skysprite 0 #1 January 17, 2007 Were you bullied in school? Or were you the bully? Years after leaving school, do you ever wonder what happened to those who made your young life a living hell? Is that what high school reunions are for? Having been home schooled through high school, I don't get a reunion 10, 20 years later. So out of curiosity I looked up on MySpace a few people who bullied me in the 5th grade, aka the year from the deepest depths of hell. The one that I was able to find is gorgeous, she's soon to graduate college, she's in what appears to be a good relationship (based on her writing, comments, etc.), and her life is just peachy. Where's the justice in that?? She and her little gang of schoolgirls made my life horrible! Couldn't she have had the decency to at least sprout an ugly mole in the middle of her face or something?! Geez! I want your best "I got them back by succeeding" stories! Or anything else that relates, I suppose.~skysprite Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #2 January 17, 2007 I didn't really have anyone in school bully me, but growing up in Utah as a non mormon being raised by a single mother I was shunned quite a bit. The story was always, you can't play with Gia, she's "not good enough," or Gia would do so much better if she belonged to the church and had a "good role model." There was one mother up the street from me who was particularly viscous towards me and my family (I came home in tears on several occasions because of this woman). Well... fast forward to now, she is divorced (her husband left her for someone else), her son is a druggie, and her daughter has had 3 children out of wed-lock - is a raging alcoholic and the state has taken her kids away several times. hmmmmm... g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scoop 0 #3 January 17, 2007 I wasn't bullied nor a bully. I used to be a bit of a quiet one, so people would try it on sometimes but I was also a bit of a scrapper when I needed too. That tended to nip any attempts in the bud. I've since bumped into alot of the apparantly tough guys from school and arrested them or helped throw them in a cell. Thats pretty satisfying But just generally I find that alot of those people dont grow up and stay on that secondary/high school level while the rest of use get on with our lives and make something of ourselves with our careers/families etc. I hope my kids (one day) will have the confidence and strength to give anyone who attempts to bully them a good lesson in respect using unmeasurable amounts of (controlled) violence Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #4 January 17, 2007 How old are you now? that stuff still bothers you? go do what you want with your life and you'll find the justice in that.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #5 January 17, 2007 QuoteWhere's the justice in that?? She and her little gang of schoolgirls made my life horrible! Couldn't she have had the decency to at least sprout an ugly mole in the middle of her face or something?! Geez! Give them a few more years... my 30th reunion was far better than my 10th... my tenth I was just getting out of the USAF after 8 years.. and was about to start college. Many of my peers had "good marriages" kids... you get the idea... 20 years later many of them had failed marriages and looked nothing like they did in HS.. many were now struggling just as I was hitting my stride in my career... Some of the worst ones.... were no longer with us... one had exited by their own hand... I was just happy to be here and to be doing very well... and that seems to be the very best revenge. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skysprite 0 #6 January 17, 2007 QuoteHow old are you now? that stuff still bothers you? go do what you want with your life and you'll find the justice in that. 22, and I'm embarrassed to say I did feel a twinge of something over it. Off to the therapist I go... ~skysprite Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #7 January 17, 2007 work on yourself. that's the best and only worthwhile advice. stop worrying about the rest of the world, especially those that left your life years ago. and lastly, just because thing look peachy doesn't necessarily mean they are, especially on myspace. everybody has a front.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
azdav 0 #8 January 17, 2007 Quote Off to the therapist I go... No!No!No!......Get your arse to the DZ and talk to the wind Noooobody expects the Spanish Inquisition!!! M.P.F.C. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites FlyingJ 0 #9 January 17, 2007 QuoteBut just generally I find that alot of those people dont grow up and stay on that secondary/high school level while the rest of use get on with our lives and make something of ourselves with our careers/families etc. My thoughts exactly. I've never had any "ah haa, that's what you get" moments, but I have run into people still living the exact same life they did in high school that made me feel great about the decisions I've made to bounce around the country and really experience life. I think everyone should live the life that makes them happy, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't get a tinge of morbid satisfaction out of seeing a bit of jealousy on the face of some asshat from high school who made the choice to keep living the status quo instead of getting out and living a little.Killing threads since 2004. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Slappie 9 #10 January 17, 2007 QuoteI want your best "I got them back by succeeding" stories! Or anything else that relates, I suppose. Wish I could, but I turned out to be the loser they always claimed I'd be. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jm951 0 #11 January 17, 2007 I didn't have quite the problem. The one time I got into it with the bully, I lost the fight, but he had one of "those" wins you don't want ever again. It changed his bully status in school socially and we later became friends. There were 3 kids that tormented my youngest son through high school. I kept reminding him to finish his Eagle (BSA), get good grades and not let them get to him. It was the frequent subject around the table. Fast forward to now- Eagle Scout, is graduating UNC on the Dean's List, was the AFROTC CO, is going to flight school, finished very high in field training, has been invited to a very pretigous event in DC hobnobing around with generals, and got his jump wings at freefall school at the Academy. His tormentors, one is addicted to drugs, in and out of jail, one MIA, and the last nearly killed during a drug deal. Have faith, live your own life to the best of your ability. Nobody is responsible for you but you. Karma sometimes takes a while to get back around. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Buried 0 #12 January 17, 2007 i kinda did my own thing and wasn't bothered by anyone, but I have looked up some people in HS or have even run into a few from time to time. Most of the time i learn they have done nothing with themselves, or are still struggling through school. myspace is myspace. I'm sure most people on there try to make their lives glamourous/interesting when they really aren't. Where is my fizzy-lifting drink? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites CSpenceFLY 1 #13 January 17, 2007 Maybe you were unbearable. Just kidding. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Icon134 0 #14 January 17, 2007 The only person that bullied me and I've met since Highschool at some point became a minister... because @ my 10 year reunion he approached me and appologized. I told him it was fine because frankly I didn't remember who he was... So alas... I was picked on all throughout Jr High, High School. As I get older I find I am remembering the good things... like when I improvised during a school play and wore a fireman's trench coat instead of the secret service like trench coat like we were supposed to... or getting out of study hall my freshman year because I was good friends with one of the seinor girls in the drumline and we needed to "practice" (reads goof off)... and honestly most of the time I don't really think about the bullies much, could care less what they're up to... (unless my mom brings them up. which she does on occasion...)Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skybytch 273 #15 January 17, 2007 I hope that the ones who made high school hell for me have finally gotten over whatever it was that made them need to put other people down to feel good about themselves. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites selbbub78 0 #16 January 17, 2007 I was definitely the one that was picked on. Like you i was curious the other day to see if any of them were on MySpace to see what their lives turned out to be. I always hoped that they would be miserible, meanless lives (see i can be mean...)... Shockingly enough none of them are on myspace, and i like to think it's because their lives are so awful, and so unfulfilling that they have nothing to say!!! I know it's awful.... CReW Skies, bubbles"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Zenister 0 #17 January 17, 2007 QuoteHow old are you now? that stuff still bothers you? go do what you want with your life and you'll find the justice in that. agreed. People who's lives revolve around High School Glory (or lack of) have some serious underlying issues... High School is simply a way of marking time until you can get on with your actual life... I cant imagine any reason i would ever waste my time to go to a High School reunion.. either i still talk to you because you were a close friend then or i simply dont care what happened to you after that... although it was quite fun to hit on & pick up some of the snobbish chicks after life had slapped them in the face a few times.. in one instance i sat in a Bar and flirted with a girl while she worked for several hours before going home with her... she didnt connect me (post college, then in the Military) with me (high school, long haired Metal Head) until the next morning... strangely enough we are pretty good friends now...____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumper03 0 #18 January 17, 2007 QuoteQuoteI want your best "I got them back by succeeding" stories! Or anything else that relates, I suppose. Wish I could, but I turned out to be the loser they always claimed I'd be. what you mean? you are a hell of a pilot!Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Amazon 7 #19 January 17, 2007 QuoteHigh School is simply a way of marking time until you can get on with your actual life... I cant imagine any reason i would ever waste my time to go to a High School reunion.. either i still talk to you because you were a close friend then or i simply dont care what happened to you after that... I think it depends on the group of people you grow up with.. the size of the school.... I mena these are the people I grew up with... my first friends etc in life... If I had moved around a lot.. and had not formed friendships.. hateships with some of them... it would not have mattered so much. I cant imagine what it would be like in a smaller town where those ties are even tighter... my HS Grad Class had 700 in it. and I had been with some of them for 12 long years.... but the ones who made the biggest impressions on me.. the curiosity was still there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites LyraM45 0 #20 January 17, 2007 all the people who used to pick on me (and I got picked on EVERYDAY!!) are now either single parents and/or college drop outs, or never went to college at all and are still stuck in the small little piece of shit south Jersey town that we grew up in. (and I live in FL, have a wonderful boyfriend, and about to graduate college with the degree of my dreams.) It's so horrible to say that I feel like they got what was coming to them.Apologies for the spelling (and grammar).... I got a B.S, not a B.A. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jm951 0 #21 January 17, 2007 I agree totally that HS is just marking time till you really get started. My HS graduating class was 42, not class of 42, but 42 in the senior class. I really don't know where most of them are now, but one of the guys who was not a friend, but always pretty decent towards me, is a missionary. I only found that out when they tried to track me down through my parents. I went to the 25th reunion, wasn't too happy about being there. Of my best friends in HS, one is now a lawyer in FL, the other was murdered the year after we graduated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Zenister 0 #22 January 18, 2007 i think that is a very good point.. I'm a military brat.. My friends are the people i liked and bonded with wherever i was, and not the group i happened to be thrust into next.. i will admit to having a list for a while of "people who i will go out of my way to make miserable if the opportunity presents". But at some point in college i had the epiphany that as long as i held any feelings towards them i was still allowing them some measure of control or influence over my life. So over a period of time i 'found' all the 'tiny hooks' and cut the strings (mentally, emotionally) that still pulled in their direction.. shortly after that revelation i learned my 'arch enemy' (the one Football player who i fought with several times in HS) had shot himself while in college because an injury had ended all chances of professional football.. for a little while i was smug about it.. eventually it dawned on me he'd given up any opportunity to become more than he was (in HS) and that i'd lost someone who (inadvertently) helped me define who I was by opposing him... learning to forgive my "opponents", and recognizing (and thanking in a few cases) the effects their opposition had on my development and attitudes was a huge awakening for me...... but I still cant see any reason to attempt to 'step into the same stream twice' it just doesnt work for me... you can never really "go home" because 'home' is a moving target.... right underneath you....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Amazon 7 #23 January 18, 2007 Quote you can never really "go home" because 'home' is a moving target.... right underneath you.... Hell I realized that the first time I went home on leave after just a year... same old people doing the same old thing.. I had grown.. and broadened my horizons...they had not.... I did not go back until 10 years out... and things had changed so much that I was indeed now a stranger to so many of my friends... 30 years out.. it was kind of fun... to see who" had made it" and who was even still alive...All in all.. I dont hold any malice towards some of the people who gave me too much shit about b eing an AMAZON...etc...I seem to be doing ok... and I like who I am.. and that is what is important to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites willard 0 #24 January 18, 2007 Toby Keith said it best.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mD2Moge9yws Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #25 January 18, 2007 Nice post. The attachment to High School seems to be a peculiarly American thing. Or, more accurately, the public obsession with it is. I don't know of any other culture which spends as much time obsessing about its teenage years. Anyone know why? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 1 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. 