How do you react to adversity?

[Nataly 38]

This is a random poll out of pure curiosity... All I know is that there are some strong characters on DZ.com and I was wondering how you all react to a setback...

Perhaps it would help if I came up with an example (note this is purely fictitious and the question is about setbacks in general - not this particular example)...

Let's say you have your eyes set on a promotion. You work your arse off for shit money at the same company for years, pass up numerous opportunities elsewhere and you can tell it's *just* about to pay off... Then one day, out of the blue, your company gets taken over by new management. Not only do they not recognise your years of devotion but they sack you. How do you react? Are you passive? Active? Positive? Negative? Submissive? Agressive? (And don't say "where is the option for x.." - that's what "other" is for.)

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
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- my boss

[shropshire 0]

adversely.




actually depends upon the circumstance - I have no text book/cover all answer.

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[hcsvader 1]

Using the example provided I would say you fucked yourself over by depending on something that is out of your control. You stay with one company hoping for a promotion and pass up other opportunities that could be beneficial.
In my industry I increased my earnings by 4x in about 3 years by moving onto better companies. Sur ei could have stayed with the same company and worked my ass off and maybe gotten promoted to a slightly higher paying position but I have found it way more beneficial to continue chasing the better offers that seem to be out there.
So I would say I try really hard to avoid adversity, making sure my options are always open and that I always have a back up plan.

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[Squeak 17]

i would not really consider that scenario "adversity", but as Shroppy stated my reactions would be on a case by case basis.

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[Nataly 38]

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i would not really consider that scenario "adversity", but as Shroppy stated my reactions would be on a case by case basis.

adversity definition: Adversity refers to hardships, challenges or misfortune. (noun)

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[Nataly 38]

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So I would say I try really hard to avoid adversity, making sure my options are always open and that I always have a back up plan.

OK but even the best strategies can backfire due to circumstances that are either unexpected or outside of our control... Don't get me wrong: I like your answer... Kind of like the old saying: "mieux vaut prévenir que guérir" (prevention is the best cure)... But what do you do when things go wrong anyway?

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[hcsvader 1]

Well if you knew me you would know that things are constantly going wrong for me, maybe that's because I am always taking on a lot of things and have many different plans.
Having many different plans and keeping my options open allow me to very easily deal with things going wrong.

It's like if your following a map to get to a destination and somewhere along the way you come to a bridge that has collapsed. You don't just give up on getting to where you want to be, you look and your map and find a different route.

Have you seen my pants?
it"s a rough life, Livin' the dream
>:)

[Squeak 17]

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i would not really consider that scenario "adversity", but as Shroppy stated my reactions would be on a case by case basis.

adversity definition: Adversity refers to hardships, challenges or misfortune. (noun)

like i stated I wouldn't call it adversity, i don't see it as any of your definitions.
But i doubt that i view the world in the same way you do.

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[dannydan 5]

i checked OTHER. Agree with most of Shops and Squeaker comments. Adversity as a young'in, i would mostly blame external circumstances. from about the age of twentyeight uP is when i started to mature and HIT any negativities HEAD ON and and moved on with life. There are most def things within our lives that we have no control over. Choose the battles and don't sweat the small stuff! LIFE IS GREAT he we let it be so, but one has to be able to have the power of discernment and see the big picture. Earthly distractions mostly cloud judgement therefore helping to make ourselves FEEL like a victim. Keep emotions in check, and all IS good!

[Nataly 38]

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i would not really consider that scenario "adversity", but as Shroppy stated my reactions would be on a case by case basis.

adversity definition: Adversity refers to hardships, challenges or misfortune. (noun)

like i stated I wouldn't call it adversity, i don't see it as any of your definitions.
But i doubt that i view the world in the same way you do.

You're right - we are different.. Instead of contributing good ideas (because you are in fact quite shrewd and funny), you attack *people* you don't like. You don't even attack based on anything concrete or valid but simply because you've decided *you* don't like the person. What's more, you seem to go out of your way to do this instead of simply avoiding the threads you know will just irritate you anyway. This suggests to me that you *enjoy* putting people down, and this is something else we do not have in common.

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[Zep 0]

[Squeak 17]

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i would not really consider that scenario "adversity", but as Shroppy stated my reactions would be on a case by case basis.

adversity definition: Adversity refers to hardships, challenges or misfortune. (noun)

like i stated I wouldn't call it adversity, i don't see it as any of your definitions.
But i doubt that i view the world in the same way you do.

You're right - we are different.. Instead of contributing good ideas (because you are in fact quite shrewd and funny), you attack *people* you don't like. You don't even attack based on anything concrete or valid but simply because you've decided *you* don't like the person. What's more, you seem to go out of your way to do this instead of simply avoiding the threads you know will just irritate you anyway. This suggests to me that you *enjoy* putting people down, and this is something else we do not have in common.

ok, fine,
i actually wasn't being a smart arse in this thread, merely pointing out that what you view as an adversity is not the same as someone else.


