NWFlyer 2 #51 August 29, 2006 QuoteQuote Besides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!! Absolutely not true. You're wrong. Seeing people post stuff like that just makes me sad because it's either 1) a way of justifying their own bad behavior or 2) a way of justifying their own bad choices in partners."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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SuFantasma 0 #53 August 29, 2006 You have a swing partner ! It's like a four-way, and you can get someone to do video (me?) LOLY yo, pa' vivir con miedo, prefiero morir sonriendo, con el recuerdo vivo". - Ruben Blades, "Adan Garcia" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 818 #54 August 29, 2006 Yahtzee! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #55 August 29, 2006 QuoteBesides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!! -------------------------------------------------------- Absolutely not true. You're wrong. -------------------------------------------------------- Seeing people post stuff like that just makes me sad because it's either 1) a way of justifying their own bad behavior or 2) a way of justifying their own bad choices in partners. Did you guys miss his at the end of his post? Me thinks he was kidding when he said that. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #56 August 29, 2006 QuoteSomething I have learned to beware of..........If a girl right off the bat starts telling you how terrible her last boyfriend was. Recently, I met a woman who had just gotten out of a long term relationship. She said that her ex was basically a nice guy, but their goals were moving in different directions. Nothing bad to say. People can be different without one being bad. I really respected her for that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #57 August 29, 2006 Quote Besides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!! I hope you were joking when you typed that, because it couldn't be farther from the truth. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kenz 0 #58 August 29, 2006 never trust a cheat - if they lied about that to either you or their spouse - god only knows what other things they have been dishonest about"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skyberdyber 0 #59 August 29, 2006 It's like throwing stray cats into a potato sack with you DZ commers. Too funny. I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. Stir, stir, stir http://www.skydiveatlanta.com http://www.musiccityskydiving.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kenz 0 #60 August 29, 2006 ok - i have never EVER cheated on anyone before in my life - there's one for ya"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #61 August 29, 2006 People that study this stuff say that it is 20-21% for both sexes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Keith 0 #62 August 29, 2006 Absolutely! You can trust that you can't trust her, the same, of course goes for you. Neither of you can be trusted.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #63 August 29, 2006 Quote I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. And 50% of marriages are with people who have just met or shouldn't be getting married. Quote I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. I never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kenz 0 #64 August 29, 2006 QuoteI never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do yup - couldn't have put it better myself"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NWFlyer 2 #65 August 29, 2006 QuoteI would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. Stir, stir, stir Once, in college, I was the "other woman" for a night - hooked up with a guy I was very attracted to who also happened to be a friend's boyfriend. He came on to me, but that doesn't make what I did right. Never again since then have I been involved in anything like that, and I think it is safe to say that I won't ever do it again. My decision-making skills have improved considerably since I was 19."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #66 August 29, 2006 I'll never cheat on you keith if you'd just give me a chance!! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflybella 0 #67 August 29, 2006 NO! Of course you can't trust her. That doesn't mean you can't take a chance on her - and give the benefit of the doubt. "Fake it til you make it" as they say. Over time, if the relationship lasts that long, you will build trust. No matter the situation she was in, she didn't handle getting out of it with integrity or honesty. You don't know if she has it in her to handle difficult issues in a productive way. God, it's so easy to look right at someone's history and CHOOSE to ignore it. Somehow we think WE will be different. It drives me crazy because I've done it too. I'm not saying once a cheat always a cheat but if she's cheating now your odds are pretty damn grim. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #68 August 29, 2006 QuoteOK... hypothetically ... if a girl has been cheating on her partner with you and they end up breaking up, could you trust her? If you have to ask yourself, "Can I trust this person?" then no, you cannot trust this person. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skyberdyber 0 #69 August 29, 2006 I can find somebody to cheat on with you if you'll come to my boogie in November!! http://www.skydiveatlanta.com http://www.musiccityskydiving.