eeneR 3 #1 June 23, 2009 First, no its not me. I would never go there and if it seemed eminent I would switch jobs or something to stop it from being. I know there are some exceptions to the rule but here is the scenerio: It is a medium sized company, he is dating his direct boss. It is obvious they are trying to keep it quiet but it isn't happening cause I can see it plain as day, the sneaking around etc. I also notice that the bigger manager seems to have a clue too. The biggest problem of all, I clearly see favoritism. I find this a professional issue, I clearly see a lack of maturity on her part. But I just cant help thinking he is a moron for going along with it too! What is everyone's opinion on this?She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #2 June 23, 2009 Will you get a promotion? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #3 June 23, 2009 woman have been doing it for centuries, now if a man makes himself a whore, its a no-go of course.. “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #4 June 23, 2009 Quote woman have been doing it for centuries, now if a man makes himself a whore, its a no-go of course.. +1! Really! I mean really! But is she cute? If she is cute then it's ok! If she isn't......well he's just using her which isn't ok. But either way can we say NOOOOONNNNNEEEERRRR! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #5 June 23, 2009 Check for broken finger nails and scratch marks on the desk.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #6 June 23, 2009 QuoteFirst, no its not me. I would never go there and if it seemed eminent I would switch jobs or something to stop it from being. I know there are some exceptions to the rule but here is the scenerio: It is a medium sized company, he is dating his direct boss. It is obvious they are trying to keep it quiet but it isn't happening cause I can see it plain as day, the sneaking around etc. I also notice that the bigger manager seems to have a clue too. The biggest problem of all, I clearly see favoritism. I find this a professional issue, I clearly see a lack of maturity on her part. But I just cant help thinking he is a moron for going along with it too! What is everyone's opinion on this? I voted 'not a good idea' since your OP very well may be true, but also is the classic example of what people will say behind the couple's back. (not accusing you of prejudice) No matter if the person who dates their boss merits a promotion or a raise, everyone else will think it's favouritism."That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #7 June 23, 2009 Nope, I do not work for this company, in fact I am client of this company. I have become friends with this person, but am having issues on a professional level with this. If anyone is going to get fucked in this deal it will probably be him.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #8 June 23, 2009 QuoteI voted 'not a good idea' since your OP very well may be true, but also is the classic example of what people will say behind the couple's back. (not accusing you of prejudice) No matter if the person who dates their boss merits a promotion or a raise, everyone else will think it's favoritism. You make two very valid points I agree with here. I wouldn't really mind so much if I didn't see her giving him a large portion of the incoming business. There is a decent amount of favoritism going on here. What the other employees are saying I don't know. What I do know is what I see from a professional standpoint. My though is if there wasn't a problem with it then they wouldn't be sneaking around. Nor would there be a problem if there was no favoritism. I have invested a bit of money with this company, I like the rep I deal with (him) really don't want to see anything bad happen to him being stupid. Really don't want to have to get a new rep to deal with either! Just curious if I am being to "old fashioned" with my thoughts on the subject. :)She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #9 June 23, 2009 Quote ... If anyone is going to get fucked in this deal it will probably be him. uhm, dare i say i hope he is!? “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SARLDO 0 #10 June 23, 2009 Quote The biggest problem of all, I clearly see favoritism. And here we have the problem. Whether actual or perceived, this is fraternization. The relationship must end or one of the parties in question must be reassigned. If allowed to continue, the business is in jeopardy of legal action should another employee be denied a promotion, raise, or vacation etc. and persues it. Of course, if she's hot then it's OK, but only for a little while "Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the rest" ~Samuel Clemens MB#4300 Dudeist Skydiver #68 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #11 June 23, 2009 Quote Quote woman have been doing it for centuries, now if a man makes himself a whore, its a no-go of course.. +1! Really! I mean really! But is she cute does she have hooters of enormous size? If she is cute does then it's ok! If she is doesn't......well he's just using her which isn't ok. But either way can we say NOOOOONNNNNEEEERRRR! I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrwrong 0 #12 June 23, 2009 I voted "What are you fucking stupid?".... Nothing good ever comes out of this kind of relationships... Personal and private life should at all times be kept seperate... I had to learn the HARD way! [Edit to add]TWICE (only shows that I'm a slow learner) So trust me on this one!! It will save you a lot of problems. “The sum of intelligence on the planet is a constant; the population is growing.” - George Bernard Shaw He who dies with the most toys, wins..... dudeist skydiver # 19515 Buy quality and cry once! