MarkR 0 #26 August 31, 2006 QuoteAt 14 the control you have over a child is mostly superficial. If they want to do something behind your back, they will. Forcing them to do what you want will likely cause rebellions reactions, and as you have seen cause a strain in your relationship. *seconds that* There's your truth. At some point you'll have to stop to be your daughter's father and start to be her friend and advisor. You can't keep your daughter from doing the things she wants to do - all you can do is make sure that -if- she does it, it's going to be in an 'controlled environment'. IMHO, NWFlyer already pointed out the right course of action. If your daughter wants to be with her friend, offer her the possibility to invite him over. If she does, make sure to make it a nice afternoon for them, provide them with pizza, coke and stuff. Like that, you'll be the 'cool dad', plus you can always have an eye on them. Don't be too controlling though, just have faith that they won't be doing anything stupid, even if they're alone in her room. Knowing that daddy is just next door can put a halt on the sexdrive of even a 16-year old. Restraining her will only add to the strain between you and her - and will eventually make her rebellous and lead to full blown puberty drama. Raising kids is war. Your mission: Control through subtility. Put away the nuke, go for the sniper gun. Good luck, General. »Somewhere between the lies and truths borderlines get shady. Somewhere between the yesses and nos you can find the maybe.« Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #27 August 31, 2006 Quoteeven if they're alone in her room, with the door WIDE open. Fixed it for you. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yoink 321 #28 August 31, 2006 Quote In the UK 14 really isnt that young to be "dating" (we dont seem to make such a big fuss of it over here). I disagree. The law aside for what you call 'adult play', teenage pregnancy rates in the UK are the highest in Western Europe... 1 in 10 children are born to teenagers. That's pretty fucked up IMO. A lot of parents over here simply don't seem to care what their kids do - but that doesn't make it OK. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ntrprnr 0 #29 August 31, 2006 QuoteQuote I need to get peoples input on this subject. My ex wife is allowing our daughter to go on 1 on 1 dates. She will be 14 in December and I feel this is to young. The ex allows her to go over to his house all the time. She keeps telling me times have changed and I agree.They have changed and not for the better. I know I am over protective like most dads would be, but 13 is way to young. This has put a big strain on my daughters and I relationship. Am I out to luunch on this??? Let me know what you think...thanksMad Meet the boyfriend. Make sure he understands the birds and bees, and subsequent lifetime deductions on his paycheck. Then, show him your gun. Let him know that he can run, but he sure as hell can't hide. If his pants are hanging around his knees, make sure he understands that he can't even run. You are in charge. Just do it. "If anything happens to my daughter, I have a .44 and a shovel. I doubt you're anybody that'll be missed."_______________ "Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?" "Even in freefall, I have commitment issues." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkR 0 #30 August 31, 2006 Quote"If anything happens to my daughter, I have a .44 and a shovel. I doubt you're anybody that'll be missed." Dads bringing that line are just... "Clueless". »Somewhere between the lies and truths borderlines get shady. Somewhere between the yesses and nos you can find the maybe.« Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ntrprnr 0 #31 August 31, 2006 QuoteQuote"If anything happens to my daughter, I have a .44 and a shovel. I doubt you're anybody that'll be missed." Dads bringing that line are just... "Clueless". Well done._______________ "Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?" "Even in freefall, I have commitment issues." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkR 0 #32 August 31, 2006 QuoteWell done. Gotta love Alicia Silverstone... »Somewhere between the lies and truths borderlines get shady. Somewhere between the yesses and nos you can find the maybe.« Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freakflyer9999 1 #33 August 31, 2006 You should join D.A.D.D. Dads Against Daughters Dating Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
