rehmwa 2 #26 January 10, 2011 I don't have a 'tacit' acceptance of the term - just thought it was a 'mom' of any age ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #27 January 10, 2011 QuoteI don't have a 'tacit' acceptance of the term - just thought it was a 'mom' of any age No; that's the minority view. the majority view is that the whole reason for the existence of the word MILF is to distinguish her from a younger woman. A hot 20 year old woman who has already given birth is not a MILF; she's just hot. Whereas, for example, a hot 40 year old woman who has never given birth would still qualify for MILFdom (upon close review of application). Consider two 16 year old guys getting wasted down in the basement rec room: "Dude, your mom's hot, I wouldn't mind..." "Shut up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muffie 0 #28 January 10, 2011 Quote Quote No; that's the minority view. the majority view is that the whole reason for the existence of the word MILF is to distinguish her from a younger woman. I figured it was possible that the term is evolving, so took a look at urban dictionary (such an authoritative source, I know). Of the top 25 entries for MILF, three match the generic woman old enough to have kids version of the term and 23 still refer to a mother or mom specifically with a few saying of any age but generally a mother of a teenage boy. So, looks like the term is changing to be more generic, but it's not there yet. The things I do with my day... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #29 January 10, 2011 QuoteAnd if you've got a good rapport then I'm sure it's fine, although joking about a woman's weight/figure or age can always be a bit dicey. well, I'm rebuilding that rapport and her birthday is next month. Definately not the time to be throwing out these types of references. I just never knew there were so many negative connotations associated with the word... I've certainly been off my game lately...When will I learn to just keep my mouth shut? Hopefully I'm just over analyzing the situation.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mccurley 1 #30 January 10, 2011 Quote I'd rather be a MILF than a Cougar. Mision accomplishedWatch my video Fat Women http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRWkEky8GoI Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #31 January 10, 2011 QuoteQuoteAnd if you've got a good rapport then I'm sure it's fine, although joking about a woman's weight/figure or age can always be a bit dicey. well, I'm rebuilding that rapport and her birthday is next month. Definately not the time to be throwing out these types of references. I just never knew there were so many negative connotations associated with the word... I've certainly been off my game lately...When will I learn to just keep my mouth shut? Hopefully I'm just over analyzing the situation. Ohh, I see where you're coming from now. I think in your case it may hinge on whether she's old enough to consider HERSELF to be middle-aged. In that case, if she thinks of herself as "younger than middle aged", even calling her a MILF would insult her, because to her that means "yer getting old." Put another way, call a 50 y/o woman a MILF, and you may get a thank you. Call a 33 year old woman a MILF and you may get a kick in the nads. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #32 January 10, 2011 Basically if you have a good rapport with someone you can say (almost!) anything to them but for fuck's sake know your audience!! Not all women would be offended by the term but I think few people would consider it a compliment... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rnicks 0 #33 January 10, 2011 Quote Quote I woulda kicked your ass! How many more years until you are considered a cougar? I like my men older.......So, when we goin to Holly? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #34 January 10, 2011 Quote Consider two 16 year old guys getting wasted down in the basement rec room: "Dude, your mom's hot, I wouldn't mind..." "Shut up." You mean like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGUG1aCUY2o"What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #35 January 10, 2011 Quote Quote Quote I woulda kicked your ass! How many more years until you are considered a cougar? I like my men older.......So, when we goin to Holly? Whenever you want, kitten. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #36 January 10, 2011 I find the term insulting. I'm 42, if it matters.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #37 January 10, 2011 This wasn't my thread if that matters. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #38 January 10, 2011 Quote This wasn't my thread if that matters. I'm sorry sweet cheeks. I just edited the quotey things off your name. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #39 January 10, 2011 QuoteI find the term insulting. I'm 42, if it matters. Ya that matters...It's not looking too good for me is it?Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #40 January 10, 2011 Meh... it is what it is. Just don't call me one and we're good. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #41 January 11, 2011 QuoteI'm 42, if it matters. Absolutely. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muffie 0 #42 January 11, 2011 Quote well, I'm rebuilding that rapport and her birthday is next month. Definately not the time to be throwing out these types of references.... Hopefully I'm just over analyzing the situation. At least the birthday gives you a good chance to show you like her and if she's still talking to you by then then you still have a chance with her. (Hell, even if she's not it gives you a chance to salvage things) My advice: 1. Try to avoid any future comments that point out the age difference or imply that she's old. As in, "that show was from before my time, but I bet you remember it..." 2. For her birthday try to make some gesture that shows you get her. Doesn't even have to be a gift if you're too new for that. Even just a happy birthday and hope you got that whatever it is that she mentioned she wanted or was interested in or was looking forward to. Really, remembering her bday unless she drops shameless hints all the time is a big plus sign. Remember, you're up against guys who think that "nice pics" is an appropriate intro e-mail on dating sites. Or who put up title lines like "likes dogs and little girls." (Both true examples, sadly). If you've already proven yourself as someone she can communicate with you're on the right track. The worst thing you can do is stop trying, so hang in there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #43 January 11, 2011 Quote My advice: 1. Try to avoid any future comments that point out the age difference or imply that she's old. As in, "that show was from before my time, but I bet you remember it..." The guy I see is 5 DAYS older than I but I still like to bust balls and say stuff like that. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #44 January 11, 2011 OK, so let's say she gives you another chance. Let's review your emergency procedures. She says: "Do these jeans make my thighs look heavy?" 15 seconds to impact. What do you do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #46 January 11, 2011 ~it certainly IS, if she's your Mom! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #47 January 11, 2011 QuoteRun? Bzzzt! Wrong. Here's a small hint: you won't buy yourself any time by biting into a Twix. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sandi 0 #49 January 11, 2011 QuoteI'd rather be a MILF than a Cougar. +1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #50 January 11, 2011 QuoteI'd rather be a MILF than a Cougar. Not so fast. How would it go over to call this a MILF? http://www.automotiveexpos.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/PP70Cougar22.jpg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
