madhatter 0 #51 June 29, 2010 Quote Tell her you're Gay. Uhm... I think it's too late to think she'd believe that A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrwrong 0 #52 July 1, 2010 QuoteWell, you saw the roller coaster relationship thing on Facebook, now you know why things were so confusing... So I guess my next question becomes how do I bow out gracefully? Is there really such a thing as letting someone down softly? Yep now I can see the picture... And as far as I know there is no way to get out gracefully / letting someone down softly. And she deserves a direct explanation why you are cutting her loose... Just explain that this jealousy thing is a MAJOR no no. Don't bother with that "spolied teen" stuff I wrote.... If you do... THEN you'll be in a world of SHIT my friend... Tough cookie to chew.. Good luck mate!!!“The sum of intelligence on the planet is a constant; the population is growing.” - George Bernard Shaw He who dies with the most toys, wins..... dudeist skydiver # 19515 Buy quality and cry once! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #53 July 1, 2010 Depends on what you are willing to put up with. I have a friend that is dating a bipolar guy who acts like a 12 yr old half the time, but she loves him. If you can live with all the stuff you described then go for it. I'm glad I can't see it from my house. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #54 July 1, 2010 Quotelooks aren't what a relationship should be based on anyway. I'm ashamed to see this. go into the corner and THINK about what you wrote! ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #55 July 1, 2010 make her go away-fast If you want to insure that she never speaks to you again, I can offer ideas. Let her down gently--not so good atYou are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 219 #56 July 1, 2010 Quote Quote looks aren't what a relationship should be based on anyway. I'm ashamed to see this. go into the corner and THINK about what you wrote! You can't see her face if her boobs are big enough.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #57 July 1, 2010 Quote You can't see her face if her boobs are big enough. I had about 5 different images flash into my brain with that comment.the first couple were pretty cool and hot then the other options started to leak into my braindamn you, turtle.... ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #58 July 1, 2010 Haven't been able to see each other this week as I've been banned from her place due to having a cold... BUT this weekend there's a scheduled talk about jealousy (again..), child discipline and other priorities. Her daughter's spending the weekend with the bio-dad, so we'll be able to have a straightforward discussion. I'm as confused as a fart in a bubblebath sometimes, but I got some great advice via PM - follow your heart! I hope things can either be resolved (i.e. both of us compensating) or come to a head and parting of ways after this.A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #59 July 1, 2010 QuoteDepends on what you are willing to put up with. I have a friend that is dating a bipolar guy who acts like a 12 yr old half the time, but she loves him. If you can live with all the stuff you described then go for it. I'm glad I can't see it from my house. I'm a romantic at heart and have often used the quote from Sir Robert Scott - "Compromises are for relationships, not wine." Unfortunately you have to ask yourself how much you are willing to compromise for the rest of your life.... I have married friends that are often referred to as the standard show - I must agree I don't want to live my life as part of a similar show.A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #60 July 1, 2010 Quote make her go away-fast If you want to insure that she never speaks to you again, I can offer ideas. Let her down gently--not so good at Hmmmm.... Do I need to PM you for those ideas? A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #61 July 1, 2010 Quote Quote make her go away-fast If you want to insure that she never speaks to you again, I can offer ideas. Let her down gently--not so good at Hmmmm.... Do I need to PM you for those ideas? Be very wary...nobody has seen or heard from any of Divot's Ex's in a VERY long time! It's like they 'just disappeared!' ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #62 July 1, 2010 I thought the mafia was a myth!? A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #63 July 1, 2010 QuoteBUT this weekend there's a scheduled talk about jealousy (again..), child discipline and other priorities.Plan your part of it. Decide ahead of time what you want from the discussion and from her; what's negotiable, what isn't, etc. Then the set of stuff that she'll surprise you with is smaller, and you'll make a whole lot more progress with the discussion. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #64 July 1, 2010 Quote Be very wary...nobody has seen or heard from any of Divot's Ex's in a VERY long time! It's like they 'just disappeared!' There's a pretty good chili conversation going on in Speaker's Corner.You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #65 July 1, 2010 Quote There's a pretty good chili conversation going on in Speaker's Corner Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #66 July 1, 2010 Quote Hmmmm.... Do I need to PM you for those ideas? "I don't really want to be seen with a fat girl" was probably my most effective. "I'm gonna go beat off now. At least that way I know I'll enjoy it." was a pretty good parting line too. If it will fit, you should try "Honey, I sort of want to come clean about something but I don't want to ruin your relationship with your sister".You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #67 July 1, 2010 Good ones, but cruel Worst thing is your chili comment made me venture into Speaker's Corner - now my "15,700 unread posts" are screwed! A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #68 July 1, 2010 Thanks for that. I've made a list of things I know she has issues with regarding me and a similar list of things I have issues with. I wish life was as simple as we want it to be, but this is one of those time a SWOT analysis is called for. Damn, I hate having to bow to realism rather than romanticism! A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #69 July 1, 2010 I just been reading this thread and all I can say is RUN man fucking run as fast as you can. There are such great woman out there.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ntrprnr 0 #70 July 1, 2010 I'm sorry to say it, but it doesn't sound like there's any reason to believe it'll get better. Go to silver._______________ "Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?" "Even in freefall, I have commitment issues." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #71 July 1, 2010 The first two are things I've said-the third is just one I think will work.You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #72 July 1, 2010 Or he could try what I've used: "Honey I had a dream list night that I fixed all my problems, that my life was wonderful & perfect. When I woke up this morning and looked over at you all I could think was ~ What the fuck is SHE still doing here... ...so I think we need to talk." ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Quincy 0 #73 July 1, 2010 QuoteBUT this weekend there's a scheduled talk about jealousy (again..), child discipline and other priorities. Sounds like that could be translated ... She's talking and telling you what she wants/will accept ... with you just doing the listening ... period. Hhhhuuuummmm....... What was that you were saying about compromises...???... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #74 July 1, 2010 Quote Quote Tell her you're Gay. Uhm... I think it's too late to think she'd believe that Tell her anyway. Video and youtube would be much appreciated. And someone give up a link to the facebook intrigue, please.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #75 July 1, 2010 Quote Quote Quote looks aren't what a relationship should be based on anyway. I'm ashamed to see this. go into the corner and THINK about what you wrote! You can't see her face if her boobs are big enough. I didn't see any pictures. Were there pictures that I missed? Where?I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
