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Besides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!!



Absolutely not true. You're wrong.



Seeing people post stuff like that just makes me sad because it's either 1) a way of justifying their own bad behavior or 2) a way of justifying their own bad choices in partners.
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Besides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!!
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Absolutely not true. You're wrong.
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Seeing people post stuff like that just makes me sad because it's either 1) a way of justifying their own bad behavior or 2) a way of justifying their own bad choices in partners.



Did you guys miss his ;) at the end of his post? Me thinks he was kidding when he said that.

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Something I have learned to beware of..........If a girl right off the bat starts telling you how terrible her last boyfriend was.



Recently, I met a woman who had just gotten out of a long term relationship. She said that her ex was basically a nice guy, but their goals were moving in different directions.

Nothing bad to say. People can be different without one being bad.

I really respected her for that.

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never trust a cheat - if they lied about that to either you or their spouse - god only knows what other things they have been dishonest about
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It's like throwing stray cats into a potato sack with you DZ commers. Too funny.

I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce.

I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life.

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I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce.



And 50% of marriages are with people who have just met or shouldn't be getting married.

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I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life.



I never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do.

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I never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do



yup - couldn't have put it better myself
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I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life.

Stir, stir, stir :D:D:D:D



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Once, in college, I was the "other woman" for a night - hooked up with a guy I was very attracted to who also happened to be a friend's boyfriend. He came on to me, but that doesn't make what I did right.

Never again since then have I been involved in anything like that, and I think it is safe to say that I won't ever do it again. My decision-making skills have improved considerably since I was 19.:|
"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

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NO! Of course you can't trust her.

That doesn't mean you can't take a chance on her - and give the benefit of the doubt. "Fake it til you make it" as they say. Over time, if the relationship lasts that long, you will build trust.

No matter the situation she was in, she didn't handle getting out of it with integrity or honesty. You don't know if she has it in her to handle difficult issues in a productive way.

God, it's so easy to look right at someone's history and CHOOSE to ignore it. Somehow we think WE will be different. It drives me crazy because I've done it too.

I'm not saying once a cheat always a cheat but if she's cheating now your odds are pretty damn grim.

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OK... hypothetically :)... if a girl has been cheating on her partner with you and they end up breaking up, could you trust her? :|:S



If you have to ask yourself, "Can I trust this person?" then no, you cannot trust this person.


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And listen to me very closely...if she cheated on him, SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU. It's a no brainer and there is no question.



I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either.
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no.

its been said in this thread and others already, but ill say it again.

youll always wonder, and you wont be able to fully trust her. inability to trust will probably doom a relationship before it starts.
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I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either.



i think a major point in this is that you wont feel able to trust someone that you know has cheated, for example does the person your with now know you cheated in the past?
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I agree that it does kill the "trust" factor. No, I never told him and I never will. I know how much it hurts to be on the receiving end of that type of information and I just don't have it in me to hurt him in such a manner. Again, this relationship is so far beyond repair that him not trusting me again is the LEAST of the issues. I can also honestly say that this would be the one and only time in 12 1/2 yrs that he could say that I ever did ANYTHING to hurt him, EVER. I have forgiven him of numerous affairs, lies and bad choices, eventually it took a toll on me and I realized that I no longer feel anything for him, at all, yet I still feel guilty about making the right choices when I know that it's going to hurt him. How fucked up is that?
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