moto89 0 #26 January 30, 2008 Not to totally post whore it up, but can someone tell what the chances are of getting work as a packer (already pack at home dz) at Eloy for a week? I need something to keep me busy and my mind clear for a week that was going to be spent with her.Less talking, more flying. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #27 January 30, 2008 Sorry to hear that. Ask yourself did you think she was the one or did you just want her to be? Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moto89 0 #28 January 30, 2008 Well, she was one of my best friends since middle school, and aside from maybe one really tight friend (yeah man, if you read it you know who you are ) I've never "clicked" with anyone like I do with her. We had a great relationship, but she has just turned so completely selfish in recent months I just can't take it anymore. In my opinion if you are going to tell someone you love them, then part of that is considering how your actions are going to affect that person. You cannot love someone and not care how they feel about what you do at the same time. When someone you "love" tells you a decision you have made is hurtful to them and is seriously straining the relationship, you do not tell them too bad.... not how things work when you actually love someone. Less talking, more flying. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #29 January 30, 2008 Quote In my opinion if you are going to tell someone you love them, then part of that is considering how your actions are going to affect that person. You cannot love someone and not care how they feel about what you do at the same time. When someone you "love" tells you a decision you have made is hurtful to them and is seriously straining the relationship, you do not tell them too bad.... not how things work when you actually love someone. Unfortunately some people just don't understand that. Many times people say or think they love people and may even thing they mean it but they don't even know what love is. Sounds like you lost a good friend too. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #30 January 30, 2008 Quote ...Never mentioned this part of the story before, but it's about 150 times that. It was never a factor in the relationship, as I didn't even know until a few months in, but at this point it seriously has no bearing on my feelings toward this situation. FOOL! Marry the girl. Who cares about feelings. Feelings are for women reading 19th century French literature, not men. Take the money and run.I started at the top and got to this...nothing more need be said. FOOL!!!! I had MY chance at the $$$ and, just like you, blew it. I was young and stupid. I'm STILL kickin' my ass for that. Now I'm old and stupid. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moto89 0 #31 January 30, 2008 Marry a girl who one day wants to move in with you and two days later decides she doesn't really want to spend a week trip with you that airline tickets have already been purchased for because she thinks going to new york with her friend sounds like a better plan leaving you high and fucking dry? Less talking, more flying. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
apollard24 0 #32 January 30, 2008 Quote In my opinion if you are going to tell someone you love them, then part of that is considering how your actions are going to affect that person. You cannot love someone and not care how they feel about what you do at the same time. When someone you "love" tells you a decision you have made is hurtful to them and is seriously straining the relationship, you do not tell them too bad.... not how things work when you actually love someone. I couldnt have said it better.Breathe out so I can breathe you in... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyhi 24 #33 January 30, 2008 QuoteI find it very hard to believe that a young woman such as her (age 20) could possibly just turn sexually frigid like this. She has just told me that she is sorry she has no drive anymore, but has no idea what it is. Any ideas as to what might be going on in her head anyone? Did you get married?Shit happens. And it usually happens because of physics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moto89 0 #34 January 30, 2008 QuoteQuoteI find it very hard to believe that a young woman such as her (age 20) could possibly just turn sexually frigid like this. She has just told me that she is sorry she has no drive anymore, but has no idea what it is. Any ideas as to what might be going on in her head anyone? Did you get married? negative ghostrider.Less talking, more flying. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SSHusky 0 #35 January 30, 2008 I have been in this situation. I deeply cared about a boy and he didn't return the feeling. I knew he didn't love me but I decided to wait in hope that he would eventually fall in love with me. I waited for months and eventually he broke my heart and we broke up. I can't tell you what to do. Each relationship is different. All I can say is if I had to go back and do it over again, then I would have broke it off before my heart was broken. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #36 January 30, 2008 I spent 10 yrs in one of those (married) he loved me the same when it was convienant for him, which most times it wasnt. I thought if I loved him enough one day it would matter. It never did... hopefully our divorce will be final this year. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TrophyHusband 0 #37 January 30, 2008 Quote whoa girl, you might want to reign it in a little. "Your scrotum is quite nice" - Skymama www.kjandmegan.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #38 January 30, 2008 Hit it one more time for the Road and then Hit the Road. I would also suggest giving her a good old fashion Dirty Sanchez before leaveing, That way she will atleast remember you for a while. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #39 January 30, 2008 Quote how you doin? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BIGUN 1,297 #40 January 30, 2008 I've read both this and the one in the women's forum thread. I think you're out of line. In the women's thread, you talked about libido and you were given all kinds of information about how that can be physiologically affected in a woman. In this thread, it's about "love." Personally, I think you've decided the relationship is over, but aren't willing to grow enough cahonees on your own to tell her and are gaining the support and muster to man up. Now, if I'm wrong and you do truly love this woman... how about backing off and giving her some breathing room instead of forcing the issue to termination by one or the other of you. If you do love her, then what does a month of backing off mean? Go have some Oreos and milk, leave shit alone, give the girl some room and let things happen. At the very least. stop mustering those only you may know to your side on a public forum about how its all her libido and/or whatever... it's disrepectful to her, yourself and for those that know you both.Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #41 January 30, 2008 You guys are about 20-22 if I remember. You're both growing and changing; the world is becoming more and more available and open to you. If you were to grow in the same direction it'd be a miracle. Imagine her, saying to her friends "I thought I knew him, and he'd support me, but now that my libido isn't the same he's bugging me, and he's taken up skydiving and that's all he talks about." Imagine if she were to become impassioned about, say, quilting. To the point of spending all her weekends with her quilting friends, going on trips, and post-whoring on the quilting boards . You'd think she'd changed, and you'd be right. 50 years ago, the world wasn't really as open to young people; more people stayed close to where they were born, and went into the family business. Now it's common to move far away, and easy to communicate with anyone, anywhere. You don't necessarily pull up all your stakes when you move; long distance is free on your cell phone, and plane travel is cheap. So the fact that people married young and stayed married is more a testament to lack of options than to the increased steadfastness of people then. Whether that's good or bad is moot, it is what it is. So figure out who you are for the long run; concentrate on figuring out what makes you happy, and let her figure out what makes her happy. Take responsibility for your own life. It might end up being that the same things make you happy, but don't focus on each other -- each of you is your own responsibility, not the other's. Wendy W. There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #42 January 30, 2008 QuoteIf you do love her, then what does a month of backing off mean? Go have some Oreos and milk, leave shit alone, give the girl some room and let things happen. I don't believe in the whole "take a break" concept. You get one shot, you both give it your all and it works great, if not, you tried. The problem with breaks is you've shown you can't work through things together. Whatever issues you had (personality, attitude, etc.) unless they were temporary are most likely not going away. It separated you once, what's to stop it from happening again? Even if it was temporary it's been shown that you can't support one another when really needed.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 220 #43 January 30, 2008 Simple - cut away - and then go all serial killer on her ass!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HillerMyLife 0 #44 January 30, 2008 I agree. A break is just a precurser to a break up in my opinion. Wendy gave some great advice and I agree with that too. To the OP...Take control of your life and path and if hers goes the same way great, if not you will meet a lot of people who are into the things you are. In this situation...let her go to NY with her friend, you go to Eloy, maybe you can make some friends there too??I think so. Something else to think of however is that when you chop you need to have a reserve ready to pull next. Do you have one?? Or are you just chopping yourself into thin air??Someday Never Comes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #45 January 30, 2008 QuoteSomething else to think of however is that when you chop you need to have a reserve ready to pull next. Do you have one?? Or are you just chopping yourself into thin air?? In this situation, I think the skydiving analogy breaks down. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HillerMyLife 0 #46 January 30, 2008 So in other words he has no reserve to go to?Someday Never Comes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #47 January 30, 2008 QuoteSo in other words he has no reserve to go to? In other words, don't pull just because you have a reserve or don't not pull even if you don't have a reserve. Relationships aren't parachutes. You won't die by not having one... you just might wish you would. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #48 January 30, 2008 Quote So in other words he has no reserve to go to? OMG ONE MORE OVER-USED SKYDIVING ANALOGY AND I'M GONNA PUKE!!! Do people somewhere in the universe think it's cool to talk that way? For fuck's sake I don't know anyone personally that has more than 300 jumps that talks that way. Yes, this is a fucking skydiving website...no shit. Get over it and deal with the rest of life like a fucking adult that doesn't talk like a douchebag. I wonder if scuba divers have posters on their sites that drive people up a fuckin' wall with lame pressure & depth and tank analogies...~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #49 January 30, 2008 Quote Quote So in other words he has no reserve to go to? OMG ONE MORE OVER-USED SKYDIVING ANALOGY AND I'M GONNA PUKE!!! Do people somewhere in the universe think it's cool to talk that way? For fuck's sake I don't know anyone personally that has more than 300 jumps that talks that way. Yes, this is a fucking skydiving website...no shit. Get over it and deal with the rest of life like a fucking adult that doesn't talk like a douchebag. I wonder if scuba divers have posters on their sites that drive people up a fuckin' wall with lame pressure & depth and tank analogies... No...the get a cold flipper to the face if they start that 'Ain't I Cool' shit. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #50 January 30, 2008 Quote Quote OMG ONE MORE OVER-USED SKYDIVING ANALOGY AND I'M GONNA PUKE!!! Do people somewhere in the universe think it's cool to talk that way? For fuck's sake I don't know anyone personally that has more than 300 jumps that talks that way. Yes, this is a fucking skydiving website...no shit. Get over it and deal with the rest of life like a fucking adult that doesn't talk like a douchebag. I wonder if scuba divers have posters on their sites that drive people up a fuckin' wall with lame pressure & depth and tank analogies... It's that time of the month for you, eh? (ducks) "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