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FlyingJ 0 #9 January 17, 2007 QuoteBut just generally I find that alot of those people dont grow up and stay on that secondary/high school level while the rest of use get on with our lives and make something of ourselves with our careers/families etc. My thoughts exactly. I've never had any "ah haa, that's what you get" moments, but I have run into people still living the exact same life they did in high school that made me feel great about the decisions I've made to bounce around the country and really experience life. I think everyone should live the life that makes them happy, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't get a tinge of morbid satisfaction out of seeing a bit of jealousy on the face of some asshat from high school who made the choice to keep living the status quo instead of getting out and living a little.Killing threads since 2004. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #10 January 17, 2007 QuoteI want your best "I got them back by succeeding" stories! Or anything else that relates, I suppose. Wish I could, but I turned out to be the loser they always claimed I'd be. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jm951 0 #11 January 17, 2007 I didn't have quite the problem. The one time I got into it with the bully, I lost the fight, but he had one of "those" wins you don't want ever again. It changed his bully status in school socially and we later became friends. There were 3 kids that tormented my youngest son through high school. I kept reminding him to finish his Eagle (BSA), get good grades and not let them get to him. It was the frequent subject around the table. Fast forward to now- Eagle Scout, is graduating UNC on the Dean's List, was the AFROTC CO, is going to flight school, finished very high in field training, has been invited to a very pretigous event in DC hobnobing around with generals, and got his jump wings at freefall school at the Academy. His tormentors, one is addicted to drugs, in and out of jail, one MIA, and the last nearly killed during a drug deal. Have faith, live your own life to the best of your ability. Nobody is responsible for you but you. Karma sometimes takes a while to get back around. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buried 0 #12 January 17, 2007 i kinda did my own thing and wasn't bothered by anyone, but I have looked up some people in HS or have even run into a few from time to time. Most of the time i learn they have done nothing with themselves, or are still struggling through school. myspace is myspace. I'm sure most people on there try to make their lives glamourous/interesting when they really aren't. Where is my fizzy-lifting drink? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #13 January 17, 2007 Maybe you were unbearable. Just kidding. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #14 January 17, 2007 The only person that bullied me and I've met since Highschool at some point became a minister... because @ my 10 year reunion he approached me and appologized. I told him it was fine because frankly I didn't remember who he was... So alas... I was picked on all throughout Jr High, High School. As I get older I find I am remembering the good things... like when I improvised during a school play and wore a fireman's trench coat instead of the secret service like trench coat like we were supposed to... or getting out of study hall my freshman year because I was good friends with one of the seinor girls in the drumline and we needed to "practice" (reads goof off)... and honestly most of the time I don't really think about the bullies much, could care less what they're up to... (unless my mom brings them up. which she does on occasion...)Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #15 January 17, 2007 I hope that the ones who made high school hell for me have finally gotten over whatever it was that made them need to put other people down to feel good about themselves. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #16 January 17, 2007 I was definitely the one that was picked on. Like you i was curious the other day to see if any of them were on MySpace to see what their lives turned out to be. I always hoped that they would be miserible, meanless lives (see i can be mean...)... Shockingly enough none of them are on myspace, and i like to think it's because their lives are so awful, and so unfulfilling that they have nothing to say!!! I know it's awful.... CReW Skies, bubbles"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #17 January 17, 2007 QuoteHow old are you now? that stuff still bothers you? go do what you want with your life and you'll find the justice in that. agreed. People who's lives revolve around High School Glory (or lack of) have some serious underlying issues... High School is simply a way of marking time until you can get on with your actual life... I cant imagine any reason i would ever waste my time to go to a High School reunion.. either i still talk to you because you were a close friend then or i simply dont care what happened to you after that... although it was quite fun to hit on & pick up some of the snobbish chicks after life had slapped them in the face a few times.. in one instance i sat in a Bar and flirted with a girl while she worked for several hours before going home with her... she didnt connect me (post college, then in the Military) with me (high school, long haired Metal Head) until the next morning... strangely enough we are pretty good friends now...