Squeak 17 #26 February 4, 2007 QuoteIf it bothered my new husband, I would. Like you said, it's just a coffee cup. It's a small price to pay for peace in your household. The item is irrelevant. What is relevant is how your wife feels about it. Exactly, and it's his wife that need to get over it. she is the one with the issueYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #27 February 4, 2007 QuoteAm I being an insensitive dick or is she maybe being a bit too sensitive? She's being whiney, manipulative and territorial. It's up to you whether you choose to enable that behavior by going along with it. I might feel differently if it were *not* something innocuous and inexpensive or if it were anything that was even a little suggestive that your ex wanted you back. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #28 February 4, 2007 I gave my ex her protrack and her alti galaxy, do you think she'll throw those out?Divot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #29 February 5, 2007 QuoteI gave my ex her protrack and her alti galaxy, do you think she'll throw those out? Are you looking for your next ex cause i'm available. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #30 February 5, 2007 Keep the cup... Hell, I still have a diamond ring my ex gave me... I don't wear it, but he didn't want it back, so I kept it. It's just a cup, and not a ring. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cloudseeker2001 0 #31 February 5, 2007 Don't let that chick push you around......It is your coffee cup, it was with you before her and it will be with you after she has gone! But you probably should only drink out of it when she is not around! "Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance, others mean and rueful of the western dream" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richards 0 #32 February 5, 2007 QuoteShe's being whiney, manipulative and territorial. It's up to you whether you choose to enable that behavior by going along with it. I think I may have given you guys the wrong impression of her. She does have a bit of a hang-up about this but she really is a wonderfull person. She supports all of my ambitions even if they are not the best career choices. She is just bugged by the cup. It might also be an aggrivating factor that the cup is somewhat rude. But yes, I do not like throwing stuff out and I think she may be overreacting to this one. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #33 February 5, 2007 QuoteI think I may have given you guys the wrong impression of her. She does have a bit of a hang-up about this but she really is a wonderfull person. She supports all of my ambitions even if they are not the best career choices. She is just bugged by the cup. It might also be an aggrivating factor that the cup is somewhat rude. But yes, I do not like throwing stuff out and I think she may be overreacting to this one. It's not about the cup. I can't imagine anyone getting bent out of shape over a cup except for some very unusual circumstances. It's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #34 February 5, 2007 Walts completely right. Its a friggen cup, you married her not the ex and at the end of the day you climb into bed with her, who gives a crap if when you wake up you use a cup your ex got you. Sounds like shes just wants to be the end all be all to youSudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #35 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt might also be an aggrivating factor that the cup is somewhat rude. What does the cup say? "Sex Instructor, Rates Negotiable""Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #36 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteI gave my ex her protrack and her alti galaxy, do you think she'll throw those out? Are you looking for your next ex cause i'm available. Fuck it. The next person I am looking to buy those for is me myself and I. I hate my FT-50. I am not looking for my next ex right now ...Divot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #37 February 5, 2007 Whats more important? Her feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #38 February 5, 2007 "Sounds like shes just wants to be the end all be all to you" You get all of that out of her wanting him to get rid of a coffee cup?? You kidding right?? BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #39 February 5, 2007 It took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" My initial gut reaction to the very first post was, "Tell her to grow up". However, what the heck is so special about this cup? Why does EITHER of you care this much about a stupid cup? What is so 'great' about this cup that makes it difficult to replace? Is it possible that she may be instictively right, and you are harboring lingering feelings for this ex? Or does the cup say something like, "I love how you make me tingle, Big Boy!"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skymama 37 #40 February 5, 2007 Tell her not to sweat the small stuff. I mean, really...you married her, not the ex. It's just a cup.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites waltappel 1 #41 February 5, 2007 QuoteWhats more important? Being manipulated by her completely baseless, arbitrary feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? Bobbi There, fixed it for ya'. