someone went through my phone..what should i do??

[LisaH 0]

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Pipe down whuffo.

No.

Be yourself!
MooOOooOoo

[cocheese 0]

Fine, Then take this shit to the women's forum.

[LisaH 0]

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Fine, Then take this shit to the women's forum then.

Don't open the thread if you don't like what you are reading. Simple.
Be nice.

Be yourself!
MooOOooOoo

[neediforget 0]

cocheese you are a **** ! i ask this forum and get that, what so this is my fault, i asked him to do this to me!!

Not only that cos he did this to me im not suited to skydiving!

OMG, you know what why did i bother coming on here.

[buff 0]

Get out. Leave. Whatever, but if he has a rug that ties his room together, shit on it then leave.

It's called the Hillbilly Hop N Pop dude.
If you're gonna be stupid, you better be tough.
That's fucked up. Watermelons do not grow on trees! ~Skymama

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im kind of agreeing with ya. How do i do this with him always at the same DZ and he is a very popular guy, big name on the DZ.

Go to a different dz.

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Dropping someone cold without giving them reasoning or a chance to explain their actions does no good to anyone and can lead to obsession and stalking.

that made me laugh a little Nice one.



but to the Op, all i have to say is FRIENDS dont invade your privacy, and FRIENDS dont get abusive on you.

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

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im kind of agreeing with ya. How do i do this with him always at the same DZ and he is a very popular guy, big name on the DZ.

Go to a different dz.

Fuck that, dont let some arsewipe drive you away from your DZ. just ignore the fucker, and if asked by anyone why, explain it to them.
Dont offer it up, but if asked dont lie.

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[PLFXpert 0]

I don't think Rosa or Chelle are over-reacting in their responses. Mrwrong, otoh, felt the need for an exclamation point.

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

[ladyskydiver 0]

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Why not just Lojack him and give him a shock if he come within a mile of her.

If this is a trusting friend they may know "nuclear weapons" information about each other. The last thing you want to do is put someone in a situation where they feel the have nothing to lose except as a last ditch effort.

You may not like my response, Bolas. However, having been in a situation where a guy was "nice" and "awesome" and then having had him freak out on me and having to deal with that situation, I'd much rather have the individual completely cut out of one's life than risk the next step.

And, the "trusted friend" is obviously not to be trusted if you've read what the OP has stated and the situation the OP's in.

If you want to take the "slow, gentle" approach, go for it. I for one won't and don't recommend talking to the person and hoping they may possibly change or it was a "one time thing" that they're sorry about, because the "next time" something happens it may be a lot more than a verbal freak out on the OP.

Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.

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I don't necessarily agree with ditching this person immediately, either. Distance the sensitive aspects of your personal life from him? Absolutely. Without a doubt - immediately. I would go so far as to change the locks on my door to keep this person out. Credit card information should not be accessible to anyone not listed on the account...

Immediately pissing someone off who has access to your personal information is never a good idea. never.

Perhaps I'm crazy... But I think many skydivers suffer from some sort of 'disease' or strange behavior or wth you want to call it. We're all a little bit crazy. (I am in no way justifying this person's behavior). Ask why? And let him know if you think you'll be able to trust him again or not. It's just a matter of how far you are willing to go to care for this person. Is he close enough to you to be treated as family?

Before this incident did you consider him one of your best friends? Has this person betrayed your trust before? Why is he being defensive? How long have you known him?

I probably didn't explain this all that well. I have a very close friend of mine who is a bit crazy - not crazy in the way you have described, but he behaves in a manner that most people would think is really off the wall sometimes. I know him well enough to understand it and accept it. And I care enough about him to not ditch him when he does something a bit crazy.

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OMG, is she okay?

[kj126 0]

I think you should throw some really mean make up sex on him, that will teach him a leason.

HA

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Why not just Lojack him and give him a shock if he come within a mile of her.

If this is a trusting friend they may know "nuclear weapons" information about each other. The last thing you want to do is put someone in a situation where they feel the have nothing to lose except as a last ditch effort.

You may not like my response, Bolas. However, having been in a situation where a guy was "nice" and "awesome" and then having had him freak out on me and having to deal with that situation, I'd much rather have the individual completely cut out of one's life than risk the next step.

And, the "trusted friend" is obviously not to be trusted if you've read what the OP has stated and the situation the OP's in.

If you want to take the "slow, gentle" approach, go for it. I for one won't and don't recommend talking to the person and hoping they may possibly change or it was a "one time thing" that they're sorry about, because the "next time" something happens it may be a lot more than a verbal freak out on the OP.

I never said continue like nothing happened. What I'm saying is before immediately going to Defcon 1, give them a chance to explain themselves. However At the same protect yourself so they can't do it or something else again but do not just break off all communication.

Perhaps my comment seemed a little harsh but you seem to be part of the torch and pitchfork mob.