____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #18 January 17, 2007 QuoteQuoteI want your best "I got them back by succeeding" stories! Or anything else that relates, I suppose. Wish I could, but I turned out to be the loser they always claimed I'd be. what you mean? you are a hell of a pilot!Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #19 January 17, 2007 QuoteHigh School is simply a way of marking time until you can get on with your actual life... I cant imagine any reason i would ever waste my time to go to a High School reunion.. either i still talk to you because you were a close friend then or i simply dont care what happened to you after that... I think it depends on the group of people you grow up with.. the size of the school.... I mena these are the people I grew up with... my first friends etc in life... If I had moved around a lot.. and had not formed friendships.. hateships with some of them... it would not have mattered so much. I cant imagine what it would be like in a smaller town where those ties are even tighter... my HS Grad Class had 700 in it. and I had been with some of them for 12 long years.... but the ones who made the biggest impressions on me.. the curiosity was still there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LyraM45 0 #20 January 17, 2007 all the people who used to pick on me (and I got picked on EVERYDAY!!) are now either single parents and/or college drop outs, or never went to college at all and are still stuck in the small little piece of shit south Jersey town that we grew up in. (and I live in FL, have a wonderful boyfriend, and about to graduate college with the degree of my dreams.) It's so horrible to say that I feel like they got what was coming to them.Apologies for the spelling (and grammar).... I got a B.S, not a B.A. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jm951 0 #21 January 17, 2007 I agree totally that HS is just marking time till you really get started. My HS graduating class was 42, not class of 42, but 42 in the senior class. I really don't know where most of them are now, but one of the guys who was not a friend, but always pretty decent towards me, is a missionary. I only found that out when they tried to track me down through my parents. I went to the 25th reunion, wasn't too happy about being there. Of my best friends in HS, one is now a lawyer in FL, the other was murdered the year after we graduated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #22 January 18, 2007 i think that is a very good point.. I'm a military brat.. My friends are the people i liked and bonded with wherever i was, and not the group i happened to be thrust into next.. i will admit to having a list for a while of "people who i will go out of my way to make miserable if the opportunity presents". But at some point in college i had the epiphany that as long as i held any feelings towards them i was still allowing them some measure of control or influence over my life. So over a period of time i 'found' all the 'tiny hooks' and cut the strings (mentally, emotionally) that still pulled in their direction.. shortly after that revelation i learned my 'arch enemy' (the one Football player who i fought with several times in HS) had shot himself while in college because an injury had ended all chances of professional football.. for a little while i was smug about it.. eventually it dawned on me he'd given up any opportunity to become more than he was (in HS) and that i'd lost someone who (inadvertently) helped me define who I was by opposing him... learning to forgive my "opponents", and recognizing (and thanking in a few cases) the effects their opposition had on my development and attitudes was a huge awakening for me...... but I still cant see any reason to attempt to 'step into the same stream twice' it just doesnt work for me... you can never really "go home" because 'home' is a moving target.... right underneath you....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #23 January 18, 2007 Quote you can never really "go home" because 'home' is a moving target.... right underneath you.... Hell I realized that the first time I went home on leave after just a year... same old people doing the same old thing.. I had grown.. and broadened my horizons...they had not.... I did not go back until 10 years out... and things had changed so much that I was indeed now a stranger to so many of my friends... 30 years out.. it was kind of fun... to see who" had made it" and who was even still alive...All in all.. I dont hold any malice towards some of the people who gave me too much shit about b eing an AMAZON...etc...I seem to be doing ok... and I like who I am.. and that is what is important to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
willard 0 #24 January 18, 2007 Toby Keith said it best.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mD2Moge9yws Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #25 January 18, 2007 Nice post. The attachment to High School seems to be a peculiarly American thing. Or, more accurately, the public obsession with it is. I don't know of any other culture which spends as much time obsessing about its teenage years. Anyone know why? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