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Samurai136 0 #42 February 5, 2007 Quote It took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" Sorry. I'll try and keep better tabs on these types of threads in the future."Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sartre 0 #43 February 5, 2007 My point was, I am surprised nobody thought to ask that much sooner. Unless it says something that would be upsetting to her, I don't understand why it would bother her so much. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jewels 0 #44 February 5, 2007 Hmmm, I kind of see it from the other side, I guess. I think if that kind of thing bothered ME, it wouldn't be because I was concerned that my partner was harboring old feelings for the ex. It would be because the gift symbolized the ex's one-time feelings for my partner. Granted, we're just talking about a coffee cup but it's something you see and use every day or so. So, every time it comes out of the cupboard, it's a visual reminder of the old relationship. I don't think I'd be upset about a coffee cup, but I can see how it could be irksome. The past may be long over, but the reminder just goes on and on. A coffee cup problem may be taking it a little far, but I think we've already agreed that the coffee cup itself isn't the underlying issue.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #45 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteWhats more important? Her feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? Well obviously if it were to turn into a crisis the cup would go. At this stage it is something she simply would prefer I got rid of. It's not actually causing fights or anything, just minor complaints and some subtle pressure. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #46 February 5, 2007 Does the cup have a provacative slogan or phrase? You mentioned that it's suggestive or something of that nature? I'd feel kind of weird if my husband kept a cup that said something with a sexual tone from an ex. Marriage always comes down to give and take...if it is just a simple mug...and she's said that it bothers her...can't you get another funny cup? Justified or not, she told you how she felt. -Honestly, can we always justify the way we feel? I can't. It's not like a car or something. Isn't $4 worth keeping your wife happy? Has she accomodated something like this for you in the past? If she hasn't, would she? If the situation were reversed...would she do this for you? Just some thoughts. I'd give up a coffee cup if it would make my husband happy. -I can't imagine any $4 mug that I'd keep knowing that my husband's feelings were hurt when he saw it. I wouldn't make him justify it, personally. If it made him feel bad, it's gone. That's just me. Good luck.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #47 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteIt took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" It doesn't sound funny to describe and you would probably have to know me well to find it funny but I will describe it anyway. Basically this cup has a hole through the centre (like a tube from one side to the other so I can still drink out of it) with the word "Ass" above it and about 6 exclamaition marks (!!!!!!!) after it. Basically it screams that the owner of the cup (me) is an asshole. Most of my freinds found it quite funny and said it was perfect for me. QuoteHowever, what the heck is so special about this cup? Why does EITHER of you care this much about a stupid cup? There is nothing "special" about the cup. I just find it amusing. QuoteIs it possible that she may be instictively right, and you are harboring lingering feelings for this ex? Nope. I have neither positive or negative feelings towards this ex. She is simply a part of my history and I do not think about her. It was a very long time ago and I maintain no contact with her and I have no intention changing that. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #48 February 5, 2007 I have all sorts of things from my last marriage. I don't really hold onto them because of WHO gave them to me, but because I liked them. There are some things that I may get rid of in the future, but only because I've decided it's time. If there is ever anything that might cause a rift, I'm sure it could be discussed and worked out to a mutual satisfaction. The only thing that I'd feel a little funny about would be an engagement/wedding ring. Keep them for your kids if you want, but don't wear them for goodness sake! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #49 February 5, 2007 Thats my position. Generally she is usually not like this. I have female freinds (and she has guy freinds) and neither of us has any insecurity but for some reason the cup bugs her. Cheers My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #50 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Nah. We actually have a great marriage (not many people would put up with me). I might have inadvertently given the wrong impression with my initial post. This is not causing a marital rift or any sort of bitterness around the house. She admits that it seems a bit picky but it bugs her. She is not giving me any ultimatums though. Either way it is not a catastrophe, it is just one of those things. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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skymama 37 #40 February 5, 2007 Tell her not to sweat the small stuff. I mean, really...you married her, not the ex. It's just a cup.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #41 February 5, 2007 QuoteWhats more important? Being manipulated by her completely baseless, arbitrary feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? Bobbi There, fixed it for ya'. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #42 February 5, 2007 Quote It took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" Sorry. I'll try and keep better tabs on these types of threads in the future."Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #43 February 5, 2007 My point was, I am surprised nobody thought to ask that much sooner. Unless it says something that would be upsetting to her, I don't understand why it would bother her so much. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jewels 0 #44 February 5, 2007 Hmmm, I kind of see it from the other side, I guess. I think if that kind of thing bothered ME, it wouldn't be because I was concerned that my partner was harboring old feelings for the ex. It would be because the gift symbolized the ex's one-time feelings for my partner. Granted, we're just talking about a coffee cup but it's something you see and use every day or so. So, every time it comes out of the cupboard, it's a visual reminder of the old relationship. I don't think I'd be upset about a coffee cup, but I can see how it could be irksome. The past may be long over, but the reminder just goes on and on. A coffee cup problem may be taking it a little far, but I think we've already agreed that the coffee cup itself isn't the underlying issue.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #45 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteWhats more important? Her feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? Well obviously if it were to turn into a crisis the cup would go. At this stage it is something she simply would prefer I got rid of. It's not actually causing fights or anything, just minor complaints and some subtle pressure. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #46 February 5, 2007 Does the cup have a provacative slogan or phrase? You mentioned that it's suggestive or something of that nature? I'd feel kind of weird if my husband kept a cup that said something with a sexual tone from an ex. Marriage always comes down to give and take...if it is just a simple mug...and she's said that it bothers her...can't you get another funny cup? Justified or not, she told you how she felt. -Honestly, can we always justify the way we feel? I can't. It's not like a car or something. Isn't $4 worth keeping your wife happy? Has she accomodated something like this for you in the past? If she hasn't, would she? If the situation were reversed...would she do this for you? Just some thoughts. I'd give up a coffee cup if it would make my husband happy. -I can't imagine any $4 mug that I'd keep knowing that my husband's feelings were hurt when he saw it. I wouldn't make him justify it, personally. If it made him feel bad, it's gone. That's just me. Good luck.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #47 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteIt took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" It doesn't sound funny to describe and you would probably have to know me well to find it funny but I will describe it anyway. Basically this cup has a hole through the centre (like a tube from one side to the other so I can still drink out of it) with the word "Ass" above it and about 6 exclamaition marks (!!!!!!!) after it. Basically it screams that the owner of the cup (me) is an asshole. Most of my freinds found it quite funny and said it was perfect for me. QuoteHowever, what the heck is so special about this cup? Why does EITHER of you care this much about a stupid cup? There is nothing "special" about the cup. I just find it amusing. QuoteIs it possible that she may be instictively right, and you are harboring lingering feelings for this ex? Nope. I have neither positive or negative feelings towards this ex. She is simply a part of my history and I do not think about her. It was a very long time ago and I maintain no contact with her and I have no intention changing that. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #48 February 5, 2007 I have all sorts of things from my last marriage. I don't really hold onto them because of WHO gave them to me, but because I liked them. There are some things that I may get rid of in the future, but only because I've decided it's time. If there is ever anything that might cause a rift, I'm sure it could be discussed and worked out to a mutual satisfaction. The only thing that I'd feel a little funny about would be an engagement/wedding ring. Keep them for your kids if you want, but don't wear them for goodness sake! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #49 February 5, 2007 Thats my position. Generally she is usually not like this. I have female freinds (and she has guy freinds) and neither of us has any insecurity but for some reason the cup bugs her. Cheers My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #50 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Nah. We actually have a great marriage (not many people would put up with me). I might have inadvertently given the wrong impression with my initial post. This is not causing a marital rift or any sort of bitterness around the house. She admits that it seems a bit picky but it bugs her. She is not giving me any ultimatums though. Either way it is not a catastrophe, it is just one of those things. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
