missbrz 0 #126 April 5, 2011 Quote I don't know you at all brother, but here's what I've taken from this whole conversation You seem very pompous, as well as very set in your ways. You have mommy issues. You have trouble meeting/relating to women in the real world, hence the dating sites. You have a problem with the truth. You seem very controlling. You're not well to do. I can't imagine why you can't find the right person......... Hey don't hate on the dating sites. I've been on them before & I have absolutely no problem relating to men. They're a pretty decent way to meet people outside of your usual social circle without picking up new hobbies. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #127 April 5, 2011 I work 0730 - 1830 Mon-Fri Saturday 0800 - 1800 class I live in "Old Lady Land" and work with mostly dudes. What choice do I have? Online it is Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #128 April 5, 2011 Well it was deleted, but I'm pro online dating if your normal social circle isnt working for you. I work with mostly women & can't afford to pick up any new hobbies. So a friend convinced me to try it. I met some nice guys, but online dating sadly didnt really work for me. I found even people who were "adventurous" meant they were willing to try new foods, not willing to jump out of planes..... oh well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #129 April 5, 2011 Online dating appears to be a bit easier for girls than guys. Funny, you would think since it was online and "modern" the girls would take a risk and contact the guys. Either I'm ugly or I'm doing somethign very wrong because thus far I have only been hit on by moms and well...hate to say it and please no one be offended...girls who were not my type.And I clearly indicated on my profile do not wish to have kids, not interested in moms and looking for someone athletic. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
James525 0 #130 April 5, 2011 I've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact.My skydiving - http://unstable-exits.blogspot.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #131 April 5, 2011 QuoteI've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #132 April 5, 2011 QuoteQuoteI've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal. I contacted a few at first. But generally ya, now I just ignore the site until I get an email with a decent amount of potential. Sorry but you're working against years of social conditioning. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
towerrat 0 #133 April 5, 2011 Sorry Shah, that wasn't meant to be a PA. I was just saying what everyone else was thinking and won't admit. Just saying....Play stupid games, win stupid prizes! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #134 April 5, 2011 Quote Sorry but you're working against years of social conditioning. Tell me about it! Add to it that I don't want kids and well....it gets really dark really quick. But yeah, I would say I spend a good 3 hours per week just reading profiles and sending out "Hi how are you" emails. 98% fail rate. So that 2% is a serious issue. Thus the question "How much of a turn off is it..."Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyMarko 1 #135 April 5, 2011 I still say start batting for the other team Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #136 April 5, 2011 Quote I still say start batting for the other team Johnny, I'm sure you are a great guy but well...I'm addicted to girls. I hope you understand. It's not you...it's me. I hope we can still be friends!Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
James525 0 #137 April 5, 2011 Quote Quote I've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal. LOL. The world is so unfair on men: After centuries of inequality we're still at a disadvantage for careers, how we're treated is almost entirely based on our looks and we're expected to give up our lives to look after kids. Damn you women! When will we be treated equally! My skydiving - http://unstable-exits.blogspot.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #138 April 5, 2011 QuoteQuote Sorry but you're working against years of social conditioning. Tell me about it! Add to it that I don't want kids and well....it gets really dark really quick. But yeah, I would say I spend a good 3 hours per week just reading profiles and sending out "Hi how are you" emails. 98% fail rate. So that 2% is a serious issue. Thus the question "How much of a turn off is it..." If all you're writing is "Hi how are you?" of course you're not getting a response. I answered probably at best 1% of the emails I got b/c they were mostly like that. What am I supposed to say to "Hi how are you?" ..... "fine. you?"... "fine." Dead boring convo right there. Unless your profile is ridiculously full of character/personality, you'll never get a response. Ask a question having to do with her profile. Or just something random. But give her more to go on than "how are you" But don't ask a question that's clearly answered in her profile like "what do you like to do for fun." That just gets redundant & she'll think you didn't even read her profile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #139 April 5, 2011 Quote Quote Quote I've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal. LOL. The world is so unfair on men: After centuries of inequality we're still at a disadvantage for careers, how we're treated is almost entirely based on our looks and we're expected to give up our lives to look after kids. Damn you women! When will we be treated equally! but at least you can pee standing up Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,063 #140 April 5, 2011 >If all you're writing is "Hi how are you?" of course you're not getting a response. I'd try something like "did you know dolphins need help from a third party in order to have sex?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #141 April 5, 2011 Quote>If all you're writing is "Hi how are you?" of course you're not getting a response. I'd try something like "did you know dolphins need help from a third party in order to have sex?" except I think you're wrong on that one... but at least its something interesting and might actually get a response. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #142 April 5, 2011 Quote 98% fail rate. So that 2% is a serious issue. Thus the question "How much of a turn off is it..." You are doing something wrong. I got about a 40% response rate. About 1/2 of those eventually led to a date."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
