How do you deal with anger?

[Zenister 0]

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It's turning into a persistent feeling that stays there. It's been a long time since I've had to contend with a consistently potent negative feeling.

if you cant find the source of your Anger, then you might seek therapy.. mainly because a trained therapist can help you talk thru your issues to (hopefully) let you deal with them..

dealing with being Angry isnt hard, particularly if your aware enough to recognize when it IS affecting your behavior.. but not knowing WHY you are angry (or still Angry after something minor) would tend to indicate there is an underlying issue that isnt being addressed, and it is 'coloring' everything else..

(not a mental health professional... but I have alot of personal experience with Anger and Anger Management)

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[StreetScooby 5]

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if you cant find the source of your Anger,

I know why I'm angry. I've discussed in a previous post. And, yes, there are underlying issues this episode has tapped into. I just need to let it pass, though it's difficult.

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[Skyrad 0]

Breath, think, give yourself a wee bit of space and get it all back into perspective. Then move on from the emotion and deal with the cause of the stress.

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[FlankSteak 0]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

Specially doing this time you can buy a punkin, carve (or draw) a face into it, usually someone who really pisses you off, and jab a knife into repeatedly, while listening to Mudvayne. I tell ya, I feel so much better after one of those episodes. Either that or skydive.

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[RkyMtnHigh 0]

Do you have a dartboard? You can put whatever is bothering you on the bullseye and get it out that way. Or, you can write it down on a piece of flash paper, light it, and poof!

...or better yet, just let it go. Life is too short for stress, anger and other negative emotions. Over time it affects your health...just not worth it. It takes less energy to smile and laugh, so perhaps find some humor in whatever made you angry.

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[StreetScooby 5]

Lots of interesting ideas here. I really appreciate all of the feedback.

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[yamtx73 0]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

I remove myself from the situation or people who are pissing me off.

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[Thanatos340 1]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

Uhhh.. I Shoot Things

Nothing like a Little .45 Caliber Stress Releif.

And If I had a Really Bad day, Nothing like a few 50 round clips of 7.62x39 mm to melt away all your troubles.

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Uhhh.. I Shoot Things

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[TMPattersonJr 0]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

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[leapdog 0]

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I'm curious how yall deal with anger. I'm going through a phase right now where I'm pretty pissed off. Need some ideas on how to deal with it.

Find something new or in some cases someone new to distract you. Pretty soon you'll forget all about what/who was pissing you off. Someone else stated they remove themselves from the people or situtation that brings that out in them. Good advice. Sometimes it's not that easy but when you have to do it you know when and how.

I went through it a few times and told each and every person when I was done, that I was done- the end. (in more or less words) The latest was easier because of all the time I had to do that before. Now I'm so distracted with other things and people. They and the situation doesn't even really cross my mind and when it does I just shrug it off and move on to another thought- no emotion involved.

Gunnery Sergeant of Marines
"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

[lisamariewillbe 1]

You definitly deserve major respect. Not many people can come through what you have with as much integrity. Good on ya. I strieve for that to. Im getting good at look right grab right, look left pull right pull left...

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[leapdog 0]

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You definitly deserve major respect. Not many people can come through what you have with as much integrity. Good on ya. I strieve for that to. Im getting good at look right grab right, look left pull right pull left...

Thanks. Sometimes just cutting away from people or situations is enough no need to pull the reserve immediately.

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"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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Thanks. Sometimes just cutting away from people or situations is enough no need to pull the reserve immediately

Yes, definitly give the main time to clear so its a clean cutaway. It is a learning process in life, sometimes people learn later in life... Thats me, but Im getting there. People like you who show its effectiveness encourage those like me.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[apollard24 0]

Yeah Kudos to someone that can REALLY do what they say they are...

Breathe out so I can breathe you in...

[leapdog 0]

Non of us are perfect thus the need to cutaway once and a while. I used to try to be a inspriation to others, now I'm just back to basics with just taking care of myself. In the process if someone can get something from me in an insprirational manner then good, but I won't take credit since I wasn't trying. Interaction with others is always a learning process now and then even if the lesson is an example of what not to do.

