Nataly 38 #26 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote and spent 75 bucks on dinner and I thought it would have been nice if you maybe paid for the beer or something. Okay, the women may flame me for this, but I say never spend a lot of money of the first date. Casual dinner, maybe a movie, but you're setting the bar, and expectations, too high. The first date is a "get to know ya" time, not the Senior Prom. Keep it light and easy.And if you end up in the sack, cool. I actually disagree with you for once John!!! I think it depends what you're looking for. If you're looking for the kind of girl who will be impressed by money and expects to be maintained, you will have to spend a lot on a first date. And guys - don't make fun.. There are plenty of people (men and women) who are impressed with money and as long as those people stick together the rest of us can go on getting to know our dates over a cheap meal! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #27 July 15, 2010 Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #28 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote and spent 75 bucks on dinner and I thought it would have been nice if you maybe paid for the beer or something. Okay, the women may flame me for this, but I say never spent a lot of money of the first date. Casual dinner, maybe a movie, but you're setting the bar, and expectations, too high. The first date is a "get to know ya" time, not the Senior Prom. Keep it light and easy.And if you end up in the sack, cool. Changed to past tense for ya! Ofcourse, with inflation... money is different now."I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
drdive 0 #29 July 15, 2010 I agree. Run - run away, very fast."We saved your gear. Now you can sell it when you get out of the hospital and upsize!!" "K-Dub" " Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #30 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. Do ya atleast park the car after the drive thru?"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #31 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. Do ya atleast park the car after the drive thru? Well, I did once take a date to the OXO tower, and that cost like £200, but it was a BIG occasion (for me), and I invited him, so I paid. But I do think $18 for a starter, for a first date.. Well, that's a lot to invest in a stranger."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #32 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. I agree $18 is a lot for a starter, but my entree was $18. My starter was a salad, only a few dollars. I'm guessing my share of the tab was around $25, including my iced tea.Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #33 July 15, 2010 So whats your first date/stranger limit?"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #34 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. I agree $18 is a lot for a starter, but my entree was $18. My starter was a salad, only a few dollars. I'm guessing my share of the tab was around $25, including my iced tea. "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #35 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. I agree $18 is a lot for a starter, but my entree was $18. My starter was a salad, only a few dollars. I'm guessing my share of the tab was around $25, including my iced tea. Quote An entrée (pronounced /ˈɑːntreɪ/ AHN-tray, French "entrance") is one of several savoury courses in a Western-style formal meal service, specifically a smaller course that precedes the main course. ie: "starter""There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #36 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Um, excuse me?? I live in London, which is supposed to be one of the most expensive cities in the world and there is NO WAY IN HELL I would pay $18 bucks on a starter. That *is* a lot of money. I agree $18 is a lot for a starter, but my entree was $18. My starter was a salad, only a few dollars. I'm guessing my share of the tab was around $25, including my iced tea. Quote An entrée (pronounced /ˈɑːntreɪ/ AHN-tray, French "entrance") is one of several savoury courses in a Western-style formal meal service, specifically a smaller course that precedes the main course. ie: "starter" Fuck, I cant pronounce that!"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #37 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Quote An entrée (pronounced /ˈɑːntreɪ/ AHN-tray, French "entrance") is one of several savoury courses in a Western-style formal meal service, specifically a smaller course that precedes the main course. ie: "starter" Fuck, I cant pronounce that! Heh heh.. Looks like the computer doesn't recognise the funny symbols!!! But yeah, if you meant the main, that changes things slightly.. Still, the problem isn't that he paid a lot.. The problem is that he seems to have had expectations as to what that meal would get him.. (Despite his protesting, it sounds like he actually was expecting some nookie..) My view is: by all means give him a second chance, but those are some serious red flags.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #38 July 15, 2010 Quote My view is: by all means give him a second chance, but those are some serious red flags.. Nope, I don't know which of his multiple personalities I'd be giving a second chance to. That door has closed.Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #39 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote My view is: by all means give him a second chance, but those are some serious red flags.. Nope, I don't know which of his multiple personalities I'd be giving a second chance to. That door has closed. Where one door closes, another one opens... Hi, I'm theonlyski..."I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #40 July 15, 2010 Quote Where one door closes, another one opens... Hi, I'm theonlyski... You gonna be in LP baby? Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 8 #41 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Where one door closes, another one opens... Hi, I'm theonlyski... You gonna be in LP baby? Nope, still stuck in Iraq. "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 140 #42 July 15, 2010 this "texting-grammar" would make me run IMMEDIATELY scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #43 July 15, 2010 Quote this "texting-grammar" would make me run IMMEDIATELY ...and the fact that he's a bloke? (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #44 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote Thanks for reminding me why I don't date. Wow. I really don't think you'd be a dork like that.You know, it was dating that led me to marrying Vskydiver. It ain't all bad. Correct. I would not. But the nutjobs are prolific in both the male and female camps. And yours is a life truly blessed. :)I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 140 #45 July 15, 2010 Quote Quote this "texting-grammar" would make me run IMMEDIATELY ...and the fact that he's a bloke? yeah.. that too... let's say : if a person of the gender I am interested in showed "that much" effort in writing to me.. well... NO GO...scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #46 July 15, 2010 I guess one of the side benefits of my job (I work in a community mental health center) is that I have developed a really, really good crazy filter for dating. Run away, this one is not psychotic but will create tons of drama, obviously. I am a grammar snob, too, even in texting."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #47 July 15, 2010 I'm not a rocket scientist but 1) This guy sounds really strange! 2) You think way too much! 3) You should have asked Dr. Shah master of all things loving about this dude. 4) REALLY? I MEAN REALLY? Ok, how many guys at your DZ? How many single half way decent live close to you have a good job and understand your love of the sport guys are at your DZ? I'm willing to bet at least one! So..........why do you want to make it hard for yor self? Look how about next time we just starting a nice impossible long distance relationship with a guy who lives in NYC. I mean really ladies! REALLY! I know I'm a pigdog but stop making my life easy! STOP DOING DUMB THINGS! STOP MAKING YOUR LIFE DIFFICULT FOR NO OTHER REASON BECAUSE.....well because you love the drama.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #48 July 15, 2010 Girl … you know this already. Something I have to remind myself too when I try this thing I hate called “dating”, is that when people show you who they are, you should believe them … the first time. (Somebody else, seemingly smart, said that … not me.) Unless you really like him and consciously want to take the risk, walk away now ... save yourself a bunch of headache later O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #49 July 15, 2010 OK … and now that I took the time to read the whole thing, I can’t quite relate to what has become a main theme in the debate -- him paying for dinner … than chastise you for it … than you chastise him for being “cheap”. I really don’t get this … even on a date, I always offer to pay half of the tab … and I’d say about 90% of the time they take me up on it. Problem solved … out the door goes the reason to even have this conversation. What am I missing? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NovaTTT 2 #50 July 15, 2010 Quote Dinner wasn't that much (for Monterey, CA). I think his 75 bucks included the tip or is a little exaggerated. My entree was a whole whopping $18, plus a salad Then it must've been all the beer. "Even in a world where perfection is unattainable, there's still a difference between excellence and mediocrity." Gary73 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
