good diving board. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #28 November 2, 2013 Yeah... The "suck it up cupcake" is never very sensitive... Even though it's still kinda true. Dude... Everyone is right... Maybe you made a mistake, maybe you made a courageous decision. Time will tell. And time will heal. May not seem like it now, but it will. It will be ok. I say it again: it will be ok. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #29 November 2, 2013 I was just thinking he needs time to cool out before he starts his search for HIS perfect woman. It would be a huge disservice to a new woman in his life with his still being upset about the last breakup. Baggage, I guess I'd call it? I don't know. Just thoughts..... Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OldHand 0 #30 November 2, 2013 hi. i am not looking for a new relationship. i cant even thout about it now. thanks you for all the nice messages. nately, you recently wnet throu something similar? so sorry. you deleted a message so maybe its yiu dont want to talk about it. its nice to say it will be ok. i kno this even thoug i dont beleive it. thanks again to everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #31 November 2, 2013 OldHand hi. i am not looking for a new relationship. i cant even thout about it now. thanks you for all the nice messages. nately, you recently wnet throu something similar? so sorry. you deleted a message so maybe its yiu dont want to talk about it. its nice to say it will be ok. i kno this even thoug i dont beleive it. thanks again to everyone. But like Nataly said, do something. Try to keep busy. Just get out of the house and get some air. Is it too early to put the pictures of you together away? It's so hard staring at someone you're not with anymore, that you're still in love with, while you're laying in bed or at your desk. I'm not one to follow my own advice on that one though... Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #32 November 3, 2013 I'm going to interject here and remind you, and everyone, that Mods can see IP addresses. We can see that you have the same shared IP address as a long time user on here and it's not coming from Turkey. It is against the rules to have more than one active screen name. If you continue posting under this name, be aware that both of your user names may be shut down.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #33 November 3, 2013 We've been punked? Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #34 November 3, 2013 skymama I'm going to interject here and remind you, and everyone, that Mods can see IP addresses. We can see that you have the same shared IP address as a long time user on here and it's not coming from Turkey. It is against the rules to have more than one active screen name. If you continue posting under this name, be aware that both of your user names may be shut down. It was Funks again, wasn't it?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #35 November 3, 2013 Quote We've been punked? It appears that way. We have that rule so people won't abuse the trust that the community has in each other. It's sad when people don't respect that. And, no, it's not Funks or someone who has been permanently banned...yet.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #36 November 3, 2013 skymama Quote We've been punked? It appears that way. We have that rule so people won't abuse the trust that the community has in each other. It's sad when people don't respect that. And, no, it's not Funks or someone who has been permanently banned...yet. Thanks... I actually felt bad for "him". Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #37 November 3, 2013 skymama I'm going to interject here and remind you, and everyone, that Mods can see IP addresses. It works both ways. You have toothpaste on your cheek. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 851 #38 November 3, 2013 Not anymore she doesn't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muffie 0 #39 November 3, 2013 Thank God. Now can I comment on how atrocious the spelling was in that person's posts?? Didn't want to kick a guy while he was down, but DAMN, online dating was not going to be a good option for that guy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #40 November 3, 2013 Muffie Thank God. Now can I comment on how atrocious the spelling was in that person's posts?? Didn't want to kick a guy while he was down, but DAMN, online dating was not going to be a good option for that guy. Or girl. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 60 #41 November 3, 2013 Muffie Thank God. Now can I comment on how atrocious the spelling was in that person's posts?? Didn't want to kick a guy while he was down, but DAMN, online dating was not going to be a good option for that guy. I just chalked up the spelling/grammar to someone who posts here regularly, but who wanted to disguise who they were, not that they were an unedjamacated idgit. I guess THE PTB know enough about who posted this to say this wasn't the case, and whoever did this is just fine in their personal life! It was generally good advice given, though! lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #42 November 3, 2013 oldwomanc6 ***Thank God. Now can I comment on how atrocious the spelling was in that person's posts?? Didn't want to kick a guy while he was down, but DAMN, online dating was not going to be a good option for that guy. I just chalked up the spelling/grammar to someone who posts here regularly, but who wanted to disguise who they were, not that they were an unedjamacated idgit. I guess THE PTB know enough about who posted this to say this wasn't the case, and whoever did this is just fine in their personal life! It was generally good advice given, though! I'm thinking someone may really be going through this but posted what they thought was anonymously via another screen name and broken English looking for advice. Could be a guy, could be a girl switching up the he for her/she. I'm just ticked I was punked. I was feeling really sorry for their situation. Anyway, if whomever posted this is really as broken hearted/sad/confused as they led us to believe in the post, I really, truly hope it gets better for you very soon. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,534 #43 November 4, 2013 Ya know, I really couldn't care less if I get punked. I'd rather keep my faith in people and keep smiling. It cost me absolutely nothing. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 60 #44 November 4, 2013 LuckyMcSwervy Anyway, if whomever posted this is really as broken hearted/sad/confused as they led us to believe in the post, I really, truly hope it gets better for you very soon. +1lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 60 #45 November 4, 2013 wmw999 Ya know, I really couldn't care less if I get punked. I'd rather keep my faith in people and keep smiling. It cost me absolutely nothing. Wendy P. +1 and then some! If this is real, I hope you can figure this out. It's not probably going to be without some hurt somewhere, but don't go somewhere that it will cause even more hurt, ESPECIALLY, in the long run. You probably know where and how that would be true.lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #46 November 4, 2013 wmw999 Ya know, I really couldn't care less if I get punked. I'd rather keep my faith in people and keep smiling. It cost me absolutely nothing. Wendy P. You're always so sweet and kind to everyone. I wish it would rub off on me. I need it!! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #47 November 4, 2013 wmw999 Ya know, I really couldn't care less if I get punked. I'd rather keep my faith in people and keep smiling. It cost me absolutely nothing. Perfect attitude. There's no shame in being warm and compassionate. There's quite a bit of shame in punkin' people's trust. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DiverMike 5 #48 November 4, 2013 Quote There's no shame in being warm and compassionate. I was feeling guilty because my original response was neither, and everyone else seemed to rally around a hurt human being. Nobody knew we were being punked. Some responded more nobly, and are arguably better people. For the same reason I jump off a perfectly good diving board. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #49 November 4, 2013 DiverMike I was feeling guilty because my original response was neither, Hey, we all go for the quick laugh every now and then.Besides, maybe you're just more intuitive than you think. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #50 November 4, 2013 wmw999 Ya know, I really couldn't care less if I get punked. I'd rather keep my faith in people and keep smiling. It cost me absolutely nothing. Wendy P. Ha. You might fool the unwashed masses, but you don't fool me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
