Damn! They are ALWAYS taken!

[normiss 806]

Stop going to swinger's clubs???

[Baksteen 84]

You're right.

Cynical basterd that I am I sometimes surreptitiously time girls I just met casually (in the train or something) to see how long it takes for them to mention their boyfriend.
Usually this is half an hour to an hour into the conversation.

The most extreme example was a girl who didn't want someone nice to chat to so much as a friendly shoulder to cry on.
Deary me - those were some disturbed stories..

"That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport."
~mom

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Naturally in my array of human selection I find that the ones that have piqued my interest always have a girlfriend or in a "complicated" relationship.

I thought for sure someone else would say something about this, but one simple fact of the matter is that you want what you can't have. Welcome to the club, darlin'.

You know very well that anyone in a good relationship is more attractive by virtue of the fact that they are confident - why are they confident? Because they are in a good relationship.

I'm not trying to scold you or bitch at you, but, being the gorgeous lady you are, you are very capable of being a homewrecker - I'm not saying you want to be, I'm just saying it's very possible. I'd advise you not to let this person occupy your thoughts too much - you are running the risk of idealizing him/her, which can lead to large-scale disappointment.

I've known MANY homewreckers (not carnally, mind you) and very few of them set out to do it, whether they knew it at the time or not.

Does my bias against infidelity show much?

T.I.N.S.

[Butters 0]

You've already stated that you don't believe there is anything wrong with cheating so what is stopping you ...

"That looks dangerous." Leopold Stotch

[tigra 0]

Wow- maybe its me but if I'm just having a conversation with someone I don't just assume that person is hitting on me or interested and therefore needs to be immediately advised of my "status".

[futuredivot 0]

Mybe not informing of status, but my wife is such an important part of my life I can't imagine not mentioning her in the first few minutes of general conversation

You are only as strong as the prey you devour

[tigra 0]

Are you saying attractive women are/ have the potentional to become "homewreckers" simply because of the way they look??? WTF??

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Cynical basterd that I am I sometimes surreptitiously time girls I just met casually (in the train or something) to see how long it takes for them to mention their boyfriend.
Usually this is half an hour to an hour into the conversation.

So is this a good or bad thing that they mention their boyfriend?

I've been surprised at how many times men have asked me on a date without first asking me if I'm in a relationship. It would seem to be common sense to find out the relationship status before asking someone out, and it shouldn't be expected that someone is just going to mention his/her SO without a reason to. (I don't just assume that any man who is talking to me must be trying to get in my pants, so I don't mention that I am married unless I have a reason to mention it.)

[turtlespeed 221]

Sounds like you need a "J and Turtle weekend at a boogie". That should set you right.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[futuredivot 0]

Would that be filed as "Half the fun, twice the regret"?

You are only as strong as the prey you devour

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Would that be filed as "Half the fun, twice the regret"?

Absolutely NOT - just ask Skymama.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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Absolutely NOT - just ask Skymama.

I'm still puzzled how she could write an whole article on how her life is better and not even mention GLITTER



Notice how I was subtly able to slip in this reminder to her that you were responsible for that...well, you and Spence....

You are only as strong as the prey you devour

[turtlespeed 221]

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Absolutely NOT - just ask Skymama.

I'm still puzzled how she could write an whole article on how her life is better and not even mention GLITTER

It makes one wonder just how appreciated we actually are.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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Are you saying attractive women are/ have the potentional to become "homewreckers" simply because of the way they look??? WTF??

Not at all - I'm saying SHE has the potential to become one because 1) Her previous posts. 2) She IS attractive, and I'll wager she knows it.

All I was trying to say is that it's possible for a woman who is aware of her attractiveness and the power that comes with it to become a homewrecker. Same goes for any man in the same position, though a man is less likely to be able to talk a woman into leaving her husband, I'll bet.

Or, I'm full of shit. You decide - but don't put words in my mouth, please.

(Edited to fix grammatical error.)

T.I.N.S.

[banesanura 1]

Butters- I was joking

Cheating isn't my style.

It just turns into FWB and couldn't ever progress as something more.


Now CUCKOLDING- some something way different. Two parties are aware and both consent to the act.

It's the same premise as swinging but with a twist.


Plus- I like chicks with.....(finish the sentence)

Best Girl Scout Ever.