Sorry you had someone suddenly freak on you, but usually that's an escalation thing, not a random thing.

Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting
If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh.

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I dunno...reverse the charges? Maybe he'll come back through.

My reality and yours are quite different.
I think we're all Bozos on this bus.
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I never said continue like nothing happened. What I'm saying is before immediately going to Defcon 1, give them a chance to explain themselves. However At the same protect yourself so they can't do it or something else again but do not just break off all communication.

Perhaps my comment seemed a little harsh but you seem to be part of the torch and pitchfork mob.

Sorry you had someone suddenly freak on you, but usually that's an escalation thing, not a random thing.

I'm one for protecting oneself because no one else is going to protect you.

And, unfortunately, the freak out thing isn't always an escalation thing. It can be something completely out of the blue or maybe not recognized signs if a person has never been in that situation before. It's just where things go from there that's the concern.

And, to some, my response probably was part of the "torch and pitchfork mob." However, I'd rather have the OP "over-react" (according to some) and be safe than "talk things out" and end up in a worse situation.

Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.

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after some time to consider, i have a few options;

Etiher;

1. Do exactly the same back to him and see how he feels about it.

2. ignore him and let me friends deal with it (if you get my drift)

3. ignore him forever more. delete his number..if i see him on the Dz blank him

4. Scream at him and rant all my feelings, make it clear he is a freak and how if he ever came near me again i would call the police.....

5. Care for him like 100%, understand everything about why he did it, protect him and keep and try to work together to forgive him eventually.

???

I dont really care which one, most votes and im going for it!

Thanks guys, your words have meant a lot

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You have every right to be angry. You did nothing to deserve this. And if it were two guys, one probably would kick the other in the nuts, or take a swing at him.

Change your credit card numbers, change your locks, change your passwords, get a PIN on your phone, get a locking bag at the DZ and lock it. Tell him you've done these things -- it's the biggest confirmation he can get that you've lost trust in him, and it's the truth. The natural consequence of invading someone's privacy is they are no longer accessible to you.

That's your DZ too. You belong there. Don't ignore him when you see him at the DZ; say hi casually, and make sure you have something to do so that there isn't time for a conversation.

Note: the locking bag at the DZ isn't so he won't mess with your gear (unless you think he could, but I'd imagine it's not likely). It's so that he can't mess with your wallet, phone, etc. when you're up on a load.

It's your life. Take steps to make it that way. Make sure you have plenty of other stuff to keep you busy and happy. Then you're not focusing on him.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

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You have every right to be angry. You did nothing to deserve this. And if it were two guys, one probably would kick the other in the nuts, or take a swing at him.

Change your credit card numbers, change your locks, change your passwords, get a PIN on your phone, get a locking bag at the DZ and lock it. Tell him you've done these things -- it's the biggest confirmation he can get that you've lost trust in him, and it's the truth. The natural consequence of invading someone's privacy is they are no longer accessible to you.

That's your DZ too. You belong there. Don't ignore him when you see him at the DZ; say hi casually, and make sure you have something to do so that there isn't time for a conversation.

Note: the locking bag at the DZ isn't so he won't mess with your gear (unless you think he could, but I'd imagine it's not likely). It's so that he can't mess with your wallet, phone, etc. when you're up on a load.

It's your life. Take steps to make it that way. Make sure you have plenty of other stuff to keep you busy and happy. Then you're not focusing on him.

Wendy W.

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Exactly right on all counts

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It's your life. Take steps to make it that way. Make sure you have plenty of other stuff to keep you busy and happy. Then you're not focusing on him.

Wendy W.

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Exactly right on all counts

That's 'cause she is smart)

Hi Wendy

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[cocheese 0]

You still don't know what to do?

You still can't decide?

What is your altitude?

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Wallet = Guy?
Diary = Girl?


Either way,
Snooper needs to be taught some manners.

The diary trumps it all. Girl.

I've never refered to it as a diary but I've kept a journal in the past... although I haven't written in it lately...

Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife...

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You still don't know what to do?

You still can't decide?

What is your altitude?

Let it go. We never know why people post stuff like this here, but if what she posted was 100% true she wouldn't (or at least shouldn't) need to ask advice from strangers on the internet.

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had a very trusting friend (opposite sex) in a very friendly relationship.. if you get my drift and found out that person went through my phone, wallet, diary. Messages, call logs were deleted etc.

I feel violated and when i approach the subject the person threw massive abuse my way and was very aggressive.

I just dont understand why anyone would do this? How would you feel and is it ok to be angry beacuse i feel like I want to scream!

How do i deal with this in the future with this person??

You have every right to feel violated, because you were. Mark my words, if you don't break ties with this person, you are in for more of the same. Unless you're married to him, this is a one-strike relationship offense. IMO it's on par with violence and cheating.

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She smells like a troll.