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"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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Non of us are perfect thus the need to cutaway once and a while. I used to try to be a inspriation to others, now I'm just back to basics with just taking care of myself. In the process if someone can get something from me in an insprirational manner then good, but I won't take credit since I wasn't trying. Interaction with others is always a learning process now and then even if the lesson is an example of what not to do

Over time the need to cutaway becomes less and less which is a good thing. Just stay true to yourself and at the end of the day, thats what matters. With all the death this past year Ive learned TRUELY learned life is to short and I fill life with those I trust and care for and sometimes they let me down and sometimes I let them down.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[leapdog 0]

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Yeah Kudos to someone that can REALLY do what they say they are...

Ouch. Who put you up to that? There is not a single person out there that would ever join the club that would have them as a member. No even you.

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"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

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Kids...I know the background to these posts. Don't make me lock this thread. Play nice!

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[Carpediem 0]

A nice fat spliff usually does the trick

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[Shell666 0]

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Yeah Kudos to someone that can REALLY do what they say they are...

Ouch. Who put you up to that? There is not a single person out there that would ever join the club that would have them as a member. No even you.

Huh?? What brought that reply up? To me, she was giving you a "way to go".

You posted some good things about letting anger go but this reply, hmmm ... I think you might need to re-read some of your own advice (and maybe some of the other advice given here).

Don't allow this thread to get locked. There's a lot of good info here. It's not fair to those people that are looking for it.

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I probably pissed off a few people last week. Sorry about that. This week should go better now that I have identified that the last two years (and especially last 7 months) have taken their toll on my mental acuity and physical well-being and have taken steps to deal with it.

Yeah, I've been exhausted - mentally, physically and emotionally - but unable to admit to anyone (especially myself) that I have been. This led to a couple of decent screw-ups at work that were caught before the products went out.

Obviously, making mistakes that are pretty out-of-character and entirely out-of-the-ordinary were cause for reflection.

It's tough to admit I can't do no more. But, when I finally admitted that I'm tapped out, the result was refreshing. It's like the stressors that had me waking up in the middle of the night every night for the last month were finally put into perpective, i.e., they can wait. Friday night was the first solid night's sleep I had in a month. While I'm normally up at 5 a.m. (even on weekends - so much to do) I slept in until 8:00. It looks like things are improving. Yeah, it'll take me at least 4 years to catch up on my rest, but I have a plan for that.

Still, allow me to apologize to those I may have upset in my at times unnecessarily frank posts I made last week. I even admitted last week I was in an asshole kinda mood. Darius - thanks for calling me on it. Unfortunately, in the coming days it would get even worse.

But better now. Weekends are too short.

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[rehmwa 2]

I visualize a small bottle in the pit of my stomache and just PACK that anger in there and mentally cork off that bottle.

Whenever more anger comes up, bing! into the bottle it goes.

If the anger seems to be escaping, I just stuff it baack in on top of the other anger and force that cork back in the bottle.

The little voices in my head say it's a good way to do it. But the trouble is I can't hear the voices anymore over the buzzing and the tick-tock, tick-tock, TICK-TOCK in the background.

Where the hell is that clock? Can anyone else hear it?

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[kbordson 8]

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Where the hell is that clock? Can anyone else hear it?

Your biological clock? I thought most guys didn't have one.

[kallend 2,026]

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I probably pissed off a few people last week. Sorry about that. This week should go better now that I have identified that the last two years (and especially last 7 months) have taken their toll on my mental acuity and physical well-being and have taken steps to deal with it.

Yeah, I've been exhausted - mentally, physically and emotionally - but unable to admit to anyone (especially myself) that I have been. This led to a couple of decent screw-ups at work that were caught before the products went out.

Obviously, making mistakes that are pretty out-of-character and entirely out-of-the-ordinary were cause for reflection.

It's tough to admit I can't do no more. But, when I finally admitted that I'm tapped out, the result was refreshing. It's like the stressors that had me waking up in the middle of the night every night for the last month were finally put into perpective, i.e., they can wait. Friday night was the first solid night's sleep I had in a month. While I'm normally up at 5 a.m. (even on weekends - so much to do) I slept in until 8:00. It looks like things are improving. Yeah, it'll take me at least 4 years to catch up on my rest, but I have a plan for that.

Still, allow me to apologize to those I may have upset in my at times unnecessarily frank posts I made last week. I even admitted last week I was in an asshole kinda mood. Darius - thanks for calling me on it. Unfortunately, in the coming days it would get even worse.

But better now. Weekends are too short.

11 years ago I had a totally asshat boss (the VP that I reported to as dean was a complete jerk). My solution to the stress problem was to take up skydiving.

Make more jumps!

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