I would hazard a guess and say that i don't view the world in the same was as most people on here.
Whilst i don't consider my world view unique, i would say it is in the minority.

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[airtwardo 7]

What is adversity?

A label we put on chunks of life...nothing more, put it in perspective~

We're nothing but self aware chimps on a lush wet rock spinning around a dying star...one of a billion billion such places.

The fact we're even here is an odds on freak and we'll be gone for good in less than a heartbeat in the overall scheme.

NEVER sweat the petty stuff...just pet the sweaty stuff!!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[Nataly 38]

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ok, fine,
i actually wasn't being a smart arse in this thread, merely pointing out that what you view as an adversity is not the same as someone else.


I would hazard a guess and say that i don't view the world in the same was as most people on here.
Whilst i don't consider my world view unique, i would say it is in the minority.

Fair enough. It was merely an example and there are surely better examples. The idea was to get the ball rolling and start a discussion. I'm interested in knowing what people do when life throws them a curve-ball/challenge/set-back. What each person considers a curve-ball/challenge/set-back is obviously going to vary.

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[jtval 0]

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what people do when life throws them a curve-ball/challenge/set-back. What each person considers a curve-ball/challenge/set-back is obviously going to vary.

Curveball? Keep your eye on it.
Challenge? Rise to it.
Set-back? Overcome it.

There is no excuse for failure.
If I need to move a mountain I start by picking up the first rock.

Now, obviously, I am talking about tasks in which I can persuade the outcome. The above example is figurative.

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[Squeak 17]

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ok, fine,
i actually wasn't being a smart arse in this thread, merely pointing out that what you view as an adversity is not the same as someone else.


I would hazard a guess and say that i don't view the world in the same was as most people on here.
Whilst i don't consider my world view unique, i would say it is in the minority.

Fair enough. It was merely an example and there are surely better examples. The idea was to get the ball rolling and start a discussion. I'm interested in knowing what people do when life throws them a curve-ball/challenge/set-back. What each person considers a curve-ball/challenge/set-back is obviously going to vary.

and as i contributed in my initial post, it is situation dependent.
dealing with losing a leg, would me different to losing a wallet. not having lost a leg i cant really honestly comment.
Losing a wallet was dealt with, within minutes.

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[Nataly 38]

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and as i contributed in my initial post, it is situation dependent.
dealing with losing a leg, would me different to losing a wallet. not having lost a leg i cant really honestly comment.
Losing a wallet was dealt with, within minutes.

Ok, I gather you have a tendency to tackle problems?

Personally, I have a very strong determination to see things through... Sometimes this is good (I tend to achieve my goals); sometimes this is bad (I tend to continue down the "wrong" path for longer than I should)...

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[CanuckInUSA 0]

Learn from the experience so that in the future you are better equipped to avoid/handle the situation. However one word of advise that someone gave me a long time ago. Try not to worry about the things you have no control over. Oh and boobies. Save the boobies.

Try not to worry about the things you have no control over

[JohnRich 4]

I usually change the channel or hit the mute button.

Oh wait, that's "advertising". Never mind...

[JohnMitchell 16]

In the past, I've reacted every way possible to various setbacks in my life. The world and my life are too complicated for one easy answer to everything. But I know I'm happiest when I learn, overcome and move on.

[Nataly 38]

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In the past, I've reacted every way possible to various setbacks in my life. The world and my life are too complicated for one easy answer to everything. But I know I'm happiest when I learn, overcome and move on.

I love your answer, but somehow it got me thinking of your quote... Foolish to fear what you cannot avoid?? Dunno... If both my main and my reserve failed to open, I think I'd be foolishly peeing myself all the way to the unavoidable ground!!!

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[wmw999 2,447]

I cuss a lot, then analyze what the impact is, and either decide to continue, or move on, depending on the situation and adversity.

Wendy P.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[Squeak 17]

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.. If both my main and my reserve failed to open, I think I'd be foolishly peeing myself all the way to the unavoidable ground!!!

not for long

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[Nataly 38]

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.. If both my main and my reserve failed to open, I think I'd be foolishly peeing myself all the way to the unavoidable ground!!!

not for long

Nope. But reckon I'd be soaked by the time I splattered!

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[adagen 0]

First - Swear!
Second - Go fly in a wind tunnel or run a marathon or head for the hills.*
Third - Once my head's clear and I've stopped thinking things are all bad, decide what to do next.

* And if it's the sort of adversity that makes these things impossible, there's always the option of expressing your views on Facebook in a way that gives friends a laugh as well as getting their sympathy.

Anne