LuckyMcSwervy 0 #1 September 13, 2012 Has anyone from your past ever come back into your life in one way or another and all of a sudden you're "the one that got away"? After not seeing one another for 24 years or so?? There's a story behind this but I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Just wondering if any of you have ever had to deal with something like this because I never have and I am so floored/cautious/WTF. I need a vacation. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #2 September 13, 2012 So you had a hidden key for the handcuffs?When we got married we moved hundreds of miles from our ex's. Good idea.When I went to V's high school reunion, I wasn't 10 feet from the rental car before we ran into the first ex boyfriend. Met a stalker of hers or two also. Whatever it is, I hope it's good for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #3 September 13, 2012 I've had this experience as well as a couple friends of mine... My advice to you is that if it seems to become intriguing or exciting, just let it go...you've already wasted enough time with them. It's tough though, I didn't take that same advice even though I knew it was true...o'well, I've always done things the hard way...Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #4 September 13, 2012 Oh shit...I forgot about the first time this happened to me, never mind the second time! trust me...there is a reason they say "the one that got away" Translation....the one who escaped. It's a good thing.Don't get trapped again... Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hcsvader 1 #5 September 13, 2012 Goddammit they keep finding me!!! So much for living on the lamb for the last 3 years... Fuck it, I'm going back to Asia... I mean Alaska... Have you seen my pants? it"s a rough life, Livin' the dream >:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaDon 362 #6 September 13, 2012 QuoteSo much for living on the lamb for the last 3 years... Fuck it, I'm going back to Asia... I mean Alaska... Or maybe Montana? "There will never be another ewe."_____________________________________ Tolerance is the cost we must pay for our adventure in liberty. (Dworkin, 1996) “Education is not filling a bucket, but lighting a fire.” (Yeats) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jimmytavino 16 #7 September 13, 2012 hmmmm.. i'd say that if you re-connect somehow with someone, and YOU feel that THEY were the one 'who got away ' then you may proceed CAUTIOUSLY to express that thought and then SEE what happens... IF however you are TOLD that YOU are "the one".....then depending on how YOU felt,,, waaay back then... decide if they are right.. or if they are pushing you.....in which case.. consider Running...... in the opposite direction.... imho jmy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydivecat 3 #8 September 13, 2012 I've had this happen where I have been on both sides of this situation. I'm not saying it can never pan out, but in both of the experiences I had I learned that: A. People RARELY change much, if at all. B. There is a reason they left my life the first time and if it was a good reason then, it still should be now, no matter how many butterflies they cause me. If the feeling is mutual for both of you, proceed with caution. I wish you luck, it was NOT a good idea for me either time though! Edited to add: And laugh, always laugh! Its way more fun walking around giggling at all the stupid shit then letting it get to you, especially when no one else knows what the hell you are smirking about Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #9 September 13, 2012 QuoteHas anyone from your past ever come back into your life in one way or another and all of a sudden you're "the one that got away"? After not seeing one another for 24 years or so?? translation - "WOW, you look great after 24 years, and everybody else we used to know is fat and looks 15 years older" short answer - you're an amazing catch, they already missed that opportunity, and you can do a lot better ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 806 #10 September 13, 2012 Not for quite that long, but she did get away. Then she got married. That didn't work out. I found her again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #11 September 13, 2012 Quote When I went to V's high school reunion, I wasn't 10 feet from the rental car before we ran into the first ex boyfriend. Met a stalker of hers or two also. Whatever it is, I hope it's good for you. The car rental thing is kinda funny!!Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #12 September 13, 2012 Quote I've had this experience as well as a couple friends of mine... My advice to you is that if it seems to become intriguing or exciting, just let it go...you've already wasted enough time with them. It's tough though, I didn't take that same advice even though I knew it was true...o'well, I've always done things the hard way... Intriguing, scary, exciting and all of that other weird feelings rolled into one big WTF pie. I started to type the story last night but I think I'll post it now. Might make better sense. I was a 19-20 year old kid, he was 5 years older starting to settle down and I wanted to have fun with my girls. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #13 September 13, 2012 Quotehmmmm.. i'd say that if you re-connect somehow with someone, and YOU feel that THEY were the one 'who got away ' then you may proceed CAUTIOUSLY to express that thought and then SEE what happens... IF however you are TOLD that YOU are "the one".....then depending on how YOU felt,,, waaay back then... decide if they are right.. or if they are pushing you.....in which case.. consider Running...... in the opposite direction.... imho jmy Let's just say I thought about him on my wedding day to someone else. I never admitted that to anyone before. Weird.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 806 #14 September 13, 2012 That sounds familiar. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #15 September 13, 2012 Quote Not for quite that long, but she did get away. Then she got married. That didn't work out. I found her again. I knew you'd chime in on this one. You guys are very lucky!! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #16 September 13, 2012 Quote That sounds familiar. No kidding?! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #17 September 13, 2012 Quote Quote So much for living on the lamb for the last 3 years... Fuck it, I'm going back to Asia... I mean Alaska... Or maybe Montana? "There will never be another ewe." So that's what he meant by "living on the lamb". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #18 September 13, 2012 Quote I've had this happen where I have been on both sides of this situation. I'm not saying it can never pan out, but in both of the experiences I had I learned that: A. People RARELY change much, if at all. B. There is a reason they left my life the first time and if it was a good reason then, it still should be now, no matter how many butterflies they cause me. If the feeling is mutual for both of you, proceed with caution. I wish you luck, it was NOT a good idea for me either time though! Edited to add: And laugh, always laugh! Its way more fun walking around giggling at all the stupid shit then letting it get to you, especially when no one else knows what the hell you are smirking about One of the girls that I work with had me laughing about this stuff today. Laughing definitely wins!! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #19 September 13, 2012 Quote Let's just say I thought about him on my wedding day to someone else. I never admitted that to anyone before. Weird. I had an ex-GF show up at my door unannounced within a week of her wedding to someone else. The purpose was to make one last "effort" to get me back. Weird. Since we broke up because of her inability to keep from accidentally falling into other guy's beds, there was little chance of that. I really felt sorry for the schmuck that married her. I just don't get the reasoning for marrying someone, when they aren't what you really want.Then this same scenario happened *again*, with a different ex-GF."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #20 September 13, 2012 Quote I just don't get the reasoning for marrying someone, when they aren't what you really want.Then this same scenario happened *again*, with a different ex-GF. I think I called it "cold feet" to try to justify it in my good girl head. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #21 September 13, 2012 If you didn't pursue this, would YOU ever think that he could be the "one" who got away this time? If this is a man whose integrity, morals and values were ones that appealed to you and you just didn't meet him at the right time of your life then I would say you should definitely go to dinner or hang out to see if you still mesh with each other. Go into it thinking that you are just seeing how it goes, people change a lot over time. You don't want to get your heart broken because you had unrealistic expectations! And, yes, I AM lucky. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyjumpenfool 2 #22 September 13, 2012 I met my wife in 1969 (Jr. High School) and we dated in high school/college. After college, she went off to teach in South America. We got back together again at our 15 year reunion. We've been married now for over 20 years. Yep, she's been putting up with me for a LONG time! Birdshit & Fools Productions "Son, only two things fall from the sky." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpwally 0 #23 September 13, 2012 naw,,,you just need to jump more...smile, be nice, enjoy life FB # - 1083 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #24 September 14, 2012 Quote If you didn't pursue this, would YOU ever think that he could be the "one" who got away this time? If this is a man whose integrity, morals and values were ones that appealed to you and you just didn't meet him at the right time of your life then I would say you should definitely go to dinner or hang out to see if you still mesh with each other. Go into it thinking that you are just seeing how it goes, people change a lot over time. You don't want to get your heart broken because you had unrealistic expectations! And, yes, I AM lucky. I think you just said exactly what I was trying to justify in my actions back in the day. Timing. Well, we are meeting up tomorrow night. Many years ago our first date ended up lasting for 3 days. Strangely enough I am not really nervous. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #25 September 14, 2012 QuoteQuoteHas anyone from your past ever come back into your life in one way or another and all of a sudden you're "the one that got away"? After not seeing one another for 24 years or so?? translation - "WOW, you look great after 24 years, and everybody else we used to know is fat and looks 15 years older" short answer - you're an amazing catch, they already missed that opportunity, and you can do a lot better I called him out on exactly what you wrote. Then I found out he went looking for me 10 years ago, found out I was married and didn't attempt to contact me thinking I was happy in life. The ironic thing is when he found this out my xH had just told me he wanted a divorce.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
