Squeak 17 #51 April 27, 2011 Quote I don't feel your pain. As they say, SIUCC. Me either, but you and I are the same age so maybe it's a gen X thing, or is it Gen woe is meYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
monkycndo 0 #52 April 27, 2011 Shah is so busy, he doesn't have time to read the books suggested. Hell, I doubt he has enough time to even Suck It Up. 50 donations so far. Give it a try. You know you want to spank it Jump an Infinity Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #53 April 27, 2011 When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. I'm totally serious. You look at life with a negative view. Try having a positive outlook, and your days will be much happier. You seem like you're in good health, you have a good job, you have a place to live, you have friends; why is your life so bad again? She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #54 April 27, 2011 Quote When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. I'm totally serious. You look at life with a negative view. Try having a positive outlook, and your days will be much happier. You seem like you're in good health, you have a good job, you have a place to live, you have friends; why is your life so bad again? Hell everyone hates me,and I'm happy as a loonIt's good being an oblivious idiot You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #55 April 27, 2011 Hey Sean I'M GOING TO ELOY TO DO TUNNEL YAY ME I'll also be in La for a jump or two, any chance you and the lovely Krissane will be at Snore around december 17/18th?? You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianGlave 0 #56 April 27, 2011 Quote Yeah. That's the story. If your mortgage excluding taxes and expenses is 60% of your pre tax income.....you are too rich to qualify for any tools in place to renegotiate your debt obligation. And if you walk away they can come after you for the outstanding balance after a short sale ($100k loss +/-), and will be a serious mark on your credit which may prohibit you from obtaining a job. And with the age of the first generation buyers there appears to be a death every two months with a constant 6 month supply of property for sale at below market values. And those who are moving in are married or married with kids. Not the kind of place single folks move into due to its distance from "all the fun stuff". And well...you can't rebuild your life from sand. So yeah, go grab two 50lb weights, tie them around your neck and jump into the deep end of the local pool. And try and not drown...that's how i feel. And I'm hoping these pills will just lighten the load which I will have to carry for a 5-10 years by a few ounces. #firstworldproblems Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyrotech 0 #57 April 27, 2011 The supplements suggested are not magic bullets. They will not make you happy. They will only help with a deficiency of Vitamin D, and may help if that is the problem. From how you're describing things, that is not the problem. If you're needing something to escape your problems, even for a little while, you're going to need something a lot stronger than Vitamin D, and something probably a lot less legal. Honestly, I would not count on finding a type of substance to help you escape your problems, as they sound like they are all internal and need to be addressed. There are substances that I use for self-examination which can help me guide myself through a problem, but they are not substances that I would recommend to someone without knowing them personally. I'd suggest sitting down with a few close friends, tell them you need a night out, get stupid drunk with them, and spill out your problems. Your friends will listen and help to put you in a better mood. Forget the mortgage issue. You're stuck in it, and it's not something you can fix for a while, so just pay your dues on that one. As for the rest of it, it sounds like you just need some time with your friends. If you don't have friends (I'm assuming you do have friends), there are professional therapists that would love to help you work through the sad times. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #58 April 27, 2011 I greatly appreciate the low level of "suck it up" posts thus far. Yes on paper I am significantly better than most due to my economic position. But I worked hard to be there with continued education and hard work as evidenced in my current enrollment in an executive emba program. As for friends sadly all of my non skydving friends are married with kids. As one would expect for some one who is in their mid 30's To rebuild it would be nice to be around those who are in similar positions, not married or have kids. For those who are have a very hard time relating to my station and I to theirs. Thus the great desire to move. As of last night the verdict is that this condo is a 10 year prison sentence baring any significant change in the death rate or economy. I made a very large mistake in not liquidating this asset and giving half the losses to my x wife and I will pay for it. Such is life. Frustrating and demoralizing but it is what it is. I am in a word serving my time. And I hope that the aforementioned sup supplements ease the passing of time such that I may find some peace. Again thank you. ShahLife through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #59 April 27, 2011 Quote Hell everyone hates me,and I'm happy as a loonIt's good being an oblivious idiot Ahhh, stress. You're a carrier of the disease, aren't you. I think being a school teacher gives one a thick skin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #60 April 27, 2011 Quote I am in a word serving my time. If that's your attitude, you're not going to "find" happy anytime soon. You have two choices: accept where you are and work hard to make the best of it, or accept that your current situation is pure misery and there's nothing you can do to improve it."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #61 April 27, 2011 Yes that is the only viable option. Come to terms with my sentence and do my best to make it work. And thank you for the recommendationsLife through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #62 April 27, 2011 No reason why your condo could not be rented out if you hate it so bad there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #63 April 27, 2011 QuoteNo reason why your condo could not be rented out if you hate it so bad there. It would not be financially viable. I would loose $1500 per month due the average cost of rent vs cost of mortgage. I would rather not go into the financials for i have spent a good deal of time with financial and legal experts over the past weak regarding the issue and I have spent many sleepless nights with a financial calculator and pondering various options which none work out. Thus this is a the equivalent of doing time. And I hope that these suggested supplements just take the edge off.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
