How do you deal with anger?

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Yup. That's why I run. Fuck-load cheaper, too.

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[ACMESkydiver 0]

Here's how I deal with anger:

I cuss out the individual I'm angry at. Then I call and cuss out their mother, father, sisters, brothers, children, employers, employees, doctor, 5th grade school teacher, mailman, creditors, pastor, dry cleaner, and the girl at the coffee shop that served them their last Venti Mocha with whip.

I call and order 50 pizzas to be delivered COD to their home. I put out a neighborhood watch for a level 4 sex offender living at their address. I give collection agencies their home phone number. I list their phone number in 'Who's Who' porn conventions.

I give their address to Jehova's witnesses and LDS. I call the local news stations and tell them of breaking news public indeceny occuring at their home address. I put them on every 'Do you know anyone that could benefit from our services?' questionnaire from every company I have ever dealt with.

I call every national charity for MS, Heart Disease, Cancer, Firefighters, Law Enforcement, Veterans, Mentally Retarded, Cerebral Palsy, Girl and Boy Scouts, Autism, Shrine Templers, and tell them that this person was excited about making a $1,000 donation to their cause, "...but be persistent, because they screen calls for sales people."

Then I call Kirby and request a free demo in their home. I call the local Avon and Mary Kay reps and schedule in-home consultations for the same one hour block for both reps in that person's home. I put out flyers in the local grade schools announcing that person's address and that they would LOVE to help out the school's fund raiser for cookie dough or wrapping paper or whatever the hell they are doing.

Then I break into their home and leave a 'positive' pregnancy test in their master bathroom and a bottle of cheap cologne in the husband's medicine cabinet. I leave an obnoxious shade of lipstick in the wife's cosmetics bag. I fax their picture to every major bank within a 25 square foot radius and list them as bank robbers on the run.

I make every aspect of their life into a living hell until they beg forgiveness for pissing me off.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

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I make every aspect of their life into a living hell until they beg forgiveness for pissing me off.

Was I married to you once.

[skymama 37]

You do have to find a way to breathe deeply and just let it go. Remember that the anger you are feeling is only eating YOU up, it is doing nothing to the person you are angry with. You cannot control another person's behavior, but you can control how you react to them.

Holding onto anger is unproductive and a waste of energy. Focus instead of a way to fix the problem or at least find the silver lining. There's always a silver lining if you look hard enough.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

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I make every aspect of their life into a living hell until they beg forgiveness for pissing me off.

Was I married to you once.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[ntrprnr 0]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

I should also mention that I smush my cats.

This involves picking up a cat and holding in your arms, with their stomach facing you. Then you place your head into their stomach and go "BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB" until they squirm away or until you feel better.

It works really, really well. Not as well as running, but well enough. :)

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You do have to find a way to breathe deeply and just let it go.

Must be a Greenie thing...

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[skymama 37]

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Must be a Greenie thing...

Well, we've certainly had a lot of practice!

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Richards 0]

Drink yourself into a coma. Always works for me.

Richards

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

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My uncle just recently died. The doctors are charging him $350K, of which his estate owes $70K. He's only got 120K to begin with, and by the time it's all done, he and his loved ones are going to end up with nothing. Is this what we have to look forward to in life?

Frist. Sorry for your loss. I think your uncle did accomplish a lot in life to have generated such strong feeling from those who care so deeply.

Second. Sorry for the burden of anger about debts. As Tonto said, I'm sure that it wasn't the intent of his doctors or the hospitals to empty his estate. But, hopefully he/you did get something for that cost. Extra minutes or days with him, relief of pain, a dignified death. All of those are priceless. But that's easy to say when it's not my checkbook. I can understand your frustration though.... it's difficult being the surviving relatives... to see the estate become reduced. But instead of thinking of the money that's "lost," remind yourself of what he truly gave you.

"Is htis what we have to look forward in life?"
Yes and No. Death will always be there.... Money is fluid. Just enjoy the time you have and don't let this anger consume you.

Karen

[normiss 798]

I am so in agreement with Tonto here...just take a deep breath and let it go.
Jealousy and anger both are feelings that will eat you up inside...best to simply let them pass.
breath, move, shake, let it go....

[Muenkel 0]

This might not be the best time to bring this up. You did mention that you reside in Westchester County, NY. It was just reported in the news today that Westchester County has the highest real estate taxes in the country.

Just trying to give you something different to be pissed about.

Seriously, my condolences on the loss of your uncle. It's a tough time, but you'll get through it.

BTW, the way I deal with my anger is to bottle it up. Not a good thing, but it's a bad habit I've had since I was a kid.

Chris

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[BillyVance 34]

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I punch things. So you probably shouldn't do what I do.

I used to punch holes in walls, even doors... you should see the scars and callouses on my right hand...

Nowadays, I take the axe and go outside to whack the shit out of an old stump.

I know, not a healthy way to deal with anger, but the stump gets smaller and smaller...