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites littleskycrab 0 #70 August 29, 2006 QuoteAnd listen to me very closely...if she cheated on him, SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU. It's a no brainer and there is no question. I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either.Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way. Say nothing and listen as heaven whispers, "Do you like it? I did it just for you." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites The111 1 #71 August 29, 2006 QuoteI would say sure trust but keep in mind you could be next. That statement makes absolutely no sense. "Keeping in mind that you could be next" is the exact opposite of trusting. You can't do both.www.WingsuitPhotos.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites malboy 0 #72 August 29, 2006 no. its been said in this thread and others already, but ill say it again. youll always wonder, and you wont be able to fully trust her. inability to trust will probably doom a relationship before it starts.www.ewancowie.com www.facebook.com/ewancowiephotography Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites malboy 0 #73 August 29, 2006 Quote I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either. i think a major point in this is that you wont feel able to trust someone that you know has cheated, for example does the person your with now know you cheated in the past?www.ewancowie.com www.facebook.com/ewancowiephotography Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites littleskycrab 0 #74 August 29, 2006 I agree that it does kill the "trust" factor. No, I never told him and I never will. I know how much it hurts to be on the receiving end of that type of information and I just don't have it in me to hurt him in such a manner. Again, this relationship is so far beyond repair that him not trusting me again is the LEAST of the issues. I can also honestly say that this would be the one and only time in 12 1/2 yrs that he could say that I ever did ANYTHING to hurt him, EVER. I have forgiven him of numerous affairs, lies and bad choices, eventually it took a toll on me and I realized that I no longer feel anything for him, at all, yet I still feel guilty about making the right choices when I know that it's going to hurt him. How fucked up is that?Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way. Say nothing and listen as heaven whispers, "Do you like it? I did it just for you." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Scoop 0 #75 August 29, 2006 Well, if nothing else this thread has done well to show me I'm not the only one in a complicated situation. As it goes, we are meeting up soon, see how it goes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 3 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
sunshine 2 #55 August 29, 2006 QuoteBesides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!! -------------------------------------------------------- Absolutely not true. You're wrong. -------------------------------------------------------- Seeing people post stuff like that just makes me sad because it's either 1) a way of justifying their own bad behavior or 2) a way of justifying their own bad choices in partners. Did you guys miss his at the end of his post? Me thinks he was kidding when he said that. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #56 August 29, 2006 QuoteSomething I have learned to beware of..........If a girl right off the bat starts telling you how terrible her last boyfriend was. Recently, I met a woman who had just gotten out of a long term relationship. She said that her ex was basically a nice guy, but their goals were moving in different directions. Nothing bad to say. People can be different without one being bad. I really respected her for that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #57 August 29, 2006 Quote Besides, everybody cheats, and those that say they don't, well they are liars too!! I hope you were joking when you typed that, because it couldn't be farther from the truth. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #58 August 29, 2006 never trust a cheat - if they lied about that to either you or their spouse - god only knows what other things they have been dishonest about"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyberdyber 0 #59 August 29, 2006 It's like throwing stray cats into a potato sack with you DZ commers. Too funny. I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. Stir, stir, stir http://www.skydiveatlanta.com http://www.musiccityskydiving.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #60 August 29, 2006 ok - i have never EVER cheated on anyone before in my life - there's one for ya"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #61 August 29, 2006 People that study this stuff say that it is 20-21% for both sexes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Keith 0 #62 August 29, 2006 Absolutely! You can trust that you can't trust her, the same, of course goes for you. Neither of you can be trusted.