fossg 0 #1 January 25, 2010 I will be flying to Fla. tommorrow to take care of my mom. Apparently she is in the beginning stages of dementia/alzhiemers and I have to start the guardianship process... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #2 January 25, 2010 Hang in there hun! (( HUGS ))Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #3 January 25, 2010 That's a tough thing. Good luck to you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #4 January 25, 2010 In our thoughts & prayers. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #5 January 25, 2010 QuoteI will be flying to Fla. tommorrow to take care of my mom. Apparently she is in the beginning stages of dementia/alzhiemers and I have to start the guardianship process... I already know how this goes, my mom has the same situation. Just deal with it, it is not going to even remotely be OK. Sorry, just know that going in and it won't be such a blow to you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #6 January 25, 2010 Quote I will be flying to Fla. tommorrow to take care of my mom. Apparently she is in the beginning stages of dementia/alzhiemers and I have to start the guardianship process... Best thing I can tell you is find an Alzhiemer's support group that can help guide you through this difficult path. You do not have to go through this alone. Best of luck... "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDeere 0 #7 January 25, 2010 Sorry to hear that man! Nothing opens like a Deere! You ignorant fool! Checks are for workers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airathanas 0 #8 January 25, 2010 Good vibes coming your way->http://3ringnecklace.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyrider 0 #9 January 25, 2010 Be thankful you are able to be there, she was there to change your shitty diapers, and fix your owies, now you will repay the effort! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #10 January 25, 2010 Sorry, that's rough. I know my mom will probably go that way also. Vibes.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #11 January 26, 2010 <<<<<<<>>>>>>> (((((((((HUGS))))))))))) Good luck sweetie! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wolfriverjoe 1,523 #12 January 26, 2010 Quote Quote I will be flying to Fla. tommorrow to take care of my mom. Apparently she is in the beginning stages of dementia/alzhiemers and I have to start the guardianship process... Best thing I can tell you is find an Alzhiemer's support group that can help guide you through this difficult path. You do not have to go through this alone. Best of luck... 2nd the suggestion for the support group. They don't change what you have to face, but they make it a hell of a lot easier knowing you aren't alone. They will have suggestions, ideas and resources. And they say "a problem shared is a problem cut in half"."There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy "~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybill 22 #13 January 26, 2010 Hi Jim, You and your mom are in our prayers.SCR-2034, SCS-680 III%, Deli-out Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
drdive 0 #14 January 26, 2010 Been there - done that. It sucks. Hang in there. Start thinking about assisted living or adult family homes if things progress. They can be lifesavers. PM me if you need more info."We saved your gear. Now you can sell it when you get out of the hospital and upsize!!" "K-Dub" " Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,452 #15 January 27, 2010 What he said. It's not an easy path, but in the long run there's a huge satisfaction about doing the right thing. Really. My dad died last year (at 91) after a tough last couple of years. But even at the end he was loving and kind. Dementia changes some people into different personalities; most of them, it just exaggerates what they were like already, and removes a lot of their initiative. But as long as they're comfortable, socialized, and have nice people around them, it's much harder on the family than it is on them. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
captain1976 0 #16 January 27, 2010 Quote, it's much harder on the family than it is on them. Wendy P. Good luck fossg, I wish the best for you and your dear Mom. Its actually devastating to the family. Being a recent recipient of that dreadful situation, I made it clear in my living will that if I am incapacitated for any reason at any time, I want to go to the home. Not the house, but the home. I have seen many of my friends struggle with the same problem and I will not ruin the better years of my son's life with him having to deal with my health problems. My Mother struggled for many years because her mother just didn't want to go to the old folks home. This put the family into a real bad situation as it was like having a baby in that they could never do anything, go on vacation or even enjoy a day off. I refuse to be so selfish that I don't consider the well being of my son.You live more in the few minutes of skydiving than many people live in their lifetime Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #17 January 27, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that - just make sure you don't take everything on your shoulders.. At the very least get some emotional support from friends, family, support groups, etc.. Otherwise it'll just be too much. Sending lots of good vibes and hugs your way..."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,452 #18 January 27, 2010 By the way, it's not uncommon that people with early dementia, after getting ALL their medications under control (which means someone besides them makes sure they take it appropriately), can live either independently or in independent senior living (which I really think is a better option) for a long time, as in years. My father's girlfriend was an example of that. A regular schedule and controlled meds makes a huge difference. The difference it makes getting meds under control can be really remarkable. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
