npgraphicdesign 3 #1 September 19, 2009 Two of my friends just started dating, and it's an interesting contrast in character between the two. He's more street-smart, very logical/methodical, can make/fix/repair almost anything, loves more physical activities such as hiking, various indoor/outdoor sports, etc. She is more book-smart, has an IQ bordering on 200 (yes she tested it more than a number of times), but somewhat clueless in daily life situations, doesn't play any sports, and her only physical activity is walking daily for a few miles. She loves reading, and reads anything and everything about topics spanning many categories and genres. He rarely picks up a book, save for an occasional fiction book or magazine related to cars/music. Yet, they make a perfect couple and are disgustingly into each other. I've never seen a couple where is each partner is almost a complete opposite of each other... So here's my question. In your relationship...is one of you more book-smart, and one more street-smart? Does that difference in 'smarts' contribute to various partners having different interests, hobbies, and/or passions in daily life & careers? How do you deal with certain 'smarts' differences between two partners, and does it affect you at all? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #2 September 19, 2009 This doesn't sound odd to me at all. I prefer to date someone who is very different from me - would also prefer him to be more intelligent than me (not too hard ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #3 September 19, 2009 She's an airline Captain, speaks 5 languages, runs 6 to 8 marathons a year all over the world...I drink, smoke & skydive...She can't be all THAT smart, been with me for 18 years! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lippy 918 #4 September 19, 2009 I'd say I am, but that's only because she's not on these forums I got nuthin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpingjunkie09 0 #5 September 19, 2009 Im single, so I guess Im the smarter one and the dumber one! I am "ROGUE" (III Degree Smutsketeer) Official "poster above you" thread starter "And don't forget we like men with balls and no needle dicks. So, basically, you're out." ~LuckyMcSwervy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AviationTD 0 #6 September 19, 2009 My girlfriend is definitely a street-smart. She can survive street any day without money. Any yet, she is struggling to get good grades in school. She absolutely avoid risks at all cost and would get sick over things that you wouldn't think of. On the other hand, I am more of book-smart and adventurous person. I have a masters' degree. I am a recreational pilot; ride motorcycle; and plan to take up skydiving (currently saving up money for full training plus extra in case I fail at some levels). That's a general view of us, but you can see that we are completely opposite of each other. To answer your questions, we both acknowledge the differences in term of "smarts" and we accept each other for who we are. We get benefits from each other. I helped her with school sometime ( Don't tell me how I do that, but I do get a very nice reward afterward ) She helped me with her street skills (Don't tell me how, but I could talk my way out for things without paying these ridiculous fees.) I won't lie to you about this. We do fight sometimes over stupid or tiny things. But, at the end of the day, we just can't get rid of each other. We have a very strong moral ground and we trust each other without a question. She is my best friend and I am her best friend as well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #7 September 19, 2009 I don't think that situation is too very uncommon. My situation - I'm more educated. You could probably describe that as "book smart," but it doesn't mean that I don't have the ability to apply that knowledge or have common sense. He's more mechanically minded. I am often amazed by what he "sees" when he looks at a chunk of 4140 steel . . . not quite like Tony Starks - but only cuz he doesn't have the cool suit of armor. . . . yet. I don't think either is "smarter," although neither of us have technically been tested. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #8 September 19, 2009 Her-Masters plus, licensed therapist, occasionally teaches college courses, Me-High School barely with the assistance of summer school, flies around North/South America taking people to bars. Draw your own conclusionsYou are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mutumbo 0 #9 September 19, 2009 QuoteHer-Masters plus, licensed therapist, occasionally teaches college courses, Me-High School barely with the assistance of summer school, flies around North/South America taking people to bars. Draw your own conclusions she may be "smarter" but you sound like you have more fun :)Thanatos340(on landing rounds)-- Landing procedure: Hand all the way up, Feet and Knees Together and PLF soon as you get bitch slapped by a planet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #10 September 19, 2009 Quote Her-Masters plus, licensed therapist, occasionally teaches college courses, Me-High School barely with the assistance of summer school, flies around North/South America taking people to bars. Draw your own conclusions She must also be damn near BLIND! BTW...yer outta beer again! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
