Trust a cheat?

[NWFlyer 2]

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i think a major point in this is that you wont feel able to trust someone that you know has cheated, for example does the person your with now know you cheated in the past?

The original question was ... if this person is cheating to be with you, could you trust them. That implies that, to them, cheating is still acceptable and is still part of their values and decision-making process.

Past can be past, if the person has demonstrated that they have matured and evolved their decision-making processes. We all fuck up, especially when we're young. If we can learn from those fuck-ups and grow so that we don't repeat them, it's all good.

It's the chronic fuck-ups that I, personally, don't trust. If there's always an excuse for bad behavior ... well, that means there's probably going to be an excuse with me, too. Not worth my time.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[littleskycrab 0]

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Past can be past, if the person has demonstrated that they have matured and evolved their decision-making processes. We all fuck up, especially when we're young. If we can learn from those fuck-ups and grow so that we don't repeat them, it's all good.

It's the chronic fuck-ups that I, personally, don't trust. If there's always an excuse for bad behavior ... well, that means there's probably going to be an excuse with me, too. Not worth my time.

[Lindercles 0]

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As it goes, we are meeting up soon, see how it goes

Just remember to make sure she likes anal before making any commitments.

[NWFlyer 2]

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As it goes, we are meeting up soon, see how it goes

Just remember to make sure she likes anal before making any commitments.

Fucker! I need a new monitor now.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[Scoop 0]

Of course! Duh, I need to know if its worth the trouble

[malboy 0]

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Past can be past, if the person has demonstrated that they have matured and evolved their decision-making processes. We all fuck up, especially when we're young. If we can learn from those fuck-ups and grow so that we don't repeat them, it's all good.

It's the chronic fuck-ups that I, personally, don't trust. If there's always an excuse for bad behavior ... well, that means there's probably going to be an excuse with me, too. Not worth my time.

your totally right, its not a black and white situation, especially if it happened a long time ago, im just saying that the knowledge that your SO has been capable of cheating in the past will always throw some doubt into the equation.

how much doubt and weather it can be overcome will depend on the people involed and the circumstances, and as you say how long ago and how much they have changed or grown since then.

its all grey areas, but my answer to the original question is still no.

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