mamajumps 0 #1 May 4, 2007 Okay ya'll be honest, how do you really feel? I have been cheated on, I have been the cheater ( I was trying to show the person who had previously cheated on me how it felt - but he didnt care and I still feel like shit for it many many years later.) I have known cheaters and those cheated on. I can't ever figure any good that comes out of it. Someone always gets hurt. So ya'll chime in and let me know what you think. It seems to be more accepted among men to cheat on the girlfriends or wives, and at times I have noticed that fellow men even give out "macho points" for it.... so throw in your 2 cents and let me know how you feel.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #2 May 4, 2007 You're talking about playing cards right? ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
simplyputsi 0 #3 May 4, 2007 If you cheat then the one you are cheating on is not the one you are meant to be with. I've never cheated on anyone and well never plan on it. Because I firmly believe in the above. If I'm cheating then I must not really want to be with the person. Sure you could have your instances, your, it just happened. Cheaters FUCKING suck. And that is how I feel about that.Skymama's #2 stalker - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #4 May 4, 2007 I think they're awesome. I can't imagine why someone would think I was great enough to stay in an exclusive relationship with, so of course I *totally* understand why someone would cheat on me. All the guys I've ever dated have female friends who are totally hotter than me, so it wouldn't surprise me at all if they were attracted and acted on it. Relationships should be easy, so when they get to be hard work, you really should have the opportunity to go to someone else if things aren't absolutely perfect every day. So I think it's totally cool to keep your options open. And I think relationships are TOTALLY boring without drama, and cheating is one of the really easy ways to make your relationship dramatic and FUN! It works best if you start with jealousy and controlling behavior - make sure that your SO knows that you are jealous of their friends. Oh, I'm sorry. Was this a serious poll? "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #5 May 4, 2007 I've been cheated on in the midst of two serious relationships, once by my wife while I was overseas for six months, and the other by a girlfriend who I honestly can't recall the reasons for dating (she was dishonest, kinda "slow", and not particularly attractive). Knowing the pain it causes, I'll never do that to someone else, and I certainly won't respect someone else for doing it to whomever they're with. If the relationship has dissolved to the point that cheating seems attractive, it's best to end it cleanly and respectfully before trying someone else on for size. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki_vZ 0 #6 May 4, 2007 I've been cheated on, it sucked, i was hurt badly by his actions and i dumped him. i lost all respect for him. i just won't ever tolerant being cheated on and neither will i ever cheat. that's my view Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IanHarrop 42 #7 May 4, 2007 In two major relationships in the past I have been cheated on. In both cases I forgave them, the first time. Then I found out it didn't stop. At this point in my life, I will not forgive anymore. Once is too many times. I will not cheat on my partner. I will not tolerate being cheated on. If you get to the place where you are going to cheat, or find you are being cheated on, one has to ask why are you still in the relationship? In my opinion, the relationship is already over."Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops, that's where you'll find me" Dorothy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #8 May 4, 2007 Quote You're talking about playing cards right? "You're a helluva card player fella. I know, cause I'm a helluva card player. And I can't even spot how you're cheating.""There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TALONSKY 0 #9 May 4, 2007 I have a very large bias on this subject as I was cheated on numerous times in a 5-year relationship. Luckily for me, the relationship was in the middle of the end when I found out. She had slept with more than five and hopefully less than 25 guys during the course of our five-year relationship. I believe very strongly that if a person is selfish enough to care only about what they want and not the person they supposedly love, that they will never be trust worthy ever. I believe, once a cheater always a cheater. If you want out to the relationship your in, end it before sleeping with another. My wife and I have both been the victim of some selfish ass; we both agreed cheating is an unforgivable act. Kirk Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #10 May 4, 2007 I have been cheated on by my "first" serious boyfriend, and I can tell you I never forgave him. He tried to get me to stay with him, but I could never trust him the way I did before he cheated, and it just tore us apart. Years later, the same behavior started with my now ex... Staying out late, coming home blazing drunk, lack of sex in our lives, oh, and a girl answering his cell phone because he "dropped" it, and she just happened to be a "friend" who found it. Uh huh... Whatever... He still swears to this day he was 100% loyal to me. Somehow I don't believe that... I won't cheat. I can't cheat. I would have WAY too much guilt I couldn't live with. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #11 May 4, 2007 I'm not sure I understand this answer: Quoteits okay as long as the ground rules are laid down What's ok? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #12 May 4, 2007 If there are "ground rules" to permit such behavior, then it isn't cheating.---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #13 May 4, 2007 QuoteIf there are "ground rules" to permit such behavior, then it isn't cheating. To elaborate: This is all it will ever be (sex) Im not leaving my wife/husband... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #14 May 4, 2007 Cheating is stoopid! If, you can't be honest in a relationship... you don't belong there. Any trust at all, goes right out the window. If, you want to 'play around', have the guts to say so. Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caspar 0 #15 May 4, 2007 considering how my family life (parents) was destroyed because of cheating i literally lose all respect for people that do it. but i havent ticked the box saying i never would because i dont have faith in myself to not be a complete asshole at times."When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dumpster 0 #16 May 4, 2007 What a fascinating can of worms this subject is - Kinda dump all the worms out on the table, and watch'em crawl around. They all go different directions. Really interesting. It's a weird and wonderful world we live in. I've been both the cheater and the cheatee - Both posistions can suck, and usually do, really big time. If you're not happy with who you are with, or you just plain want some strange, there are ways to address or deal with that. talk or just plain break relationship #1 off before going further. One thing I've learned, if you're gonna cheat, make sure you're willing to risk alot more than you ever imagined. The collateral damage is most often much greater than you think. Not just the two of you but friends, family, etc. I'm dating some one on a steady basis right now - Is she the one I'll spend the rest of my life with? Don't know. Right now we are happy where we're at. I'm not rocking the boat, no need to. But I do know who I am and what I am and am not capapble of. Some of you may of of the one girl out there that I care for very deeply but the feeling isn't quite mutual. So I go on with my unrequited love, but that's life sometimes. And that's all I got to say about that. Easy Does It Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #17 May 4, 2007 Weenies. Cheaters are weenies. They don't SUCK, they're not HORRIBLE and AWFUL and it's not a TRAGEDY - they're just cowardly sad boring unoriginal weenies. And that goes for the people they cheat with. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dumpster 0 #18 May 4, 2007 Quote To elaborate: This is all it will ever be (sex) Im not leaving my wife/husband... That being the case, then I didn't really cheat? Easy Does It Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #19 May 4, 2007 Quote Quote To elaborate: This is all it will ever be (sex) Im not leaving my wife/husband... That being the case, then I didn't really cheat? IMHO, if your wife didnt know and you purposly kept it from her, it is still cheating, regardless of the "ground rules"... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BelskyBlueEyes 0 #20 May 4, 2007 What happens to me a lot is I don't know they are cheating, they tell me they are single. Not fun to learn afterwards that he really is not available. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #21 May 4, 2007 Quote What happens to me a lot is... Umm...how YOU doin'? Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #22 May 4, 2007 Quote You're talking about playing cards right? Hey there are card games where cheating is allowed... (as long as you don't get caught...) Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BelskyBlueEyes 0 #23 May 4, 2007 especially if they are out of state, no way to really know... isn't that some rule- if over state lines, it is not cheating? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #24 May 4, 2007 Quote I think they're awesome. I can't imagine why someone would think I was great enough to stay in an exclusive relationship with, so of course I *totally* understand why someone would cheat on me. All the guys I've ever dated have female friends who are totally hotter than me, so it wouldn't surprise me at all if they were attracted and acted on it. Relationships should be easy, so when they get to be hard work, you really should have the opportunity to go to someone else if things aren't absolutely perfect every day. So I think it's totally cool to keep your options open. And I think relationships are TOTALLY boring without drama, and cheating is one of the really easy ways to make your relationship dramatic and FUN! It works best if you start with jealousy and controlling behavior - make sure that your SO knows that you are jealous of their friends. Holy crap I love you Krisanne!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smears 0 #25 May 4, 2007 I've always heard the rule, "It's not cheating if it's in different area codes." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
