tigra 0 #26 July 28, 2009 Quote That's an easy one.....the one with the mostest....Actually it should be split aka Going Dutch. These are modern times when woman are equals to men, treat them as such until you find out otherwise.... some people might be offended that you pay for everything but might not know how to tell you that, especially if they really are into you.... If a man asked me out to dinner and expected me to pay half when the bill came- I would pay for my meal, even if we went someplace I couldn't really afford. I'd be shocked and taken aback and I wouldn't go out with him again. That's rude. Don't ask someone out if you can't afford it! Going "Dutch" can work when you are already in a relationship or maybe when you are poor broke students and you know its "Dutch" long before the check arrives. For normal "dating" - not so much! If I ask, I pay. If he asks, he pays. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #27 July 28, 2009 Quote That's an easy one.....the one with the mostest....Actually it should be split aka Going Dutch. These are modern times when woman are equals to men, treat them as such until you find out otherwise.... some people might be offended that you pay for everything but might not know how to tell you that, especially if they really are into you.... If a guy asks me out that means he wants to treat me to a night out with him. In order for me to go out I have to pay for child care which can be 20-60 (wk night) and 40-100 on a (wknd) based on if it is a friends daughter or a service. No matter what I am still paying to go out that night. Most guys only think of it as they are paying every time but they are not taking into consideration if the female has children. Again, I do try to pick the tab up when I go out. One main reason I dont date much is due to the cost of child care.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #28 July 28, 2009 I've been out of the game for a while, but if I'm asking someone out, I;m assuming I'll pay for the meal date. If my date offers to take the tab, or pay 1/2, that would be fine by me. But if over the course of dating, I'm always paying for everything, that would be a red flag.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #29 July 28, 2009 QuoteI've been out of the game for a while, but if I'm asking someone out, I;m assuming I'll pay for the meal date. If my date offers to take the tab, or pay 1/2, that would be fine by me. But if over the course of dating, I'm always paying for everything, that would be a red flag. Exactly! No one should pay for everything. If you are dating and have been then it should be an equal partnership. I certainly dont expect someone to pay for everything.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airathanas 0 #30 July 28, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and we split every expense down the middle. He has his money, and I have mine. It does not matter who makes more money than who- you pay for your half, that is your responsibilty. It doesn't matter if it is movie tickets or the rent. At the grocery store we do 2 transcations. For the rent, we each get a money order for our portion. It has been like this from day one, and it will always be like this for us. I won't have it any other way.http://3ringnecklace.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #31 July 28, 2009 Wow!!! Quite few women stuck in the 19th century ... of all places, I wouldn't expect to find it here; skydivers are not as progresssive of a group as one would think ... meh . O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #32 July 28, 2009 Quote My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and we split every expense down the middle. He has his money, and I have mine. It does not matter who makes more money than who- you pay for your half, that is your responsibilty. It doesn't matter if it is movie tickets or the rent. At the grocery store we do 2 transcations. For the rent, we each get a money order for our portion. It has been like this from day one, and it will always be like this for us. I won't have it any other way. Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!! O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,063 #33 July 28, 2009 >When dating...who pays? Whoever is fastest getting to the bill. Simple! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #34 July 28, 2009 Quote Quote My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and we split every expense down the middle. He has his money, and I have mine. It does not matter who makes more money than who- you pay for your half, that is your responsibilty. It doesn't matter if it is movie tickets or the rent. At the grocery store we do 2 transcations. For the rent, we each get a money order for our portion. It has been like this from day one, and it will always be like this for us. I won't have it any other way. Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!! O So you are saying that every other female that has post to this thread has no dignity? TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
iambeav2 0 #35 July 28, 2009 I've got a little game I play w/ my S.O. I normally always pay b/c I'm better off financially than she is and it doesn't bother me one bit...but when we're both hungry or she's hungry, I can't ever decide where to eat. I always tell her, if she makes me choose the place to dine, she's buying...and visa versa. Therefore, I'll just fork out the dough and don't have to pick where to eat....it's not the fact that you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone...it's the fact that you don't appreciate what you have until someone appreciates it for you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rivetgeek 0 #36 July 28, 2009 I tend to pay for far more than half of the dates my girl and I go on, but it's NOT because she expects it, in fact, more often than not she protests. I try to insist on paying for expensive meals like when we go out for sushi (our bill can hit $200) because I make around double what she does and I'd rather have her contribute by maybe picking up a movie or something instead of being broke all week cause i was jonesing for sashimi.~Bones Knit, blood clots, glory is forever, and chicks dig scars.