Gifts from EX

[Richards 0]

Do you retain gifts from your Ex if they are good gifts even though you are now with someone new? My ex from a long time ago gave me a really funny coffee cup when we were dating. My wife doesn't like that I still want to hang on to it. It's not that I am trying to keep it as a memory of my ex (I really have no interest in remembering her); it is really just a funny cup.

Am I being an insensitive dick or is she maybe being a bit too sensitive?

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[JENNR8R 0]

It doesn't matter if she is being a bit too sensitive or not.

If momma ain't happy... then nobody's happy... and she will remember this forever.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[Richards 0]

But it is just a coffee cup. Do you throw away everything that you received from your ex?

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[IanHarrop 42]

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It doesn't matter if she is being a bit too sensitive or not.

If momma ain't happy... then nobody's happy... and she will remember this forever.

They remember EVERYTHING FOREVER.

Even if he gets rid of it now he'll still be in the dog house because he did not dispose of the cup before he met her. She'll never forget, never forgive and throw it all in his face with every other little "faux pas" till the end of his days.

Sorry but he's just done like dinner, and he might as well keep the cup.

Have a nice day

"Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops, that's where you'll find me" Dorothy

[JENNR8R 0]

If it bothered my new husband, I would. Like you said, it's just a coffee cup. It's a small price to pay for peace in your household. The item is irrelevant. What is relevant is how your wife feels about it.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[Richards 0]

That was my default position. If it has to go it has to go. I guess I figured someone here might have had a similar experience and might be able to suggest something I could say to her that might make her less bothered by it. Either way it won't be the end of the world but it is a nice cup so it will be disappointing to get rid of it.

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[karenmeal 0]

I don't think you should lose the coffee cup!

Explain to your wife that you have kept the cup not to remind you of your ex, but because you just liked the cup. If she is still being unreasonable I think you should tell her that she can go find you an identical cup and then you will throw that one out and keep the new one as a memory of the fact that your wife couldn't let go of something so insignificant.

Of course, if she has PMS, is pregnant or recently gave birth.. hide the cup and do not use it until the crazy-hormone phase has passed.

"Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham

[Icon134 0]

realizing of course she does now know it was give to you by an EX... why would she ever need to know where you got it in the first place?

I'm sorry I probably can't actually offer any very good advice wrt to your situation since I've never actually had to deal with it myself.

Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife...

[JENNR8R 0]

Here's the rub... You have to do it willingly and without anger. No brownie points if you can't pull that one off.

Smashing it to pieces with a hammer on the kitchen floor is not going to endear your sacrifice to her. You might as well keep it.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[Royd 0]

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Am I being an insensitive dick or is she maybe being a bit too sensitive?

Unless she's willing to get rid of the memories of her past life, I'd tell her to grow up.

[LisaH 0]

I personally think it's just silly that a new SO would have a problem with gifts from an ex. Unless it's something intimate. A coffee cup that has a funny picture or quote on it is not intimate. Keep the cup.

Be yourself!
MooOOooOoo

[n23x 0]

Tell her what a hooker she is being and do what the previous poster mentioned:

make her ass go buy you an identical one, which you tell her you'll replace the old one with. when she gives you the new one, take the old one out and switch them back and forth a ton until you can't tell which is which. then ask her which one to toss. Even if she tosses both, she still had to waste her time to buy a new one, which she deserves for being an oversensitive whiny pants (or Vagina McGinstein, as it were).

.jim

"Don't touch my fucking Easter eggs, I'll be back monday." ~JTFC

[labrys 0]

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Do you retain gifts from your Ex if they are good gifts even though you are now with someone new? My ex from a long time ago gave me a really funny coffee cup when we were dating. My wife doesn't like that I still want to hang on to it.

So you screwed up when you told your wife that the cup was a gift from an ex. Why even mention that part in the first place? She probably sees it as a challenge now when it could have been nothing if you hadn't told her. Your fault, bucko. Lose the cup.

Owned by Remi #?

[Richards 0]

Gracias,

She is actually really great. She just seems bugged by the cup. But you bring up a good point with the replacement. I doubt she can find one exactly the same but I will suggest thet she get me one that is funny and I may be willing to lose it.

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[Richards 0]

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You have to do it willingly and without anger.....Smashing it to pieces with a hammer on the kitchen floor

It's not that big of a deal to me. I will just be disappointed to lose a good cup.

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[Richards 0]

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I'd tell her to grow up.

[Richards 0]

That is my take. It is an inanimate object of no emotional significance to me. I just find it funny and cannot find one that would replace it. Sigh.

My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within.

[Richards 0]

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So you screwed up when you told your wife that the cup was a gift from an ex. Why even mention that part in the first place?

I don't know. I never thought it would be that big of a deal. If she had a gift from a former boyfreind it would not bother me (unless it was a ring or lingerie).

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it could have been nothing if you hadn't told her. Your fault, bucko. Lose the cup.

[karenmeal 0]

I've definitely had my share of irrational moments. (And yes, some jealousy.)

But there has never been a problem like that which couldn't be solved by open communication between me and my boyfriend.

"Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham

[JENNR8R 0]

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You have to do it willingly and without anger.....Smashing it to pieces with a hammer on the kitchen floor

It's not that big of a deal to me. I will just be disappointed to lose a good cup.

[GravityJunky 0]

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Here's the rub... You have to do it willingly and without anger. No brownie points if you can't pull that one off.

oHH You said "RUB" Stop that Mama Your getting me excited!

*My Inner Child is A Fucking Prick Too!
*Everyones entitled to be stupid but you are abusing the priviledge
*Well I'd love to stay & chat, But youre a total Bitch! {Stewie}

[popsjumper 2]

Send me the cup. I'll hold on to it for you and send it back when you two get divorced. How's that?

My reality and yours are quite different.
I think we're all Bozos on this bus.
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I've kept some stuff and tossed some stuff. I've even set some stuff on fire. It depends on the mood really....

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[JENNR8R 0]

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Here's the rub... You have to do it willingly and without anger. No brownie points if you can't pull that one off.

oHH You said "RUB" Stop that Mama Your getting me excited!

There's no rubbing involved with a cat-'o-nine tails.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[ExAFO 0]

I mailed back all of her belongings and the gifts that were not everyday items easily disposed of (i.e. I kept the printer and the...shit, I don't even rememnber what the bitch gave me for Christmas...)

Illinois needs a CCW Law. NOW.