How young is too young and how old is too old?

[Beverly 1]

We have been having age debates over the past few weeks and wanted to get some feedback:

The theory (source unknown) is take your age, divide by 2 and add 7 years and you have the youngest age you should go.

What has your biggest age gap been either way, and what were the pro's and con's of the relationship?

For e.g

Me 18
He 25
= 7 years my senior

Me 29
He 21
= 8 years my junior

How low/high would you go??

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

[Squeak 17]

What ever the age gap, if it's just bounce value..IT DONT MATTER

For a serious relationship I'd look to see if you're both at the same level of maturirty and if what each person whats in a relationship is compatable with each other Regards
Dr Squeak McGraw



BTW according to your formulae, I can hook up with someone as young as 28 years old,

HMMM
HOW YOU DOIN

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[Frenchy68 0]

Quote

What has your biggest age gap been either way

She 10 years younger than I
Con: we got married
Pro: we still are married

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

[TheBile 0]

Well that calculation would mean that I shouldn't date women younger than 24. To be honest though I wouldn't even try apply mathematics to finding true love. Common sense and maybe societal acceptance would tell me that the calculation seems correct, however love is not restricted by rules (and all he better for it.)
PS : What's the youngest you can die of old age ?

Gerb

I stir feelings in others they themselves don't understand. KA'CHOW !

[Peej 0]

The age thing has never been a big issue for me, i really do see it as just a number. I gauge potential relationships on that person's level of maturity - both social and emotional, plus their ability to hold a decent conversation.

If they were younger i would think of it in terms of whether or not i'd be able to take that person to a work function/ social engagement/ whatever and would they be able to hold their own without making me or people around them cringe?

For the record, i've never dated anyone much younger than a year or two, purely because i haven't met anyone younger. My oldest though have been 28 when i was 21 and another was 30 when i was 23.

edited to add: by that formula, 20 is the youngest i could date. Funnily enough i think that's about the youngest i could go before the level if maturity, etc becomes an issue.

Advertisio Rodriguez / Sky

[Beverly 1]

Quote

If they were younger i would think of it in terms of whether or not i'd be able to take that person to a work function/ social engagement/ whatever and would they be able to hold their own without making me or people around them cringe?

Good point.
But then again there are people my age I would not take to a work function

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

[Peej 0]

Quote

Quote

If they were younger i would think of it in terms of whether or not i'd be able to take that person to a work function/ social engagement/ whatever and would they be able to hold their own without making me or people around them cringe?

Good point.
But then again there are people my age I would not take to a work function

Oh it works both ways for sure. The older people would get shown the door just as quickly as the young ones.

Advertisio Rodriguez / Sky

[rs2kmk5 0]

Biggest age gap on the minus side for me (now 33) has been 13 years, and she was waaaay young - originally told me she was 19, but hey what can you so. I was 29 sh@fting a 16 year old

Now though biggest age gap is +13 years (ie she's 46), and the age gap is of no consequence whatsoever. I tell myself it must be down to my maturity - yeah right.

Age aint nothing but a number - to me being happy, being able to communicate with each other, being able to trust and be trusted etc etc are far more important than an age difference. Well that and great sex anyhow

Out of 10,000 feet of fall, always remember that the last half inch hurts the most — Captain Charles W. Purcell, 1932

[leapdog 0]

Since high school, The largest age gap I had was 7 years older than me. The next largest was 6 years older than me. Third largest gap was 5 years younger. Everyone else has been around my age.

The relationships with the two largest age gaps were not healthy at all, it just took me a while to either notice or just get sick of it.

Two of my earliest relationships didn't end well either. Not that any of them ever do, breakups sucks each time. But I think that was maturity on both sides. just too young.

Pro from all the relationships wuold be that I learned something that I won't do again.
Con from each one is that because of the pro there is a sterotype now that when I see certain behavior those women are immediately screen out. Some people would call that baggage. I call it being careful.

Gunnery Sergeant of Marines
"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

[CSpenceFLY 1]

Maybe it's you.

[cocheese 0]

When you're young, older is better. When you're old, younger is better.