~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrapeta 0 #37 July 28, 2009 Quote i think women should pay; they're the ones that get the "tip" at the end of the night.. If your gonna be dumb ya gotta be tough. Your mom goes HandHeld Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #38 July 28, 2009 Quote That's an easy one.....the one with the mostest.... Quote So ... how do you know who is the one "with the mostest"? Bring a pay stub and show it to the other before the bill arrives? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #39 July 28, 2009 Quote Quote That's an easy one.....the one with the mostest.... Quote So ... how do you know who is the one "with the mostest"? Bring a pay stub and show it to the other before the bill arrives? O I always run a credit and background check before a date. Best way to find out if she's worthy.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #40 July 28, 2009 QuoteIf a guy asks me out that means he wants to treat me to a night out with him ... Really? I thought it is more like ... lets spend some time together, share some food and conversation ... and see if we like each other ... I was never good at this dating bullshit and I haven't done much of it ... so I could be completely wrong in my assumptions ... Guys? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #41 July 28, 2009 Quote Quote My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and we split every expense down the middle. He has his money, and I have mine. It does not matter who makes more money than who- you pay for your half, that is your responsibilty. It doesn't matter if it is movie tickets or the rent. At the grocery store we do 2 transcations. For the rent, we each get a money order for our portion. It has been like this from day one, and it will always be like this for us. I won't have it any other way. Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!! O REALLY? That's how you define dignity? If it works for her, great, but I really wouldn't want to turn my love life into a balance sheet. Splitting every single bill down the middle, saving receipts, keeping track of every single penny spent by each person? What exactly is dignified about that? What is undignified about accepting a dinner date and allowing the person who asked you to pay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,063 #42 July 28, 2009 >Splitting every single bill down the middle, saving receipts, keeping >track of every single penny spent by each person? What exactly is >dignified about that? Or just alternating. He pays one night, you pay the next. > What is undignified about accepting a dinner date and allowing > the person who asked you to pay? Nothing. Although _expecting_ someone to pay for you is a bit undignified. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 845 #43 July 28, 2009 Like everything else, it should be give and take. At least until it becomes a "relationship". I like paying, splitting the cost, taking turns whatever. If someone isn't pulling their part it tends to show in other ways was well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #44 July 28, 2009 Quote Wow ... people really do think this is a "dangerous" subject ... Considering this is a skydiving forum, lots of wimps (i.e. pussies ) on here ... O I'd rather fight a double mal than most women anyday. Generally way more predictable and there's a definite endpoint. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #45 July 28, 2009 Quote>Splitting every single bill down the middle, saving receipts, keeping >track of every single penny spent by each person? What exactly is >dignified about that? Or just alternating. He pays one night, you pay the next. > What is undignified about accepting a dinner date and allowing > the person who asked you to pay? Nothing. Although _expecting_ someone to pay for you is a bit undignified. Thank you! I knew exactly where this will be going just as I made my first post - I'll be getting lots of "love" from the ladies ... Women don’t want to hear the truth on this one. We advocate equality and bitch that as a society we’re making little or no progress in that direction. At the same time, when it suits us, we want to be treated as helpless prized possessions that need to be taken care of. Well … we can’t have it both ways ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #46 July 28, 2009 Quote Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!! Man, that's harsh. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #47 July 28, 2009 QuoteI knew exactly where this will be going just as I made my first post - I'll be getting lots of "love" from the ladies ... Women don’t want to hear the truth on this one. We advocate equality and bitch that as a society we’re making little or no progress in that direction. At the same time, when it suits us, we want to be treated as helpless prized possessions that need to be taken care of. Well … we can’t have it both ways ... O This isn't my understanding or feeling at all.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #48 July 28, 2009 Quote Quote Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!! Man, that's harsh. Oh no ... I'm not going to get banned now ... am I? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #49 July 28, 2009 Quote>Splitting every single bill down the middle, saving receipts, keeping >track of every single penny spent by each person? What exactly is >dignified about that? Or just alternating. He pays one night, you pay the next. > What is undignified about accepting a dinner date and allowing > the person who asked you to pay? Nothing. Although _expecting_ someone to pay for you is a bit undignified. I'm in favor of alternating and paying my share, I'm in favor of being financially responsible as a couple, not over extending or going out for meals you can't really afford. But I don't think I could live with a running tally of who is paying for what, down to the penny. I think that's a very interesting definition of "dignity" too. And seriously? Expecting the person who asked me out on a date to pay is not undignified, not at all. Continuing to date that person and never offering to pay, or even saying "Thank You" is. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #50 July 28, 2009 I thought you were taking a break from all this nonsense. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
