PeregrineFalcon 0 #1 November 27, 2008 First of all, I'll tell you that my kids LOVE my sister's kids. However, on several occasions, she has made them cry by canceling at the last minute. We tell them they'll be seeing their cousins, they get excited, the bitch of a sister cancels because she "doesn't feel like driving" or doesn't "feel like having guests" or some other bullshit and my kids cry. So, I stopped interacting with her all together. This year, she invites the whole family to Thanksgiving dinner at her place. My mother talks me into accepting. My parents have been letting her stay in a house they own rent free for the last six years because she's a single mom. However, she spends tons of money on weekend get-aways to the wine country in Napa or Marin or whatever. My parents have lost $1600 a month all this time. They told her a few months ago that they can't do it any longer and have to sell the house by March. Today, unfortunately, she got laid off her job. It really sucks. She called me in the morning and cancelled Thanksgiving. I offered to cook the dinner and pay for everything and she hung up. I called back an hour later and offered again to cook the dinner...offered to pay for it...offered her my hotel room for tonight to allow her to relax for tonight. Guaranteed that my father would be mollified in any possible criticism that he might have (got his word on it) and offered her $300 to pay for Christmas presents for her kids. So, Thanksgiving was on, and we got in the car and were on our way. Half way there, my mom calls me, broken-hearted saying that our parents were no longer invited. Oh...and all the food that my mom had already bought? My sister TOOK IT after she said she couldn't come. So, I'm in my sister's town...I made sure that my kids saw their cousins and are sleeping over there. But I couldn't in good conscience stay for Thanksgiving knowing that the food we would be eaten was bought by our parents who were not invited...who paid for a woman in her mid-thirties to live rent free for so many years. Tomorrow morning, I head back home and will have Thanksgiving at my Grandmothers. The extended family is Roman Catholic and by law we have a huge family. So there will still be plenty of people there. But, I'm leaving my sister and her two children at home. I couldn't stand it there any longer. The end. Shit, if you read that whole post, I'm sorry for wasting your time. I just needed to rant. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #2 November 27, 2008 If it's not too far, can you bring the cousins home with you so all of the kids can be together? Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #3 November 27, 2008 I was thinking she belonged in the pregnant and raging bitch thread in the women's forum....is that bad? Sorry, I just think that is really wrong. It just seems odd to me to invite family over and then tell them the day before that you aren't celebrating with them anymore.......again......this is me ranting instead of you...maybe it is the wine but seriously...that is totally fucked up on the day before turkey day! DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PeregrineFalcon 0 #4 November 27, 2008 Yeah, the wine in me is making me rant in other threads too. LOL. I may regret some things I'm saying right now in the other threads. I offered to take the kids elsewhere on several occasions, including this one. No go. Good idea, though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #5 November 27, 2008 Quote Yeah, the wine in me is making me rant in other threads too. LOL. I may regret some things I'm saying right now in the other threads. I offered to take the kids elsewhere on several occasions, including this one. No go. Good idea, though. I seem to be on a roll tonight as well......I can always blame the wine....truth is sometimes things are just down right funkie.There is so many things you can do to make it right....the fact that you try speaks of your characterDPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #6 November 27, 2008 Your sister is a totally spoiled, controlling bitch. She's been using those kids to hold your parents over a barrel. No wonder she's still a single mom. I feel bad for the kids, but not for her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PeregrineFalcon 0 #7 November 27, 2008 Quote Your sister is a totally spoiled, controlling bitch. She's been using those kids to hold your parents over a barrel. No wonder she's still a single mom. I feel bad for the kids, but not for her. Damn, John. You nailed it. On several occasions, she's said that they can't visit their grand kids if they don't do this or that for her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adobelover 0 #8 November 27, 2008 What a bunch of crap...I am so f***ing glad I'm an only child!_________________________________________ Old age ain't no place for sissies! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shermanator 4 #9 November 27, 2008 Tell your parents, that if she does not let them visit their grandkids, they can actually go to court and get visitation rights.CLICK HERE! new blog posted 9/21/08 CSA #720 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rwieder 0 #10 November 27, 2008 QuoteTell your parents, that if she does not let them visit their grandkids, they can actually go to court and get visitation rights. I wouldn't tell her anything, she's liable to conuteract before anything else happens. I have a son that has two children from his first marraige, ( He was in Iraq Participating in Operation Iraqi Freedon, and before he left, he signed his Legal Power Of Attorney ) she fought like a junkyard dog to keep it from happening with her lawyer simply filing continuance after continuance. We prevailed, and i learned a lot of things from that 2 year fiasco. She's a horrible person to my wife and i, when it's my son she's actually mad at. She remains evil, and vindictive to this day. She eased up after several confines in our new County Jail for Contempt Of Court. I guess she doesn't like th yellow color of the walls? She shoule have just made some new friends while she was in the Lee County Justice Center..-Richard- "You're Holding The Rope And I'm Taking The Fall" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ltdiver 3 #11 November 27, 2008 Sounds like you need to have all events at -your- house from now on. If she wants to participate she can make the effort to attend. If not, you and your parents (and kids) aren't emotionally bribed. Kind of like when your kids are throwing a tantrum and you get up and walk out of the room. They want (not need, just want) the attention. When they stop ranting and look up there's no audience! Your kids can keep in contact via phone, e-mail, whatever with their cousins. Then it's -her- kids who will lay the weight on their mom to come to visit -you- and yours. Not the other way around. Anyway, just my .02. I hate when manipulators continue their controlling and find that it works! Stop feeding her!!! ltdiver Don't tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
