Bolas 5 #1 January 29, 2008 A person tells you they are soul searching so they can be happy with themselves. 5 days later you found out they are dating and were probably doing so when they said that or before. Is it possible to do both at once?Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #2 January 29, 2008 She's just not that into you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #3 January 29, 2008 I'm not sure I understand the question... but Yes... I don't know why they have to be mutually exclusive.Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #4 January 29, 2008 What kind of soul searching are we talking about? If they're trying to find answers to God, the universe and everything, I'd say it's a different situation than someone who is trying to decide, say, whether they want you as their spouse. On the whole, though, I don't think one has to preclude the other. Even if you're trying to decide what you want in a relationship, it doesn't mean you have to stop dating until you decide what that looks like--but it may not be very fair to the person you're dating in the meantime. I'd also say it's a different situation of Person A says they're not dating for a while because they need to do some soul searching and then they show up with Person B on their arm immediately thereafter. In that case, I'd say they're not doing as much soul searching as they thought they were.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AirWhore 0 #5 January 29, 2008 Maybe when she told you she was soul search it was just her polite way of telling you to buzz offBut then again what do i know about women Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #6 January 29, 2008 yes... and explaining why makes my head hurt... but to put it in short form.... when someone is "soul searching" they don't really know what they want out of life at that moment. And if dating around helps you to figure it out, thats great. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #7 January 29, 2008 QuoteShe's just not that into you. True but irrelevant in this case.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #8 January 29, 2008 QuoteA person tells you they are soul searching so they can be happy with themselves. 5 days later you found out they are dating and were probably doing so when they said that or before. Is it possible to do both at once? Only at the most superficial level, which can be a good thing. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #9 January 29, 2008 Quote Maybe when she told you she was soul search it was just her polite way of telling you to buzz offBut then again what do i know about women Interesting theory. Wouldn't that be a lie though? Is it ever polite to flat out lie?Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #10 January 29, 2008 Quote A person tells you they are soul searching so they can be happy with themselves. 5 days later you found out they are dating and were probably doing so when they said that or before. Is it possible to do both at once? I have had this same thing happen to me. It doesn't make any sense to 'soul search' and date. Soul searching is when you take the time, by yourself/without outside influence, to look at your life and reflect on where you want to be and what you want to move towards in regards to love, life, career, family, etc... Personally, using 'soul searching' as a means to get out of something you don't want to be in is a very cowardly move. [/two cents] *** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #11 January 29, 2008 No, it doesn't make sense-but unless you're wanting to switch teams you're gonna have to deal with this illogical mess. Girls are pretty, soft, and smell good. I'm willing to deal with a little emotional crap from them You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #12 January 29, 2008 Quote ....And if dating around helps you to figure it out, thats great. This, to me, is called 'seeing other people' not searching your own soul for what you want out of life. It may be splitting hairs....but that how my mind works. *** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #13 January 29, 2008 I miss Soulshine. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #14 January 29, 2008 Soul searching can mean finding out what the person wants in life and not necessarily with relationships. I think it is possible to figure out the two at the same time.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #15 January 29, 2008 Quote Quote ....And if dating around helps you to figure it out, thats great. This, to me, is called 'seeing other people' not searching your own soul for what you want out of life. It may be splitting hairs....but that how my mind works. I just say that b/c when I met my now boyfriend, I wasnt looking for a relationship and neither was he. He knew from the very begining where I was coming from and why. After a bit of time into however, we both developed feelings for each other and decided that we did indeed want to be exclusive to each other and thus is where we are now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #16 January 29, 2008 Quote No, it doesn't make sense-but unless you're wanting to switch teams you're gonna have to deal with this illogical mess. Girls are pretty, soft, and smell good. I'm willing to deal with a little emotional crap from them Emotions I can deal with. Deceptions and denial are another story.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #17 January 29, 2008 I don't know the factual scenario we're talking about here, but yeah--deception is no good. Even if they're trying to spare your feelings, they should do it with gentle honesty instead of, um, diversionary tactics.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GQ_jumper 4 #18 January 29, 2008 person tells you they are soul searching so they can be happy with themselves. 5 days later you found out they are dating and were probably doing so when they said that or before. Is it possible to do both at once? Quote That very well may be a polite way of saying that they aren't interested. But as for the question, you can do lots of things and date at the same time, it's called multi-tasking History does not long entrust the care of freedom to the weak or the timid. --Dwight D. Eisenhower Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #19 January 29, 2008 QuoteThat very well may be a polite way of saying that they aren't interested. That is exactly the point I was not-so-eloquently trying to make. When it comes to rejection, there's a fine line between deception and letting someone down easy. The point is, she doesn't want you. It doesn't matter why anymore, she just doesn't. Get over it and move on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #20 January 29, 2008 QuoteQuoteThat very well may be a polite way of saying that they aren't interested. That is exactly the point I was not-so-eloquently trying to make. When it comes to rejection, there's a fine line between deception and letting someone down easy. The point is, she doesn't want you. It doesn't matter why anymore, she just doesn't. Get over it and move on. Okay, what if it was not a relationship thing? IE an after a relationship communication. There is no letting down.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #21 January 29, 2008 Quote Quote Quote That very well may be a polite way of saying that they aren't interested. That is exactly the point I was not-so-eloquently trying to make. When it comes to rejection, there's a fine line between deception and letting someone down easy. The point is, she doesn't want you. It doesn't matter why anymore, she just doesn't. Get over it and move on. Okay, what if it was not a relationship thing? IE an after a relationship communication. There is no letting down. then who cares?? or perhaps the person was interpreting what the other said as "soul searching" when those words were never spoken.... I dunno... CReW SKies, bubbles"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #22 January 29, 2008 Depends on how you define dating. If you're dating just to date and not find a soulmate, then I say YES. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #23 January 29, 2008 Quote Quote Quote Quote That very well may be a polite way of saying that they aren't interested. That is exactly the point I was not-so-eloquently trying to make. When it comes to rejection, there's a fine line between deception and letting someone down easy. The point is, she doesn't want you. It doesn't matter why anymore, she just doesn't. Get over it and move on. Okay, what if it was not a relationship thing? IE an after a relationship communication. There is no letting down. then who cares?? or perhaps the person was interpreting what the other said as "soul searching" when those words were never spoken.... I dunno... CReW SKies, bubbles Why bother with deception then? They could just say I met someone else. Is is really interpreting if they used those exact words? Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #24 January 29, 2008 The answer to your question is yes... and the only thing you can do about it is to let it go..... TRUST ME.. you will feel much better about yourself and your world when you stop with the "what if's" and the inconsistencies between what people say to you and what they do to you.. just LET..IT..GOOOOO...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #25 January 29, 2008 Quote The answer to your question is yes... and the only thing you can do about it is to let it go..... TRUST ME.. you will feel much better about yourself and your world when you stop with the "what if's" and the inconsistencies between what people say to you and what they do to you.. just LET..IT..GOOOOO...... So just let people get away with treating people badly? Not show people there are consequences for their actions? Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
