lighten up

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I had an experience that I couldn't get past. I kept thinking about it, then discussing it, then getting mad while discussing it.

By reliving the experiences, I was reliving the anger and ruining my present.

One night, I was out with a bud, sitting at a bar.
I was doing that again. Bitching and getting pissed off about something that was not even happening then.

My buddy turned to me and said,
"You have a good job, great friends, great health. Some people don't have that. Appreciate your life."

"Everybody has their problems. They come here to not discuss them. They come here to have a good time. I'm your friend, I'll listen another day, they won't."

"Lighten up or no one will want to be around you. It's happy thoughts from now on, right bro ?"

I've learned stuff from the darnedest places.

[Squeak 17]

Hence your nick name?

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

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Yep. It takes a little thought to describe.

Every so often, I still get a little miffed. I've never had the social skills to let everything slide.

It would be rare for things to involve me anymore. I'd have to be thrown back into it because of friends or loved ones.

However, I learn from history, I don't repeat it.
I don't relive it. That gives me a future and, even better, a present that I didn't have.

I'm too busy enjoying all the cool stuff in my life now.

[Squeak 17]

well you seemed pretty chiled when we me, but that was nerarly 1.5 years ago now,

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[kenz 0]

you just reminded me of a song by my friend's band bill...

"whenever i think about tomorrow,
i realize that yesterday is really today
and whatever i'm doing at the present,
i'll accept it as a present - i won't let this one get away
so as i squeeze it slips through my fingers,
a trace that still lingers, branded in my hand
and when i try to wash away the dirt, tell myself it didn't hurt, one fell swoop and you'll grow up to be a man."

accept the past as over and move on to happier things.. we all have had shit happen - its what we do with it that determines what kind of life we lead

good luck - chin up

"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me

[turtlespeed 220]

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good luck - chin up

Yeah - go tell that to your midget friends over there dancing.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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good luck - chin up

Yeah - go tell that to your midget friends over there dancing.

way to kill my secret

"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me

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good luck - chin up

Yeah - go tell that to your midget friends over there dancing.

way to kill my secret

I was just stalking. [Napolean Dynamiote] GAWD! - Whatever [/ND]

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[happythoughts 0]

As my Brit buddy told me, "You're just stupid-happy, mate."

(for the non-Brits among us, "stupid happy" is being blissfully unaware by lack of mental acuity)

I think that I am aware of negativity, I just choose not to participate. I accept people for the way they are and allow them to be nice to me.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

Yes sir.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[lilDevil 2]

you seem like your doing a good job of being mr happy to me, and yes everyone has their problems its just how you deal with them

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Angels have wings, but devils can fly !

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you seem like your doing a good job of being mr happy to me, and yes everyone has their problems its just how you deal with them

I think you are doing that better than I.

I have the habit of thinking that people are smart when they agree with me. I think that they are really smart when I can learn something from them, so thanks for the conversations.

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[mabend 0]

Two things to remember in life:
1. Don't sweat the small stuff
2. It's all small stuff

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Two things to remember in life:
1. Don't sweat the small stuff
2. It's all small stuff

Unless it's your stuff.
What may seem insignificant to one may not be to someone else.
We all have our problems...but thats just it... they are our problems.
What makes anyone elses problem more significant than yours or mine? Again we all have our own set.
Happy thoughts...your are a happy thought.

[skybytch 273]

I learned much the same thing from a book - "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.

One of the agreements is "Take nothing personally." It ain't easy to do, but by simply agreeing with yourself that you will not take what others do or say personally you can completely change your life for the better. The more you practice not taking things personally, the easier it gets and the less negative emotions you will experience.

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I had an experience that I couldn't get past. I kept thinking about it, then discussing it, then getting mad while discussing it.

By reliving the experiences, I was reliving the anger and ruining my present.


I've learned stuff from the darnedest places.

That's why I quit journaling many years ago, except I used to keep a "Mother's Journal" that told all the funny things my daughter said & did as she was growing up. That's an awesome thing to sit back and read even to this day.

I try not to vent too much, although I am guilty of doing so sometimes. But you're right, it only makes me angry again, and I'm only hurting myself with the anger.

Still learning every day.......

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"The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.

A very good book indeed.
When we harbor ill will toward others...it really only affects us.
Its like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it.
(Stil doesn't mean I can't be pissed off from time to time)

[happythoughts 0]

Never sweat the petty stuff.
Always pet the sweaty stuff.

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I try not to vent too much, although I am guilty of doing so sometimes. But you're right, it only makes me angry again, and I'm only hurting myself with the anger.

Venting seems to be ok if that is what it accomplishes.

It can be an associate of "validation".

Doing IT work, we don't produce a visible or tangible product. It is difficult to get validation from others that you chose the best solution or did a good job. A carpenter can point to a house. A persons SO is rarely of any help.

Validation is necessary. The "pat on the back" from ones peers is of great value.

I organized a Thursday evening "beer at the Copper Top" session. 5-7pm. Snacks and beer.
The locals would gather and bitch about management, techniques, processes... whatever.
That person's peers would nod and agree that the best path was chosen. Validation was received and healthy emotional venting accomplished. I don't enjoy beer, but I'm good for snacks.

The key is to actually let it go after the venting.
It will be unnecessary to relive it after that point.

[RkyMtnHigh 0]

....and you have paid those happy thoughts forward

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