[LisaM 0]

Him: 41
Me: 33

We actually discussed it before we started dating mostly because the biggest gap I had before him was like 3 years. I see no real pros or cons. He's a wonderful man and we've been together since I was 26 and he was 34.

~ Lisa
~ Do you Rigminder?

[popsjumper 2]

I go by the Rule of 18.

I mean, legal is legal, right?

My reality and yours are quite different.
I think we're all Bozos on this bus.
Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239

[simplyputsi 0]

Quote

I go by the Rule of 18.

I mean, legal is legal, right?

Hey in Georgia isn't the age of consent 17? Don't go selling yourself short man!!

Skymama's #2 stalker -

[ladyskydiver 0]

hmmm....according to that formula, I could date someone as young as 25 1/2.

I've dated as young as 13 1/2 years younger and 10 years older.

Pros/cons -

Younger one - lot younger maturity-wise but had energy

Older one - had more maturity but didn't have energy




So....looks like I need to find someone in between that's just right.

Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.

[recovercrachead 0]

What about the old saying " grass on the feild play ball".

Track high, Pull LOW!!!

[Armour666 0]

Quote

What ever the age gap, if it's just bounce value..IT DONT MATTER

For a serious relationship I'd look to see if you're both at the same level of maturirty and if what each person whats in a relationship is compatable with each other Regards
Dr Squeak McGraw

if that was the case for matching maturity lots of guys would be going to jaill

SO this one time at band camp.....

"Of all the things I've lost I miss my mind the most."

[turtlespeed 220]

Quote

The theory (source unknown) is take your age, divide by 2 and add 7 years and you have the youngest age you should go.

Me - 36
Her - 24
12 my junior -

Holy Fucking HELL - never again! -

I think that 1.85 is a better divisor. The rest works.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[boinky 0]

I've been married 3 times.

One was 7 years older than me...he acted too old.
One was 5 years older than me...he acted stupid.
One was 3 years younger than me...it worked well, but he couldn't keep his *NSFW* in his pants.

At different times when I was 44, I had the opportunity to go out with two different 30 year old guys. At the time, I was bouncy and had a very young mentality. I found that most men my age were just too "sedate."

Going out with a young guy was fun and they were great, "boy toys." One guy was mostly just interested in having fun, but nothing more. The other one was much more compatible, but let his mother have too much say in his personal life (bothered me).

So, I'd have to say it's not an age. It's a maturity level, a compatability in interests now and in the future and a willingness to go the extra mile to make the relationship work. You want me? Well stand your ground and fight for me, if need be.

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[PLFXpert 0]

Age ain't nothin but a numba...


Not an R. Kelly fan, but he has a point there.

My personal preference, however, always was (and w/ Billy still is) older men.

Billy is 10 years older than me.

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

[guppie01 0]

me: 36
he: 25

Phew~ that's 11 years

This biggest gap was 5 years younger, and 12 years older.

g

"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?"
Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU
OMG, is she okay?

[JENNR8R 0]

I've only had one and he was one year older. It's good to know that I can go after a 34 year old.

In five years it could be a 37 year old. I like how this works!

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[TheGirlWonder 0]

Quote

Quote

The theory (source unknown) is take your age, divide by 2 and add 7 years and you have the youngest age you should go.

Me - 36
Her - 24
12 my junior -

Holy Fucking HELL - never again! -

I think that 1.85 is a better divisor. The rest works.

Hey theres nothing wrong with younger women... Just depends on the girl. Id much rather date an older guy than someone my age and I think I win the prize so far for biggest age gap...

ME: 24
HIM: 44

[mfrese 0]

My ex-wife was five years older, and that didn't work out too well, so I've pretty much stuck to younger since then (like for the last 23 years).

Of course, this thread is just beggin' for Skydivexxl's former sig line:

"Was she "what's your major" young, or "show me on the dolly where the bad man touched you" young?"

Doctor I ain't gonna die,
Just write me an alibi! ---- Lemmy/Slash

[Remster 30]

Quote

We have been having age debates over the past few weeks

So, Beverly, how old is he?

Remster