eeneR 3 #26 June 23, 2009 Quote At the risk of being O's sexist, closed-minded idiot, I think that the likelihood of HIM suing successfully is slim to none. Sexual harassment litigation is a woman's playground. Any court will tell you so....I think...probably. Though to an extent I agree with you, I think the problem is going to come from the other subordinates getting pushed aside because she is playing favorites with him. From what I see of her, if he were to dump her she would end up doing something stupid to get herself in trouble anyway. I see WAY too much immaturity in her.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #27 June 23, 2009 >If anyone is going to get fucked in this deal it will probably be him. Nah Nah DATING the boss is fine.......FUCKNG the boss, not so much cuz this is what the defense will be... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBeiKpAGXzc&feature=relatedBeware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #28 June 23, 2009 QuoteFirst, no its not me. Oh thank GOD! I saw the screen name and the title and wondered who had hacked your account! I'd say give 'em some rope, sit back and watch the drama play out. 1. Invite them both out to a business dinner and then excuse yourself with an emergency of some sort. 2. Drop subtle hints to one about how the other is a top-notch cookie. 3. Offer one of them a weekend-for-two at a fancy hotel/resort. (Oh, this is a good one!) The only problem with the drama is that we know the ending already. Oh, to answer your question...yes...it's a very BAD idea to mix work and play. I would say that it would be best for you to stay out of it and not get involved in any way. You don't want to be near when the shit hits the fan.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #29 June 23, 2009 I'm not impressed with the employer for allowing this crap to continue. Wher there's smoke there's fire, there's other crap going on that your unaware of.One Jump Wonder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #30 June 23, 2009 QuoteQuoteThis has bad news written all over it. Sure, things may be going well now but if she breaks up with him at some point and he wants revenge, she's opening herself wide open for a sexual harrassment suit. At the risk of being O's sexist, closed-minded idiot, I think that the likelihood of HIM suing successfully is slim to none. Sexual harassment litigation is a woman's playground. Any court will tell you so....I think...probably. That would be incorrect. Being a manager with 15 employees, just recently I had to go thorough “sexual harassment prevention training”. Claims are to be taken seriously, regardless if they come from a man or from a woman. The role reversal thing was discussed in particular, probably because what you mention here is a common misconception. If anything, men are far less likely to report sexual harassment (by a woman). This is a power game … and men don’t like to put themselves into the position of admitting being “overpowered” by a woman. O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonstark 8 #31 June 23, 2009 Don't get your meat where you make your bread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmills0705 0 #32 June 23, 2009 I don't think dating a co-worker is a good idea - boss even worse... The success rate of a relationship is relatively low... eventually it will get ugly and guess who will be the one without a job?!Kim Mills USPA D21696 Tandem I, AFF I and Static Line I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #33 June 23, 2009 Quote Don't get your meat where you make your bread. haha! I am a fan of don't dip the pen in the company ink She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #34 June 23, 2009 Quote lighten up, francis! Make me ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #35 June 23, 2009 >I am a fan of don't dip the pen in the company ink see also- There is no I in Team....but there is an I in Fucking. unless I try to spell it Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #36 June 23, 2009 Quote Check for broken finger nails and scratch marks on the desk.... And lock the deak drawers if condoms are kept there... co-workers looking for "something" may stumble across them... Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #37 June 23, 2009 QuoteI would say that it would be best for you to stay out of it and not get involved in any way. You don't want to be near when the shit hits the fan. Worth repeating. Renee, stay away from it and the drama it will cause you. Sometimes it's just best to look the other way.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
topdocker 0 #38 June 23, 2009 It's none of your business what happens to this guy. You have no say in how the company that you don't work for is run. Yes, you could sit down and "counsel" him, but that will just alert him to the fact that you know, and if they are trying to keep it on the downlow, not doing business with you in the future is the easiest solution. Maybe he was hired after they started having a relationship, maybe they are just covering for his inept abilities, who knows? Mostly, if you want to be professional, then you have to maintain your distance and not get involved. Act shocked when one is fired/demoted/moved. It shows to those around you that you do not want to be involved in any unprofessional drama and you wont have your anchor tied to a sinking ship. topJump more, post less! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lippy 918 #39 June 23, 2009 A buddy of mine lost his job at a deli last week. He said they fired him because he stuck his dick in the pickle slicer................... ....................Apparently the pickle slicer was fired too I got nuthin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,078 #40 June 23, 2009 >I think that the likelihood of HIM suing successfully is slim to none. I was on the jury for such a case. The guy won, so it's definitely possible. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #41 June 23, 2009 Quote Quote Check for broken finger nails and scratch marks on the desk.... And lock the deak drawers if condoms are kept there... co-workers looking for "something" may stumble across them... We kept a stockpile of condoms, lube, adult depends, bible etc in our desk as a work place survial kit.Eventually the bosses started excludeing us from mtgs. That was a good thingEarly retirement? Thank you very muchOne Jump Wonder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #42 June 23, 2009 Pissing in the company pool is NEVER a good idea...just sayin.Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
banesanura 1 #43 June 23, 2009 Oooh I dipping my pen in company's ink.Best Girl Scout Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,078 #44 June 23, 2009 >I'd say give 'em some rope, sit back and watch the drama play out. Good idea with the rope. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #45 June 23, 2009 Quote>I'd say give 'em some rope, sit back and watch the drama play out. Good idea with the rope. As in give them some rope, so they can hang themselves with it? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #46 June 23, 2009 I don't believe that you should have a relationship with someone that you work with, no matter what the capacities of the participants. With that being said though....it's been done forever. And probably will continue forever. You spend more time with folks you work with than anyone else. You get to know them and it's often difficult not to get attached. I agree with the folks here who have said that you should stay out of it. If they're legally consenting adults, you will undoubtedly only jeopardize your business with him. If they are truly in some sort of relationship, he will undoubtedly tell her anything that you say to him. It could be uncomfortable for you to run into either of them. And if/when the relationship ceases, no matter who causes it, he might feel uncomfortable being around you, for fear that you might say, "I told you so."Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #48 June 23, 2009 Hello Renee, I know that you are referring to a specific case, but sadly, this happens just about everywhere. That said, I still feel that dating the boss is not a good idea at all. I cannot imagine feeling good about one's achievements if one had to resort to sleeping with the boss, corporate heads, co-workers or clients in order to do well at work. Personally, I have not and would not have a romantic/sexual relationship with anyone from within the corporation where I might be working, nor with any of the clients, nor with anyone that could help my career. My goals at work have always been to get ahead on MY own hard work and personal achievements. Having professional work relationships is one thing, but sleeping with the boss to get ahead is completely unprofessional and unethical. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #49 June 23, 2009 QuoteI find this a professional issue I don't find anything wrong with a person (male or female) who is dating a superior (male or female.) On the other hand, I have LARGE problems with a superior dating a subordinate. It is wholly unprofessional and dangerous from a liability standpoint. I don't blame subordinates. I blame the superiors. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #50 June 23, 2009 QuoteQuoteI find this a professional issue I don't find anything wrong with a person (male or female) who is dating a superior (male or female.) On the other hand, I have LARGE problems with a superior dating a subordinate. It is wholly unprofessional and dangerous from a liability standpoint. I don't blame subordinates. I blame the superiors. You blame them because the subs are more genuine? Or because they are younger and don't know better? I blame the women - because they are evil.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