Jewels 0 #44 February 5, 2007 Hmmm, I kind of see it from the other side, I guess. I think if that kind of thing bothered ME, it wouldn't be because I was concerned that my partner was harboring old feelings for the ex. It would be because the gift symbolized the ex's one-time feelings for my partner. Granted, we're just talking about a coffee cup but it's something you see and use every day or so. So, every time it comes out of the cupboard, it's a visual reminder of the old relationship. I don't think I'd be upset about a coffee cup, but I can see how it could be irksome. The past may be long over, but the reminder just goes on and on. A coffee cup problem may be taking it a little far, but I think we've already agreed that the coffee cup itself isn't the underlying issue.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richards 0 #45 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteWhats more important? Her feelings or the lame ass coffee cup? Well obviously if it were to turn into a crisis the cup would go. At this stage it is something she simply would prefer I got rid of. It's not actually causing fights or anything, just minor complaints and some subtle pressure. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #46 February 5, 2007 Does the cup have a provacative slogan or phrase? You mentioned that it's suggestive or something of that nature? I'd feel kind of weird if my husband kept a cup that said something with a sexual tone from an ex. Marriage always comes down to give and take...if it is just a simple mug...and she's said that it bothers her...can't you get another funny cup? Justified or not, she told you how she felt. -Honestly, can we always justify the way we feel? I can't. It's not like a car or something. Isn't $4 worth keeping your wife happy? Has she accomodated something like this for you in the past? If she hasn't, would she? If the situation were reversed...would she do this for you? Just some thoughts. I'd give up a coffee cup if it would make my husband happy. -I can't imagine any $4 mug that I'd keep knowing that my husband's feelings were hurt when he saw it. I wouldn't make him justify it, personally. If it made him feel bad, it's gone. That's just me. Good luck.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #47 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteIt took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" It doesn't sound funny to describe and you would probably have to know me well to find it funny but I will describe it anyway. Basically this cup has a hole through the centre (like a tube from one side to the other so I can still drink out of it) with the word "Ass" above it and about 6 exclamaition marks (!!!!!!!) after it. Basically it screams that the owner of the cup (me) is an asshole. Most of my freinds found it quite funny and said it was perfect for me. QuoteHowever, what the heck is so special about this cup? Why does EITHER of you care this much about a stupid cup? There is nothing "special" about the cup. I just find it amusing. QuoteIs it possible that she may be instictively right, and you are harboring lingering feelings for this ex? Nope. I have neither positive or negative feelings towards this ex. She is simply a part of my history and I do not think about her. It was a very long time ago and I maintain no contact with her and I have no intention changing that. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #48 February 5, 2007 I have all sorts of things from my last marriage. I don't really hold onto them because of WHO gave them to me, but because I liked them. There are some things that I may get rid of in the future, but only because I've decided it's time. If there is ever anything that might cause a rift, I'm sure it could be discussed and worked out to a mutual satisfaction. The only thing that I'd feel a little funny about would be an engagement/wedding ring. Keep them for your kids if you want, but don't wear them for goodness sake! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #49 February 5, 2007 Thats my position. Generally she is usually not like this. I have female freinds (and she has guy freinds) and neither of us has any insecurity but for some reason the cup bugs her. Cheers My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #50 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Nah. We actually have a great marriage (not many people would put up with me). I might have inadvertently given the wrong impression with my initial post. This is not causing a marital rift or any sort of bitterness around the house. She admits that it seems a bit picky but it bugs her. She is not giving me any ultimatums though. Either way it is not a catastrophe, it is just one of those things. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