micduran 0 #11 September 19, 2009 Quote Im single, so I guess Im the smarter one and the dumber one! same here Be patient with the faults of others; they have to be patient with yours. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #12 September 19, 2009 Him-government employee Her-jumpsuit manufacturer Daughter-Computer programmer for Havard's laser lab Hmm, I think it just skipped a generation in our family. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #13 September 19, 2009 My sister is smarter.....LMAO!!if you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #14 September 19, 2009 Quote My sister is smarter.....LMAO!! No wonder your family tree looks like a phone pole! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #15 September 19, 2009 looks like a phone pole..LMAO That's what she saidif you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #16 September 19, 2009 My best answer is in relation to the guy I was with for 5-ish years.. We were pretty well matched. Both had similar street-vs-book smarts.. Although I performed slightly better academically, whereas he had slightly better people skills. I don't think things work out if you don't have similar levels of intelligence - even if they are in different fields.."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #17 September 19, 2009 Quote My best answer is in relation to the guy I was with for 5-ish years.. We were pretty well matched. Both had similar street-vs-book smarts.. Although I performed slightly better academically, whereas he had slightly better people skills. I don't think things work out if you don't have similar levels of intelligence - even if they are in different fields.. You don't have good people skills? I don't believe that... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #18 September 19, 2009 Quote Quote My best answer is in relation to the guy I was with for 5-ish years.. We were pretty well matched. Both had similar street-vs-book smarts.. Although I performed slightly better academically, whereas he had slightly better people skills. I don't think things work out if you don't have similar levels of intelligence - even if they are in different fields.. You don't have good people skills? I don't believe that... Yeah.. I'm a bit too honest "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jcd11235 0 #19 September 19, 2009 Quote Yeah.. I'm a bit too honest I can relate.Math tutoring available. Only $6! per hour! First lesson: Factorials! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #20 September 19, 2009 Quote Quote Yeah.. I'm a bit too honest I can relate. To which part? Being honest or having no people skills? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #21 September 19, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Yeah.. I'm a bit too honest I can relate. To which part? Being honest or having no people skills? Oi!!! I *do* have people skills - it just so happens that my ex has *better* social skills! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jcd11235 0 #22 September 19, 2009 QuoteQuoteQuoteYeah.. I'm a bit too honest. I can relate. To which part? Being honest or having no people skills? The two are often highly correlated.Math tutoring available. Only $6! per hour! First lesson: Factorials! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #23 September 19, 2009 QuoteQuoteQuoteQuoteYeah.. I'm a bit too honest. I can relate. To which part? Being honest or having no people skills? The two are often highly correlated. nah....people with people skills just know when to stfu.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jcd11235 0 #24 September 19, 2009 QuoteQuoteQuoteQuoteQuoteYeah.. I'm a bit too honest. I can relate. To which part? Being honest or having no people skills? The two are often highly correlated. nah....people with people skills just know when to stfu. I would argue that, in practice, honesty is not as highly regarded in our society as it is in theory. Many of the values we claim to hold in high regard in our society are often looked down upon in practice. Heller said it well: [Major Major] was polite to his elders, who disliked him. Whatever his elders told him to do, he did. They told him to look before he leaped, and he always looked before he leaped. They told him never to put off until the next day what he could do the day before, and he never did. He was told to honor his father and his mother, and he honored his father and his mother. He was told that he should not kill, and he did not kill, until he got into the Army. Then he was told to kill, and he killed. He turned the other cheek on every occasion and always did unto others exactly as he would have had others do unto him. When he gave to charity, his left hand never knew what his right hand was doing. He never once took the name of the Lord his God in vain, committed adultery or coveted his neighbor's ass. In fact, he loved his neighbor and never even bore false witness against him. Major Major's elders disliked him because he was such a flagrant nonconformist.Math tutoring available. Only $6! per hour! First lesson: Factorials! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #25 September 19, 2009 QuoteI would argue that, in practice, honest is not as highly regarded in our society as it is in theory. Many of the values we claim to hold in high regard in our society are often looked down upon in practice. That hasn't been my experience. I think this topic deserves its own thread.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