"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban

[StreetScooby 5]

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Here's how I deal with anger:

I cuss out the individual I'm angry at. Then I call and cuss out their mother, father, sisters, brothers, children, employers, employees, doctor, 5th grade school teacher, mailman, creditors, pastor, dry cleaner, and the girl at the coffee shop that served them their last Venti Mocha with whip.

I call and order 50 pizzas to be delivered COD to their home. I put out a neighborhood watch for a level 4 sex offender living at their address. I give collection agencies their home phone number. I list their phone number in 'Who's Who' porn conventions.

I give their address to Jehova's witnesses and LDS. I call the local news stations and tell them of breaking news public indeceny occuring at their home address. I put them on every 'Do you know anyone that could benefit from our services?' questionnaire from every company I have ever dealt with.

I call every national charity for MS, Heart Disease, Cancer, Firefighters, Law Enforcement, Veterans, Mentally Retarded, Cerebral Palsy, Girl and Boy Scouts, Autism, Shrine Templers, and tell them that this person was excited about making a $1,000 donation to their cause, "...but be persistent, because they screen calls for sales people."

Then I call Kirby and request a free demo in their home. I call the local Avon and Mary Kay reps and schedule in-home consultations for the same one hour block for both reps in that person's home. I put out flyers in the local grade schools announcing that person's address and that they would LOVE to help out the school's fund raiser for cookie dough or wrapping paper or whatever the hell they are doing.

Then I break into their home and leave a 'positive' pregnancy test in their master bathroom and a bottle of cheap cologne in the husband's medicine cabinet. I leave an obnoxious shade of lipstick in the wife's cosmetics bag. I fax their picture to every major bank within a 25 square foot radius and list them as bank robbers on the run.

I make every aspect of their life into a living hell until they beg forgiveness for pissing me off.

LOL!!!

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[StreetScooby 5]

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It was just reported in the news today that Westchester County has the highest real estate taxes in the country

Yes, they do. Andy Spano has been county executive for many years now, and it looks like he will be until he dies (there's no term limit for Westchester county executive). It is depressing.

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[Zenister 0]

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I let it go. Anger's not going to do you any good.

agreed.

learning to recognize productive behavior vs unproductive behavior is key, and it part of the learning process. One that is sadly neglected in modern society...

"do nothing which is of no use"

does anger help your situation? (there are times when it, or the appearance of it does, but they are few and far between)

are you making clear decisions and just letting off steam??
or does the anger become the primary motivator?

Feeling Angry isnt a problem... any more than Feeling any other emotion..
letting your Emotions 'push you around' is short sighted, unproductive, silly and generally adolescent behavior..

making people angry is a decent way to control them actually... Not letting someone anger you, pushes the control in your direction

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

I beat up old ladiesand throw puppies out of high floored windows.

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I beat up old ladiesand throw puppies out of high floored windows.

cough cough cough cough


I have seen different

[Zenister 0]

he was kidding..


Old ladies are more fun to watch fly than puppies...

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Old ladies are more fun to watch fly than puppies...

Yeah.. you watch from above....floatbutt

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he was kidding..


Old ladies are more fun to watch fly than puppies...

Well yeah, remember the wrist-mounted video of an old lady tandem passenger losing her fake teeth in freefall?

"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban

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Feeling Angry isnt a problem... any more than Feeling any other emotion..
letting your Emotions 'push you around' is short sighted, unproductive, silly and generally adolescent behavior..

While the feeling is pretty potent, it isn't driving my behavior. That's not the issue. It's turning into a persistent feeling that stays there. It's been a long time since I've had to contend with a consistently potent negative feeling. Again, it does not and will not drive my behavior. My wife can sense it, as I tend to be one of those guys who "gives vibes" without realizing/trying. Thus, I'm staying off NYC subways right now by working from home

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[NWFlyer 2]

I try to stop it very early in the feeling of being angry. I take a deep breath and I laugh at myself a little. I look at what got me worked up and I generally realize pretty quickly how irrational it is.

If I can stop the anger before it really gets full steam, it's easier to have that perspective. It takes working on it, regularly, for that type of behavior to really sink in. For me, I started out doing it with traveling and travel-related stress. I call it "Finding my travel zen place," and I'm pretty good at it now.

I remember very specifically when it started. I was in grad school, flying back from an interview, stuck in DC when I had plans back in Durham for the night. I was stressed and angry, then I took a deep breath and looked at the situation and I said "What good is being angry right now? Is it getting me home ANY faster?" I realized the answer was no, and I went over and got a beer in the airport bar and I felt the stress release from my body as I watched and smiled at everyone else running around all tensed up.

So start with the little stressors / irritants in your life and work your way up to the bigger things. For the bigger things - can you channel the anger / frustration / sadness into something productive? Something that will deflect it into something positive?

Random example... the Saturday after 9/11, I was scheduled to do a volunteer project. All week, like most of us, I'd been moping around in a bit of a stupor, angry, sad, confused. I didn't really feel like going to this volunteer project, but I went, and it turned out to be the best thing I could do. I certainly couldn't fix the big problems of the world, but there was something cathartic and therapeutic about fixing one little one that day.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke