happythoughts 0 #26 June 19, 2008 Quote I think most women cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. I need to remember that line. The next time a guy cheats on his g/f, and uses that line, I want all the women to be soooo forgiving. Remember - he is not lying, cheating, pond scum - his emotional needs just weren't being met. (...or maybe it just looks doubtfully believable when I type it.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #27 June 19, 2008 Quote Does she sound remorseful? Did you ask her why she turned to someone else? Who cares if she's remorseful, its done and done is done. If its done now it'll happen again. If you're ok with that, then good for you. Understand that you can't control another person and if they are the type to cheat, then they are cheaters and they will cheat again. You can't control that. So you can walk away from the relationship or keep getting hurt.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #28 June 19, 2008 Quote Quote Does she sound remorseful? Did you ask her why she turned to someone else? Who cares if she's remorseful, its done and done is done. If its done now it'll happen again. If you're ok with that, then good for you. This is what she does when he's around. I always figured that was the minimum for behavior. Right now, she's sitting in the bar parking lot with a d- in each hand. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #29 June 19, 2008 Quote Quote I think most women cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. I need to remember that line. The next time a guy cheats on his g/f, and uses that line, I want all the women to be soooo forgiving. Remember - he is not lying, cheating, pond scum - his emotional needs just weren't being met. (...or maybe it just looks doubtfully believable when I type it.) But for guy, wouldn't it be his physical needs aren't being met? "Why did I cheat? Because you wouldn't let me sleep with your hot friend. I even offered a 3 way or you could film us but no..." Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darktreader 0 #30 June 19, 2008 THERES ONLY ONE WAY TO HANDLE THIS, WATCH BELOW.....!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AMlKYl4KVk"Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fallfast69 3 #31 June 19, 2008 You didn't put a "dump'em both" option. No friend and no SO would do that... Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fallfast69 3 #32 June 19, 2008 Dayum...gotta refresh every now and then... Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #33 June 20, 2008 Quote But for guy, wouldn't it be his physical needs aren't being met? "Why did I cheat? Because you wouldn't let me sleep with your hot friend. I even offered a3 way or you could film us but no..." Communication is the key here. I think that women aren't really good listeners when it comes to talking about needs. That's all I really want... just an equal and reciprocal amount of consideration for "feelings" when a man makes mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #34 June 20, 2008 Quote Please don't tell me you're justifying cheating with that statement. No. I just remember something my Dad always told me; when you point your finger at someone else, there are three more fingers pointing back at you. Edit to say: I'm not blaming the OP, I'm just saying he needs to find out why it happened. If she's just a whore, then he needs to dump her. But, if the relationship is worth salvaging, then they need to have some heartfelt talks.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenfly00 0 #35 June 20, 2008 Quote Quote No way either of these excuses are remotely acceptable. They can be filed right behind - I was drunk. I disagree. It takes two people to make a relationship and two people to break a relationship. If she was blissfully happy, there would have been no reason for her to cheat. To hell with the rationalizing ....dump em both.----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #36 June 20, 2008 Quote THERES ONLY ONE WAY TO HANDLE THIS, WATCH BELOW.....!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AMlKYl4KVk Hence my post hereYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #37 June 20, 2008 Quote Quote Quote No way either of these excuses are remotely acceptable. They can be filed right behind - I was drunk. I disagree. It takes two people to make a relationship and two people to break a relationship. If she was blissfully happy, there would have been no reason for her to cheat. To hell with the rationalizing ....dump em both. There ya have it folks, the professional opinion of a qualified PsychYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #38 June 20, 2008 Quote Quote Quote No way either of these excuses are remotely acceptable. They can be filed right behind - I was drunk. I disagree. It takes two people to make a relationship and two people to break a relationship. If she was blissfully happy, there would have been no reason for her to cheat. To hell with the rationalizing ....dump em both. yep....what she said.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #39 June 20, 2008 The thread titles offer another solution... Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,072 #40 June 20, 2008 But she might like it, and then she'd be cheating all the time . . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leapinglizardto 0 #41 June 20, 2008 it depends. sometimes you have to evaluate the big picture overall before you can make a decision that you are going to have to live with. sometimes when one SO cheats, given the correct frame of mind & level of love/compassion felt for the 'cheating' SO the other SO (the one cheated on) can often honestly step back & say to themselves, ok where did i come up short, what did i do or not do (as the case maybe) to contribute to the events that led to the 'cheating'? did i not communicate enough? was i less affectionate than i should/could have been? have i not been tuned-in enough to or ignoring their needs? do i spend too much time at ------ (fill in the blank- work, the dz etc.) & not enough time with him/her? often times the SO being 'cheated on' in some way or another can earnestly find that a good portion or % of the fault that led to these events, was as much their's as it was the 'cheating' SO's. give it some thought before you respond in a way you may regret & can never undo. It's pretty pathetic when you have to TELL people you're fucking cool Skymama «narrative»This thread will lock in 3..2.. What a load of narrow-minded Xenophobic Bullshit!-squeak Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #42 June 20, 2008 So if I cheat on Rich, he should take me to a professional dominatrix as punishment? Hmm . . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #43 June 20, 2008 Quote So if I cheat on Rich, he should take me to a professional dominatrix as punishment? Hmm . . . Try it, you might like it. Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #44 June 20, 2008 Quote But she might like it, and then she'd be cheating all the time . . . Good point. Not for use on uppity bottoms. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #45 June 20, 2008 Nothin' If she's cheating then she isn't your GF anymore -You lost your turn. I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,072 #46 June 20, 2008 > So if I cheat on Rich, he should take me to a professional dominatrix as punishment? Now see what you've gone and done, Bolas? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NtheSeaOrSky 0 #47 June 20, 2008 Quote What would you guys do if you went to a boogie and on Saturday night in the middle of the party your girlfriend who you came with wandered off for a few hours and you couldn't find her and then the next day she admitted to hooking up with some guy who you know and knew that you two were together and did it anyway? http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=3244660#3244660 Apparently happythoughts has a lead on a business to handle this for you.Life is not fair and there are no guarantees... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #48 June 20, 2008 At the DZ you don't loose your girlfriend you just loose your turn. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The_Don 0 #49 June 20, 2008 My wife & I had an agreement since day one. You find someone you want to fuck more than me? Fine. Better hope it's good with them. WHY? CAUSE... You're not fucking me anymore!I am NOT being loud. I'm being enthusiastic! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BETO74 0 #50 June 20, 2008 Why both? I would not blame the guy, I will dump her, keep friends with the guy if I was friends with him in the first place, she knew what she was doing, she is the one to remain faithful to the relationship, not him. I dont want to open another can of worms more than the one just opened, but why lose a friend over a cheater girfriend?? I think he did him a favor regardless of what this guy thought he felt for her, she obviously dont deserve himhttp://web.mac.com/ac057a/iWeb/AC057A/H0M3.html Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
