My $40 quandry

[oldwomanc6 60]

It only works if he never finds out you did the slashing!

Edited to add: he is probably following this and every other thing you are posting wherever.

lisa
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[ltdiver 3]

Working in a rehabilitation hospital and seeing bad choices made by our young people, and how a little bit of headed advice from parents may have changed the event, I side with those encouraging grounding your son's car until this safety issue is properly dealt with.

Pull the battery. Removed the wheels. Whatever it takes. The message will be loud and clear, and perhaps maddening enough to your child to make the point clear.

The agony a parent goes through, when there is a preventable and tragic event, is worth the action. Now.

Don't tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon

[skymama 37]

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Edited to add: My oldest is on his own and struggling, I stop by his place now & then with 50.00 in groceries. It's appreciated and never anticipated... I tell him to pay me back with beer when I'm in a nursing home!

That's what my folks did for me and what I do for my kids. I handed my daughter a gas card the other day, it brought tears to her eyes. She didn't ask me for gas money, I just knew she needed some and helped her out. Hell, gas is expensive for anyone these days, let alone a starving college kid.

My dad always said there are two things you don't mess with: tires and brakes. Get the tires fixed this time, but talk to him about the importance of paying attention to the treads next time.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

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+ 50 gazillion...

[billvon 3,071]

>Kind of like pulling his reserve while he's still on the ground.

Hmm. What if someone cut your reserve risers because they thought your rig was too old to be safe? What would your reaction be?

[airdvr 210]

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>Kind of like pulling his reserve while he's still on the ground.

Hmm. What if someone cut your reserve risers because they thought your rig was too old to be safe? What would your reaction be?

Do I know about it in advance?

Please don't dent the planet.

Destinations by Roxanne

[davelepka 4]

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My 20 yo son is attempting to make a go of it on his own

I noticed the front tires on his POS car are so bald they are showing cords

In that case, he's failing to 'make a go of it'. Making a go of it, and succeeding, would involve being able to afford, and understanding the importance of, proper vehicle maintenance.

Safety is a huge issue, but let's say his tires wear through and blow out without causing an accident. Now he's going to be late for work, and cannot go anywhere or do anything until the car is back on the road. Is that the position a succesful person finds themself in?

What you do now, is step in and teach him the lesson there is to be learned. Not the 'hard way' by waiting for something to go wrong with the car, but the 'smart way' by making sure his vehicle is safe and ready to help him 'make a go it' by providing reliable transportation.

I have kids, and I'm all for teaching them lessons the hard way, but only when the 'hard way' is simply an inconvience. When it comes to their health and safety, I will always do 100% of everything in my power to make sure both of those remain intact.