Saying I love you.

[Viking 0]

This is something that i was thinking about from my last relationship. She said didn't tell her i loved her enough. I felt i didn't have b/c i was showing her by doing things for her, pulling on the couch when she walked past to cuddle. Pick up off the ground when i hugged after work. Doing all those things would you get mad that i didn't say the words every single day?

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[cjsgrlsx3 0]

Everytime we get off the phone, someone leaves the house, or goes to bed. We tell each other all the time. You never know what will happen when that person walks out the door. If it is the last thing I tell my kids or my husband then I did my job!

[kenz 0]

i say it everyday - and its not a "reflex" as you put - every time it is said it is heartfelt - everyone is different though - i say it cause i dont ever want to regret NOT saying it "just in case" thats just my thing

it doesnt mean that she doesnt appreciate your gestures - sometimes people just like hearing it - if she doesnt realize that you love her then id say its some security issues but like i said above - everyone is different - dont assume saying it all the time doesnt mean as much

"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me

[drae 0]

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Everytime we get off the phone, someone leaves the house, or goes to bed. We tell each other all the time. You never know what will happen when that person walks out the door. If it is the last thing I tell my kids or my husband then I did my job!

Me too!

[pinkfairy 0]

When there's something missing or wrong in a relationship, a girl can get really upset about things that shouldn't really matter.

I was really upset that my BF wouldn't take my picture, but the real reason was other, bigger issues.

And then the smaller issue is easier to talk about.

Relax, you can die if you mess up, but it will probably not be by bullet.

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[skymama 37]

If your woman complains that you don't say it enough, that's a clue that you need to say it more. Don't question it, just do it. If you do love her, it shouldn't be that hard.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[SarahC07 0]

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When there's something missing or wrong in a relationship, a girl can get really upset about things that shouldn't really matter.

Yeah, that's what I wanted to attempt to say - but she did a much better job.

[keka 0]

I would only say it if I really loved the person; and it's not that I loved all of my ex-BF's... no no
I liked them a lot...it's different.

of course is nice to hear that.... but what will be the next step up,, when this becomes...hum... too common!?

of course saying 'I love you" before going to work... on the phone calls... it's nice... but everything when is in excess..gets boring.

if the love is really there ( for both parts).. it's ok.. if it's just a casual relationship.... no

and btw... don't ever do something expecting to get the same back... just do it b/c you want to.

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[swedishcelt 0]

What she was really saying was, "I am worried you don't really love me because you don't say it often or spontaneously enough to make me believe it." Was she right?


Don't judge her harshly for trying to hint at what she meant instead of saying it. Women find it hard to understand and communicate with men their real feelings... just as men do to women.

[popsjumper 2]

Sounds to me like she has an emotional security problem. That was the starting gun going off...you should be hauling ass by now.

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[Lindercles 0]

This guy has a thought on the subject. Try not to cry.

[peregrinerose 0]

If it makes her happy to hear it and costs you nothing but a few seconds to say it, why would you be so resistant to showing her love in a way she needed to see it?

My husband and I both say I love you frequently to each other... always before bed and when we get up in the morning, most of time on the phone. It's not reflex either... we both mean it when we say it. We both like hearing it and both like saying it.

Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

[chaoskitty 0]

I think that actions speak louder. Anyone can end a conversation with, I love you, but a man who means it will show you he loves you.

[waltappel 1]

Fuck it--just do like most guys and say it when you wanna get laid!

Walt

[Lindercles 0]

Even better idea, say it for the first time while you're getting laid. Chicks LOVE that.

[chaoskitty 0]

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Even better idea, say it for the first time while you're getting laid. Chicks LOVE that.

We love it even more when you call us "babe" or "girl" instead of our name! If you think you might get confused, just take a moment to remember our name before you say anything.

[jceman 1]

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This is something that i was thinking about from my last relationship. She said didn't tell her i loved her enough. I felt i didn't have b/c i was showing her by doing things for her, pulling on the couch when she walked past to cuddle. Pick up off the ground when i hugged after work. Doing all those things would you get mad that i didn't say the words every single day?

Actions are nice, but there is a whole shirtload of power in those three little words if you mean it and you shouldn't be stingy with it.

TLML and I end each conversation on the phone with "I love you", we say it to each other when the other leaves the house to run errands and it is the last thing we say to each other every day. We had slipped into "luv you" but talked it over and decided that had not the power of "I love you" nor the same meaning.

But don't take my advice, Friday is only our 39th anniversary, so we're still learning our way around.

BTW, I will always be grateful that the last words I ever spoke to both of my parents was "I love you"; circumstances were different as I knew it would be the last time I saw Dad alive and Mom's passing was totally unexpected, but the meaning was the same.

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[Lindercles 0]

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We love it even more when you call us "babe" or "girl" instead of our name! If you think you might get confused, just take a moment to remember our name before you say anything.

I prefer "woman."

[chaoskitty 0]

hahah.. ok you're allowed to say "woman"only cause thats what your WOMAN told you to do.

[Lastchance 0]

My wife and I tell each other at least a dozen time a day and it's not reflex. We mean it. Like was said earlier, you never know if it's the last time you will get to tell someone. If you love someone, let them hear it.

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[ryoder 1,590]

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If your woman complains that you don't say it enough, that's a clue that you need to say it more. Don't question it, just do it. If you do love her, it shouldn't be that hard.

How to get rid of a guy:
- Insist that he must call you a certain minimum times per day.
- Insist that he must email a certain minimum times per day.
- Insist that he must say specific things a certain minimum times per day.

I guarantee this works; It worked for my last ex.

Making a guy do or say certain things because he feels he must, rather than because he means it, indicates the girl has a problem, not the guy.

PopsJumper had it right.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[SpeedRacer 1]

You need to go down on her. That always seems to cheer 'em right up!

Speed Racer
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[sharimcm 0]

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You need to go down on her. That always seems to cheer 'em right up!

I love you.

"I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself

[Orchid 0]

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Making a guy do or say certain things because he feels he must, rather than because he means it, indicates the girl has a problem, not the guy.

I agreed. Action speaks louder than words... saying i love you doesn't always mean he truly loves you... you can tell if he really loves you by his action...

I'd rather my guy says it when I least expected it....and not expect him to say it everytime, if that make sense! .....Just my personal opinion....

"Love is doing small things with great love."

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