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #63 August 29, 2006 Quote I do sincerely believe it is much more prevalent than anyone will ever be aware. After all, 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. And 50% of marriages are with people who have just met or shouldn't be getting married. Quote I would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. I never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #64 August 29, 2006 QuoteI never have. Ever. I've had the (not so nice) pleasure of being cheated on by a couple different people and it hurts, badly. I would never do that to someone I care about and frankly, I think cheating is one of the shittiest things you can do yup - couldn't have put it better myself"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #65 August 29, 2006 QuoteI would be curious to see stats on everyone that has posted in this thread whether they had never, EVER, cheated on anyone in their life. Stir, stir, stir Once, in college, I was the "other woman" for a night - hooked up with a guy I was very attracted to who also happened to be a friend's boyfriend. He came on to me, but that doesn't make what I did right. Never again since then have I been involved in anything like that, and I think it is safe to say that I won't ever do it again. My decision-making skills have improved considerably since I was 19."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #66 August 29, 2006 I'll never cheat on you keith if you'd just give me a chance!! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #67 August 29, 2006 NO! Of course you can't trust her. That doesn't mean you can't take a chance on her - and give the benefit of the doubt. "Fake it til you make it" as they say. Over time, if the relationship lasts that long, you will build trust. No matter the situation she was in, she didn't handle getting out of it with integrity or honesty. You don't know if she has it in her to handle difficult issues in a productive way. God, it's so easy to look right at someone's history and CHOOSE to ignore it. Somehow we think WE will be different. It drives me crazy because I've done it too. I'm not saying once a cheat always a cheat but if she's cheating now your odds are pretty damn grim. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #68 August 29, 2006 QuoteOK... hypothetically ... if a girl has been cheating on her partner with you and they end up breaking up, could you trust her? If you have to ask yourself, "Can I trust this person?" then no, you cannot trust this person. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyberdyber 0 #69 August 29, 2006 I can find somebody to cheat on with you if you'll come to my boogie in November!! http://www.skydiveatlanta.com http://www.musiccityskydiving.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
littleskycrab 0 #70 August 29, 2006 QuoteAnd listen to me very closely...if she cheated on him, SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU. It's a no brainer and there is no question. I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either.Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way. Say nothing and listen as heaven whispers, "Do you like it? I did it just for you." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The111 1 #71 August 29, 2006 QuoteI would say sure trust but keep in mind you could be next. That statement makes absolutely no sense. "Keeping in mind that you could be next" is the exact opposite of trusting. You can't do both.www.WingsuitPhotos.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
malboy 0 #72 August 29, 2006 no. its been said in this thread and others already, but ill say it again. youll always wonder, and you wont be able to fully trust her. inability to trust will probably doom a relationship before it starts.www.ewancowie.com www.facebook.com/ewancowiephotography Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
malboy 0 #73 August 29, 2006 Quote I disagree. I have been unfaithful to ONE and only ONE person in my entire life. I was unfaithful to that person with only ONE other person. I didn't go out looking to hook up, the situation just kinda presented itself. I must say that the relationship that I was in had LONG since been OVER and I simply lacked the balls to put it to death. I do not have the heart to be unfaithful to someone that I care deeply for, the guilt would eat me alive. Therefore, I feel that your statement is not all that accurate. Some people just aren't wired with the "do it once, they'll do it again" mentality. Hell, I even feel guilty for doing things when I know it is the right thing to do (if it will hurt someone). So while I'm not perfect, I'm not a serial cheater either. i think a major point in this is that you wont feel able to trust someone that you know has cheated, for example does the person your with now know you cheated in the past?www.ewancowie.com www.facebook.com/ewancowiephotography Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
littleskycrab 0 #74 August 29, 2006 I agree that it does kill the "trust" factor. No, I never told him and I never will. I know how much it hurts to be on the receiving end of that type of information and I just don't have it in me to hurt him in such a manner. Again, this relationship is so far beyond repair that him not trusting me again is the LEAST of the issues. I can also honestly say that this would be the one and only time in 12 1/2 yrs that he could say that I ever did ANYTHING to hurt him, EVER. I have forgiven him of numerous affairs, lies and bad choices, eventually it took a toll on me and I realized that I no longer feel anything for him, at all, yet I still feel guilty about making the right choices when I know that it's going to hurt him. How fucked up is that?Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way. Say nothing and listen as heaven whispers, "Do you like it? I did it just for you." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scoop 0 #75 August 29, 2006 Well, if nothing else this thread has done well to show me I'm not the only one in a complicated situation. As it goes, we are meeting up soon, see how it goes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