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #13 June 23, 2009 This has bad news written all over it. Sure, things may be going well now but if she breaks up with him at some point and he wants revenge, she's opening herself wide open for a sexual harrassment suit.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #14 June 23, 2009 Most companies have a policy against dating within one's chain of command (up or down). This is a BAD idea, no matter if you are a man or a woman. As for all those sexist comments comming from the men here ... I had hopped that skydivers are a more enlightened group - you know ... "your mind is like a parachute - it only works when it's open" kind of thing? Well, I guess not ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #15 June 23, 2009 QuoteIt will save you a lot of problems. Won't save me any problems....but them yes. I am looking at this from a friend perspective and from a professional prospective as i deal with this person on both levels. Part of me wants to sit him down and let him know he is a moron! LOL He is young, course so is she and it shows on her side big time.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #16 June 23, 2009 I only mean this in the least offensive way but, have you MET any male skydivers?!? Enlightened.......yeah right What you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #17 June 23, 2009 Quote This has bad news written all over it. Sure, things may be going well now but if she breaks up with him at some point and he wants revenge, she's opening herself wide open for a sexual harassment suit. Yea and if he dumps her...he is too fucked She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #18 June 23, 2009 lighten up, francis! “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #19 June 23, 2009 Quote Quote The biggest problem of all, I clearly see favoritism. And here we have the problem. Whether actual or perceived, this is fraternization. The relationship must end or one of the parties in question must be reassigned. If allowed to continue, the business is in jeopardy of legal action should another employee be denied a promotion, raise, or vacation etc. and persues it. Agreed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #20 June 23, 2009 Quote I only mean this in the least offensive way but, have you MET any male skydivers?!? Enlightened.......yeah right Like I said, I guess not!!! O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jceman 1 #21 June 23, 2009 You ought to take the boy into a secluded corner and then ask him "WTF is WRONG with you?" This is not a situation which has any upside to it whatever -- like others have said, even if they should continue on in their relationship and go open with it, make it permanent, etc. the seeds are there for major issues for the company down the line. Favoritism, whether real or only perceived, is a can of worms those two don't need to be opening; and if her boss even suspects, the only solution is a bigger can; if they're not careful, what will be canned is the two of them. Faster horses, younger women, older whiskey, more money. Why do they call it "Tourist Season" if we can't shoot them? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #22 June 23, 2009 AHEM Quote I only mean this in the least offensive way but, have you MET any male skydivers?!? Enlightened.......yeah right fixed it for you.."That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #23 June 23, 2009 Agreed. What you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #24 June 23, 2009 Quote As for all those sexist comments comming from the men here ... I had hopped that skydivers are a more enlightened group - you know ... "your mind is like a parachute - it only works when it's open" kind of thing? Well, I guess not ... O I have been on the forums long enough to giggle at them and take them at face value. Someone always has to make a snide remark. Hell sometimes it is me! LOL. For the record, they are both good looking. However I am tired of watching his leg get peed on by her every time I am in their office Good god I am a paying client! LOLShe is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #25 June 23, 2009 QuoteThis has bad news written all over it. Sure, things may be going well now but if she breaks up with him at some point and he wants revenge, she's opening herself wide open for a sexual harrassment suit. At the risk of being O's sexist, closed-minded idiot, I think that the likelihood of HIM suing successfully is slim to none. Sexual harassment litigation is a woman's playground. Any court will tell you so....I think...probably.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
