skydiverbry 0 #1 November 1, 2008 OK,I really would like some thoughts on how young is too young to be left alone for a few hours during the day or early eve. My fiance has a 15 yr.old,good kid,but she will not go out of the house if he's home.I say he's old enough to take care of himself for 2-4 hours.Opinion from others may help my situation.We have not BEEN ALONE for over a month now HELP-------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallloutboyDAoC 0 #2 November 1, 2008 my parents left me home alone when i was 12 or so, he'd be fine. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #3 November 1, 2008 lol sucks to be you. I'd say don't leave the little fucker alone otherwise he'll touch his naughty bits until he breaks the skin. Or actually you can convince your fiance he'll stay out of trouble if you just hand him a porn mag or dvd prior to leaving. www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbry 0 #4 November 1, 2008 Well,that is what I think. How in the hell do I convince her? All he does is play video games anyway! -------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #5 November 1, 2008 Quote Well,that is what I think. How in the hell do I convince her? All he does is play video games anyway! Well, he's old enough not to play with matches or drown in the bathtub. Fifteen is old enough to be left alone for a couple of hours. It will help teach him responsibility and I'm sure he hates being smothered.Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #6 November 1, 2008 15? And not left alone yet? Holy crap. What's gonna happen when the kid turns 16 and can DRIVE?? Let alone 18 and can legally do whatever the heck he wants. Leave him alone for a few hours, please. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver30960 0 #7 November 1, 2008 No easy answers, it all depends on the kid. Try it once or twice, paint it up as a "here's your chance to earn our trust" kinda thing. If he violates the trust, drop the boom on him. Elvisio "no kids, but for someone incomprehensible reason feel qualified to butt in on this conversation" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_Copland 0 #8 November 1, 2008 15 i was staying out all night with friends, no time to be home. Had too much drinking to do.1338 People aint made of nothin' but water and shit. Until morale improves, the beatings will continue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #9 November 1, 2008 One way you might consider to help ease her into that ability, is to set up servalence camera without his knowledge, and get her to go out a couple times until she realizes that she can trust him, and get her a cell phone so she can call him as many times as it takes to re assure her that he is okay. You asked how do I get her to go along with it-thats my suggestion-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #10 November 1, 2008 A great idea if he wants to catch him touching his naughty bits. AND he will. He's a 15 year old boy for crying out loud.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #11 November 1, 2008 My parents used to let me and my older brother stay home alone when we were 10 and 12, respectively. Dear God, tell her to stop being a helicopter parent and let that boy grow up some!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BIGUN 1,317 #12 November 1, 2008 Aren't there a lot of folks who hire 14 & 15 year-olds to babysit their kids for a few hours, but he's not allowed to babysit himself?Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #13 November 1, 2008 the lady obviously needs to work through this issue. What makes you so sure that he is going to do just that while they are gone? She needs re assurence that she can trust her son. I was merely trying to suggest a way to get er' done. After she is confident leaving him alone, then he can whack himself silly if he wants. What makes you think that he hasnt devised a way to do that in spite of her anyway?-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #14 November 1, 2008 Quote 15 i was staying out all night with friends, no time to be home. Had too much drinking to do. When I was 15, I had to be home before midnight on school nights.Really, most 15 YO are old enough to try trusting for a few hours at a time. Is the kid usually trouble or not? In these days of cell phones, he can certainly call mom if he has trouble or can't find the scotch. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #15 November 1, 2008 Quote the lady obviously needs to work through this issue. What makes you so sure that he is going to do just that while they are gone? She needs re assurence that she can trust her son. I was merely trying to suggest a way to get er' done. After she is confident leaving him alone, then he can whack himself silly if he wants. What makes you think that he hasnt devised away to do that in spite of her anyway?-Caress Oh sure he is rather experienced with himself already. But do the OP and his fiance really want to see it? There is nothing wrong with it but apparently the kid is never left alone so he might just go crazy. Not criticizing your idea. Just saying it's something to consider.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gravitysurfer 0 #16 November 1, 2008 Quote 15 i was staying out all night with friends, no time to be home. Had too much drinking to do. Ditto aloha. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #17 November 1, 2008 I agree that it is something to consider to, However this lady needs to get over this coddling thing very soon, or this kid is going to have to take college courses on "how to live your life and make good choices all by yourself" I have a 17 year old and believe me I know about how things are these days and it is flippen scary, but she needs to get out of this phase and fast. She is choking this kid! Stunting his maturity. Maybe if she saw that she would realize the kid needs some private time so he can GROW UP If it is survey'd atleast she would know WHAT he is doing-EVEN if it is just that. Instead of Wondering herself to death. Sorry Downwardspiral I do not mean any disrespect towards you at all, I am just frusterated that life has come to us mothers thinking we need to be so confining. -Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #18 November 1, 2008 no disrespect taken. I should have added some smilies to my reply to your suggestion because it was suppose to be lighthearted.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #19 November 1, 2008 I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RALFFERS 0 #20 November 1, 2008 If the kid is not a trouble maker than him being left home alone is long overdue. I was 12 when I was left alone....sometimes for a whole day. Didn't consider anything but normal.Dialogue/commentary between Divot, Twardo & myself - "from your first Oshkosh when the three of us were riding to or from one of Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDeere 0 #21 November 1, 2008 QuoteAren't there a lot of folks who hire 14 & 15 year-olds to babysit their kids for a few hours, but he's not allowed to babysit himself? The baby sitter we use is a 15 Year old cerifyed baby sitter.Nothing opens like a Deere! You ignorant fool! Checks are for workers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cari 0 #22 November 1, 2008 15 is old enough unless the kid is a total idiot or delinquent. I'd have been pissed if my parents thought I needed constant supervision at 15. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #23 November 1, 2008 Quote15 i was staying out all night with friends, no time to be home. Had too much drinking to do. I joined the NAVY at 15'n a half. Some of the kids i work with are parents at that ageYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #24 November 2, 2008 Quote One way you might consider to help ease her into that ability, is to set up servalence camera without his knowledge, -Caress That would be a fantasitic way to destroy any trust he might have with her yeah do thatYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #25 November 2, 2008 My kids are 15 & 16 and get left alone for more than a few hours. Hell, they drive themselves to school, and do chores and live life. Tell her to let him grow some for crying out loud. Unless of course he wears a football helmet all the time, says DEE,DEE,DEE, and rides on the short bus Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