ACMESkydiver 0 #46 February 5, 2007 Does the cup have a provacative slogan or phrase? You mentioned that it's suggestive or something of that nature? I'd feel kind of weird if my husband kept a cup that said something with a sexual tone from an ex. Marriage always comes down to give and take...if it is just a simple mug...and she's said that it bothers her...can't you get another funny cup? Justified or not, she told you how she felt. -Honestly, can we always justify the way we feel? I can't. It's not like a car or something. Isn't $4 worth keeping your wife happy? Has she accomodated something like this for you in the past? If she hasn't, would she? If the situation were reversed...would she do this for you? Just some thoughts. I'd give up a coffee cup if it would make my husband happy. -I can't imagine any $4 mug that I'd keep knowing that my husband's feelings were hurt when he saw it. I wouldn't make him justify it, personally. If it made him feel bad, it's gone. That's just me. Good luck.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richards 0 #47 February 5, 2007 QuoteQuoteIt took 35 posts before anyone asked, "What does the cup say?" It doesn't sound funny to describe and you would probably have to know me well to find it funny but I will describe it anyway. Basically this cup has a hole through the centre (like a tube from one side to the other so I can still drink out of it) with the word "Ass" above it and about 6 exclamaition marks (!!!!!!!) after it. Basically it screams that the owner of the cup (me) is an asshole. Most of my freinds found it quite funny and said it was perfect for me. QuoteHowever, what the heck is so special about this cup? Why does EITHER of you care this much about a stupid cup? There is nothing "special" about the cup. I just find it amusing. QuoteIs it possible that she may be instictively right, and you are harboring lingering feelings for this ex? Nope. I have neither positive or negative feelings towards this ex. She is simply a part of my history and I do not think about her. It was a very long time ago and I maintain no contact with her and I have no intention changing that. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #48 February 5, 2007 I have all sorts of things from my last marriage. I don't really hold onto them because of WHO gave them to me, but because I liked them. There are some things that I may get rid of in the future, but only because I've decided it's time. If there is ever anything that might cause a rift, I'm sure it could be discussed and worked out to a mutual satisfaction. The only thing that I'd feel a little funny about would be an engagement/wedding ring. Keep them for your kids if you want, but don't wear them for goodness sake! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #49 February 5, 2007 Thats my position. Generally she is usually not like this. I have female freinds (and she has guy freinds) and neither of us has any insecurity but for some reason the cup bugs her. Cheers My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Richards 0 #50 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Nah. We actually have a great marriage (not many people would put up with me). I might have inadvertently given the wrong impression with my initial post. This is not causing a marital rift or any sort of bitterness around the house. She admits that it seems a bit picky but it bugs her. She is not giving me any ultimatums though. Either way it is not a catastrophe, it is just one of those things. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
boinky 0 #48 February 5, 2007 I have all sorts of things from my last marriage. I don't really hold onto them because of WHO gave them to me, but because I liked them. There are some things that I may get rid of in the future, but only because I've decided it's time. If there is ever anything that might cause a rift, I'm sure it could be discussed and worked out to a mutual satisfaction. The only thing that I'd feel a little funny about would be an engagement/wedding ring. Keep them for your kids if you want, but don't wear them for goodness sake! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richards 0 #49 February 5, 2007 Thats my position. Generally she is usually not like this. I have female freinds (and she has guy freinds) and neither of us has any insecurity but for some reason the cup bugs her. Cheers My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Richards 0 #50 February 5, 2007 QuoteIt's about control, insecurity or both. If she's trying to exert control over you, don't give in under any circumstances. If it is about her being insecure, it's not the cup that is the problem and you need to deal with that. Getting rid of the cup won't help but it's at least understandable. Nah. We actually have a great marriage (not many people would put up with me). I might have inadvertently given the wrong impression with my initial post. This is not causing a marital rift or any sort of bitterness around the house. She admits that it seems a bit picky but it bugs her. She is not giving me any ultimatums though. Either way it is not a catastrophe, it is just one of those things. My biggest handicap is that sometimes the hole in the front of my head operates a tad bit faster than the grey matter contained within. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