James525 0 #143 April 5, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Quote I've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal. LOL. The world is so unfair on men: After centuries of inequality we're still at a disadvantage for careers, how we're treated is almost entirely based on our looks and we're expected to give up our lives to look after kids. Damn you women! When will we be treated equally! but at least you can pee standing up You lot have multiple orgasms. 1-1 You're right about the dating messages though. I try and use a girls profile to find questions to ask, and have a pretty good success rate. And thats only going for really hot girls (though I define that by more than just a dress size ). That might seem shallow, but all you really get from a profile is looks and a fairly generic paragraph, so why not?My skydiving - http://unstable-exits.blogspot.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #144 April 5, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote I've spoken to girls with profiles on dating websites - even the average ones get HUNDREDS of messages a day. They have no reason to bother looking for guys. If you spot one you like, you're going to have to make first contact. Yeah! But heck a boy can dream right? That maybe the world would be a bit more equal. LOL. The world is so unfair on men: After centuries of inequality we're still at a disadvantage for careers, how we're treated is almost entirely based on our looks and we're expected to give up our lives to look after kids. Damn you women! When will we be treated equally! but at least you can pee standing up You lot have multiple orgasms. 1-1 You're right about the dating messages though. I try and use a girls profile to find questions to ask, and have a pretty good success rate. And thats only going for really hot girls (though I define that by more than just a dress size ). That might seem shallow, but all you really get from a profile is looks and a fairly generic paragraph, so why not? Just fyi I know plenty of guys who can have multiple orgasms. or at least more than one in one night. so you dont get that oneBut totally only go for the hot ones. It's one of my weed out systems for online dating and dating in general. What's the point if you're not physically attracted to the person? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #145 April 5, 2011 Why mislead someone even a little bit on such an important topic? Why feel defensive about something you just don't want? Be clear and don't apologise for who you are. You don't want kids - simple as. It doesn't make you a bad person. If you constantly worry that people will think something of you, eventually they will. You can make something true by repeating it enough. Example: - Woman: you don't really love me - Man: of course I do - Woman: no really, I feel like you think I nag you - Man: don't be silly, I told you I love you - Woman: yes but do you *really* love me? - Man: yes - Woman: but sometimes I worry that you don't - Man: I do, so don't worry - Woman: but how do I *know*? - Man: ARGH!! Stop nagging me, I told you I love you. - Woman: you SEE?? I *knew* you thought I nag you - Man: can you just leave me alone? - Woman: you don't love me anymore??? Et cetera, et cetera..."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #146 April 5, 2011 Quote You are doing something wrong. I got about a 40% response rate. About 1/2 of those eventually led to a date. It has to be me then. I don't think my profile isn't that bad, I've had friends look and they think it looks OK. I do start off with what I have read in their profile but yeah I would say 2% is my hit rate. But yeah...it could just be me....oh well...Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #147 April 5, 2011 Quote - Woman: you don't really love me - Man: of course I do - Woman: no really, I feel like you think I nag you - Man: don't be silly, I told you I love you - Woman: yes but do you *really* love me? - Man: yes - Woman: but sometimes I worry that you don't - Man: I do, so don't worry - Woman: but how do I *know*? - Man: ARGH!! Stop nagging me, I told you I love you. - Woman: you SEE?? I *knew* you thought I nag you - Man: can you just leave me alone? - Woman: you don't love me anymore??? I remember that conversation."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #148 April 5, 2011 Quote I remember that conversation. Sorry... So... You don't love me anymore?? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
david3 0 #149 April 5, 2011 Quote Quote You are doing something wrong. I got about a 40% response rate. About 1/2 of those eventually led to a date. It has to be me then. I don't think my profile isn't that bad, I've had friends look and they think it looks OK. I do start off with what I have read in their profile but yeah I would say 2% is my hit rate. But yeah...it could just be me....oh well... I'll pm you my photo so you can use it in your profile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #150 April 5, 2011 Quote So... You don't love me anymore?? Of course I do."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