david3 0 #64 April 27, 2011 Quote Quote No reason why your condo could not be rented out if you hate it so bad there. It would not be financially viable. I would loose $1500 per month due the average cost of rent vs cost of mortgage. I would rather not go into the financials for i have spent a good deal of time with financial and legal experts over the past weak regarding the issue and I have spent many sleepless nights with a financial calculator and pondering various options which none work out. Thus this is a the equivalent of doing time. And I hope that these suggested supplements just take the edge off. You’re young, you’re healthy and you’ve got all those old ladies around. Why not supplement your income by being their escort? Can you dance?This too shall pass shah. Hang in there. . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #65 April 27, 2011 Quote If that's your attitude, you're not going to "find" happy anytime soon. You have two choices: accept where you are and work hard to make the best of it, or accept that your current situation is pure misery and there's nothing you can do to improve it. Pretty sure that if Shah's ship came in he would find a way to sink it."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 851 #66 April 27, 2011 I get the impression that you view your personal sanity as having zero value. Me? I placed a huge value on that when I decided I HAD to make life changes, no matter the cost. My ex-wife's attorney really appreciated that decision I think. Money is easy. It comes, it goes, and you can always make more. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianGlave 0 #67 April 27, 2011 'If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with'. Even if she is 87. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #68 April 27, 2011 Quote Pretty sure that if Shah's ship came in he would find a way to sink it. He wouldn't even notice the ship. He would be too obsessed with how much money he still owed on the dock, and how the dock was located where there weren't any single fisherwomen."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 851 #69 April 27, 2011 Probably wouldn't be happy with the size of the dock either. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #70 April 27, 2011 2 things: 1 - STOP LOOKING FOR A QUICK FIX. 2 - I don't buy your excuse about not having time... How much time do you spend posting on here?? If you're serious about "finding happy" you need to work at taking out the things in your life that don't increase your happiness. -Cut back on work hours (yes you CAN do it). -Cut back on your time online (it certainly doesn't seem to make you happier). -Consider getting a house-mate - some human company might cheer you up. -Consider renting out your place so you can move to the kind of (smaller) rented accomodations that will suit your dating needs. Lots of things you can do Shah..."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The_Don 0 #71 April 27, 2011 . . Me either, but you and I are the same age so maybe it's a gen X thing, or is it Gen woe is meWhat is the name? Eeyore! I am NOT being loud. I'm being enthusiastic! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BikerBabe 0 #72 April 27, 2011 i'm responding to the first post... How far are you from all these places? 20 miles? 5 miles? Everyone is suggesting "get some sun". Do you own a bicycle? If you do, maybe ride it to work or class if that's feasible. Yes, you might have to get up a half hour earlier, but the exercise and enjoyment might be worth it. I understand that your yoga class helps clear your mind, but maybe you could go once a week, then the other time you had dedicated to that, do something outdoors. Or if you are familiar enough with the yoga poses/order, etc, take your mat, and do it outside instead of going to the class. Sunshine is such a huge help, seriously.Never meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JerseyShawn 0 #73 April 28, 2011 Quote As of last night the verdict is that this condo is a 10 year prison sentence baring any significant change in the death rate or economy. 10 more years of Shahs "help me" threads that never seem to help him Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sandi 0 #74 April 28, 2011 Shah, you’re in a rut and you need to do something different. I don’t know you but I suggest taking a dance class. Seriously. Ballroom, swing, salsa – social dances, not zumba. It’s a great way to meet people, get exercise, and have fun. I personally prefer swing/lindy hop because I love the music but salsa or ballroom are also fun. In a social dance class you rotate partners which means you get to dance with every girl in the class. Most places have practice session and/or dance events. You don’t have to be an amazing dancer, learn to lead well and you will have pretty girls asking you to twirl them around the dance floor. There tends to be more women than men so you’ll be in demand. It may put a smile on your face at least temporarily. As far as your housing situation goes, you may have to suck it up. It can’t possibly be that bad and your life doesn’t have to revolve around where you live. Go out and do something that makes you smile, whatever that may be, try something new. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #75 April 28, 2011 Let me answer that for him. He doesn't have time. There, I saved him some time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
