guppie01 0 #1 April 16, 2009 THIS IS NOT A SEX POLL I was sitting here reflecting on certain people and myself. I am more inclined to give vs take. It's very difficult for me to accept anything from anyone. I know a few other people who are very similar (not naming names), but feel that there are more takers in this world than givers. So I'm reaching out to our all knowing Dizzy.com peeps for the truth! xoxo g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #2 April 16, 2009 All sex jokes aside, I am a compulsive giver. Most of the time I think I receive more satisaction from giving than the receiver. (BTW, you know you are in Bonfire when you have to start your thread by saying THIS IS NOT A SEX THREAD) What you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #3 April 16, 2009 I never want anyone to go out of their way to do something for me. I am the first to make someone elses life a bit better if I can. It is the little things you do for others that they don't do for themselves that mean the world to them. From a kind or smile word to mowing a lawn just because you have the mower going. Just random things to brighten someones day.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #4 April 16, 2009 I think it depends on what kinds of giving and taking you have in mind. Some people are great givers when it comes to money and possessions, but not so great when they're asked to give of themselves (time, expertise, etc.). Others are just the opposite. I think most people will probably feel that they're "givers," but they may look at it differently than others. I'll gladly share my tunnel time, for example, but because I have no skills at all in the kitchen, I'm a total taker when it comes to cooking. I'm glad to help clean up; I'm even glad to help prepare the meal but I'm really lost with a stove.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #5 April 16, 2009 Very much depends on my Mood. I am generally the one reaching to pick up the tab, I never show up anywhere empty handed, I generally go out of my way to share whatever I have with people. Then other times, People show up expecting me to take care of them and I get pretty pissed about it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #6 April 16, 2009 Quote I think it depends on what kinds of giving and taking you have in mind. Some people are great givers when it comes to money and possessions, but not so great when they're asked to give of themselves (time, expertise, etc.). Others are just the opposite. I think most people will probably feel that they're "givers," but they may look at it differently than others. I'll gladly share my tunnel time, for example, but because I have no skills at all in the kitchen, I'm a total taker when it comes to cooking. I'm glad to help clean up; I'm even glad to help prepare the meal but I'm really lost with a stove. So true... When I was younger I would say that I was too much of a giver of myself, and monetarily... however I gave too much and ended up an emotional wreck (money is just money). I'm just learning how to have a healthy balance of the two... g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #7 April 16, 2009 Quote Very much depends on my Mood. I am generally the one reaching to pick up the tab, I never show up anywhere empty handed, I generally go out of my way to share whatever I have with people. Then other times, People show up expecting me to take care of them and I get pretty pissed about it. The only thing I expect from you is a big `ol HUG! I do agree, you are pretty fucking fantastic, and it's a shame that others take advantage of that!!! xoxo g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #8 April 16, 2009 Quote Most of the time I think I receive more satisaction from giving than the receiver. I know how you feel! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #9 April 16, 2009 You are a dear heart!!! THANKS!!!! g "Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #10 April 16, 2009 I am definitely more of a giver. I think this is what ultimately led me a career in emergency medicine. I absolutely love doing for others, whether it is a simple deed, remembering their bday or buying a gift, I get true pleasure from these acts. On the flip side however, receiving often makes me very uncomfortable. I usually don't know how to properly thank someone and am often still wondering, if I thanked them enough for whatever was done. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
poolmarty 0 #11 April 16, 2009 I think most people see themselves as givers. I don't think takers always think that they are takers and generally put a high value on what they do give, so they still feel like a giver. I've seen a lot of people get some major drama with that mind set. [edit] to add I beleive I am both. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #12 April 16, 2009 He who gives, has everything. He who grasps, has nothing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #13 April 16, 2009 For me this is a hard one.. In some respects, I'm definitely a giver.. For money, for instance, I *hate* under-paying and am forever over-contributing... When it comes to some things, I find it difficult to share.. I'm very independent, and I'm unnaturally possessive of my "stuff", whereas I'm quite happy to borrow other people's things, provided of course they are happy to share. Happy to cook, but not happy to clean, etc., etc.. So on balance, I think I like to give the things that I have no attachment to and I have no problem taking from people who are happy to give.. That being said.. I just *love* someone who is appreciative, and in this case, am happy to give even stuff that pains me!! I think instinctively, I don't give a lot and I don't take much either. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #14 April 16, 2009 I think it depends on the situation, but I also have an issue with the semantics of the question, given that "take" has a negative connotation in my book. I like to give, and think I'm usually good in that department. I like to receive, and from some people I get much. I suspect in most cases, these balance out. I dislike it when people just take from others (especially from me), and yet that's all some seem to ever do. I hope to never be one of those people to someone else. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #15 April 16, 2009 I'm a giver. It brings me joy. Receving is hard, but I know it makes the giver feel good too. Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madhatter 0 #16 April 16, 2009 Well put A VERY MERRY UNBIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! D.S # 125 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brains 2 #17 April 17, 2009 Quote Very much depends on my Mood. I am generally the one reaching to pick up the tab, I never show up anywhere empty handed, I generally go out of my way to share whatever I have with people. Then other times, People show up expecting me to take care of them and I get pretty pissed about it. I am with J on this one, in fact i think he and i have argued over who goes to get the free beer for the other at skyfestI have also been know to fly people across the country for visits when they need cheering up. I also have a habit of buying my employees lunch every once in a while for no reason what so ever. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #18 April 17, 2009 I feel I'm more a giver but I voted balanced as that's prolly what it is. I don't mind giving but also don't want to be taken for granted.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 221 #19 April 17, 2009 I'm a taker - I take your everlasting soul! Ask J - He's seen me in action.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #20 April 17, 2009 Quote I'm a taker - I take your everlasting soul! Ask J - He's seen me in action. yeah.... not gonna argue on that!!! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
