jheadley 0 #1 March 26, 2007 I am curious if you all think it is possible for a person to significantly or completely change their personality. Is it something that can be changed or is it just a permanent part of you? If someone did try to change it, would that be "phony" of them? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #2 March 26, 2007 Do you mean like flipping a switch change-personalities change over time, mine did. I was a very quiet, polite child. I still don't say much, but when I do it's usually rudeI am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #3 March 26, 2007 I've done it. Once upon a time, I was considered by many to be the most negative person on the face of the earth. I decided that had to change, so I MADE myself change. I just made myself look at things differently, and over time it worked. I wouldn't say it's permanent, though, albeit also not fake. Sometimes I can feel myself slipping, so I just tune up a bit. Not to say I'm not still a cynic, but my most vocalized word is no longer "hate". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #4 March 26, 2007 QuoteI am curious if you all think it is possible for a person to significantly or completely change their personality. Is it something that can be changed or is it just a permanent part of you? If someone did try to change it, would that be "phony" of them? IMO it takes many years or a major life event or both for someone to change. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #5 March 26, 2007 It is absolutely possible. I did it. I was a very different person in 1994 than I was in 1992. Today, I am different than both of those people - kinda like finding a happy medium. And I've changed even more radically since meeting my wife and having kids. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #6 March 26, 2007 Yes people can change. And no, it's not phony. It might 'feel' phony in the beginning because it's a personality that the person isn't used to. As he becomes more comfortable with himself, it feels less "phony". As humans, we are extremely dynamic beings. We are able to understand the past and how it relates to the future. We are capable of heeding other people ideas and advice and using it to better ourselves. We are capable of changing everything we are and stand for on a whim, if the desire is truly there. I have, and I know a few others who have. To define ourselves by our past and not our futures is highly self-limiting.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davedlg 0 #7 March 26, 2007 Quote IMO it takes many years or a major life event or both for someone to change. Walt I agree. I, personally have changed over the course of the last 10 years or so, and I know people that have changed overnight due to a significant event in their lives. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #8 March 26, 2007 I feel that you should constantly challenge yourself to become a better person so change is important and needed. You should do it for yourself though and not for another person.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #9 March 26, 2007 QuoteI feel that you should constantly challenge yourself to become a better person so change is important and needed. You should do it for yourself though and not for another person. Does that mean that even *I* might be able to change enough to be a moderator some day? Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #10 March 26, 2007 QuoteDoes that mean that even *I* might be able to change enough to be a moderator some day? Not with the poopy-man avatar. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #11 March 26, 2007 What's amazing to me is how much a person can change and not show it, hell, not even know it, because they've become so used to how they interact with those around them on a daily basis. A rapport, if you will. And then, when exposed to a completely new environment for a length of time, find themselves reacting in ways they didn't even know they had in them. There really is something to the idea of traveling to get to know yourself. Or, to quote Stewie, "I've always wanted to spend a year in Prague teaching English. You know, slacking off a bit, but really getting to know myself." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 9 #12 March 26, 2007 I think it's 100% possible to change your personality. It's not easy; but it's possible. IMHO, to go out and say "Changing your personality is impossible" completely nullifies the point of life; life is a growing and learning process. Growth and progress involve change. edited for grammar only.=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #13 March 26, 2007 QuoteThere really is something to the idea of traveling to get to know yourself. And what did you find out about yourself on your travels to GA? She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #14 March 26, 2007 That I'm an old, fat, bald liar. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #15 March 26, 2007 QuoteNot with the poopy-man avatar Thats no poopy man, thats Mr. Hanky. Hidee Ho. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #16 March 26, 2007 QuoteI am curious if you all think it is possible for a person to significantly or completely change their personality. Is it something that can be changed or is it just a permanent part of you? If someone did try to change it, would that be "phony" of them? Absolutely . . . Take one drill bit, and one wire hanger . . . . . . and after the blending is complete - let heal for 6 weeks and "Voila" new personality installed.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #17 March 26, 2007 QuoteI am curious if you all think it is possible for a person to significantly or completely change their personality. Is it something that can be changed or is it just a permanent part of you? If someone did try to change it, would that be "phony" of them? Not only do I think it's possible, I think it's almost assured as part of the aging and experience-gathering processes. There aren't many 40-year-olds who act essentially identical to the way they did when they were 20. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piratemike 0 #18 March 26, 2007 It can happen, but only if the person wants to. It's sort of like switching a society to a democracy. It can only really be done by the person/society that's going to change. You can only aid in the change. Most people don't want to change. Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #19 March 26, 2007 QuoteNot only do I think it's possible, I think it's almost assured as part of the aging and experience-gathering processes. There aren't many 40-year-olds who act essentially identical to the way they did when they were 20. Blues, Dave You mean you used to be worse? Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #20 March 26, 2007 Quote You mean you used to be worse? Perhaps a little bit. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #21 March 26, 2007 QuoteQuote You mean you used to be worse? Perhaps a little bit. Blues, Dave No sense in being modest now.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #22 March 26, 2007 QuoteI've done it. Once upon a time, I was considered by many to be the most negative person on the face of the earth. I decided that had to change, so I MADE myself change. I just made myself look at things differently, and over time it worked. I wouldn't say it's permanent, though, albeit also not fake. Sometimes I can feel myself slipping, so I just tune up a bit. Not to say I'm not still a cynic, but my most vocalized word is no longer "hate". That's crazy, I was going to post the exact same thing!! It took years of self-realization and lots of study for me to 'will' my personality to improve. -Part of that was giving myself a break...I am still having a challenge combating negative self-talk. That's what I am working on changing now. Actually, I am pretty proud of the person I have become, looking back at the person I was. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #23 March 26, 2007 QuoteQuote You mean you used to be worse? Perhaps a little bit. Blues, Dave I'm speechless..... g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #24 March 26, 2007 QuoteQuoteQuote You mean you used to be worse? Perhaps a little bit. Blues, Dave I'm speechless..... g I'm not 40 yet dammit! When I am, I'm sure I'll act different than I did when I was 20. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #25 March 26, 2007 Your weeme is kinda cute.... so I may forgive you for deceiving all these wonderful people on DZ.com. If you turn off your privacy, I'll sing your praises on DZ.com.... g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