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Are you saying attractive women are/ have the potentional to become "homewreckers" simply because of the way they look??? WTF??

Well, they do have a better chance of it than ugly women.

Blues,
Dave

"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!"
(drink Mountain Dew)

[skymama 37]

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It makes one wonder just how appreciated we actually are.

Maybe I mentioned the glitter and they edited it out. I did have a word limit, you know.

Back to the OP: I'm with Tigra and Shotgun on this; just because a guy is talking to me, I'm not going to assume he's hitting on me. Seems a little egotistical, some people are just friendly!

I'm in agreement with Normiss about the whole BOB thing too.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Darius11 12]

You often seem to have relationship issues and questions. We all do not trying to pick on you (as I have asked my fair share of questions) but ever try staying single for some time? It is ok to be single.

Once you can find happiness by your self and realize it is not another person or love that makes you happy it is much easier to actually have a good relationship. Most important is knowing what is a good relationship for you as we all want different things.


Good Luck

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

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some people are just friendly

True, but if the person has a penis, be suspicious. Seriously.

Remember, for most of us men, information from the outside world must first pass through the "Penile Filter" before it reaches the brain. I'm a good man, I'm loyal to my wife, but the filter is still there. Discuss.

T.I.N.S.

[Baksteen 84]

It's neither good, nor bad.

I'm not necessarily hitting on them - believe it or not but I'm not into casual sex much.
Like I said, usually those are girls chance met at some neutral occasion, like during a long journey by train.
The way the SO is worked into the conversation is sometimes quite entertaining .

"That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport."
~mom

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Remember, for most of us men, information from the outside world must first pass through the "Penile Filter" before it reaches the brain. I'm a good man, I'm loyal to my wife, but the filter is still there. Discuss.

If you have to pass information through a "penile filter," then I think that is your problem, not ours.

And on the "homewrecker" thing... If you allow some woman to wreck your home, then that is your own fault, no matter how attractive or "powerful" she is. Your relationship is your and your wife's responsibility, not anyone else's. (I'm not suggesting that you would ever cheat on your wife. I'm just replying to you since you mentioned homewreckers.)

[banesanura 1]

I do ask a lot of relationship questions- being sexual- non sexual- or friendship.

Reason being: (not that all my questions apply specifically to me)

I have been single for a while- with a few dates here and there- but nothing serious.

But that I am curious as to how people function. I have a lot to experience still and since I really can't ask my parents (I am 1st generation born in the states and they are SUPER traditional and they don't fully understand american culture)

So I have to experiment- through trial and error - and learn how to "establish" myself.

I've had to learn a lot by myself- American Culture- Alternative Cultures- all different types of personalities-

I ask groups how do I learn to live with another?

Which I think is good to hear different perspectives as it will help me grow in the future.

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[LisaH 0]

Don't try so hard to "establish" yourself.

Let life happen.

Be yourself!
MooOOooOoo

[Darius11 12]

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I've had to learn a lot by myself- American Culture- Alternative Cultures- all different types of personalities

Growing up In Iran and moving back and forth most of my life I understand what you mean. It is hard to find what is normal for you or me.


In my experience I just finally gave up trying to be in an American relationship or an Iranian one.
I just figured out what I as an individual want. It was not easy to find someone who agreed with me but I did find her.

We both love each other and are fully committed yet we do not believe in cohabitation, marriage, and we both don’t want children. Off course there is a lot more to being in love with someone then that but as the relationship develops you want to make sure beforehand that you have the same ideas and goals.

to do that you must be sure or have a good idea of what you want.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

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And on the "homewrecker" thing... If you allow some woman to wreck your home, then that is your own fault, no matter how attractive or "powerful" she is. Your relationship is your and your wife's responsibility, not anyone else's. (I'm not suggesting that you would ever cheat on your wife. I'm just replying to you since you mentioned homewreckers.)

Agreed. I didn't intend to lay fault at anyone's feet, though, and I certainly don't think being attractive predisposes a person to be more likely to cheat or wreck a home, so to speak.

I can tell you that, even though I've never cheated on anyone I've been with, I know, without question, my own levels of possible depravity. And I'm telling you, whether it's biological, visual, olfactory, or otherwise, that alot (if not all) of us are susceptible to temptation, especially if it has a Brazilian.

What? Oh, never mind.

T.I.N.S.