antifnsocial 0 #1 July 31, 2006 So I just got done talking to a very upset friend of mine. A man she thought she was seeing invited her to a party where he obviously had invited other females who thought he was seeing them too or at least liked them. Why do people do this kind of shit?? Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #2 July 31, 2006 QuoteWhy do people do this kind of shit?? Because men are pigs... me included... well that and because most people don't actually know what the fuck they want... me included... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #3 July 31, 2006 Protecting his fragile little ego. He was so worried that one wouldn't show that he invited several. Pretty sad actually. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #4 July 31, 2006 I think it was more him ensuring that SOMEONE would hookup with him that evening. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #5 July 31, 2006 QuoteI think it was more him ensuring that SOMEONE would hookup with him that evening. QuoteProtecting his fragile little ego. He was so worried that one wouldn't show that he invited several. Pretty sad actually. Geez you people are quick to judge negatively Since we know Bugger all about the event in question, he may well have only been interested in her as a friend and she had the wrong idea. It may well be that he's a nice guy and has lots of female friends. I know I have far more female friends than maleYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #6 July 31, 2006 He wanted you women to fight over him, perhaps ripping your clothes off in the process. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #7 July 31, 2006 He was hoping for a reverse gang-bang."No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #8 July 31, 2006 QuoteWhy do people do this kind of shit?? People tend to stop doing this kinda thing once they turn 25'ish. Your friend should stop dating them young studs. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #9 July 31, 2006 I'm just a gigalo, and everywhere I go............"No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
owellynot 0 #10 July 31, 2006 QuoteHe wanted you women to fight over him, perhaps ripping your clothes off in the process. tee hee tee hee...that would've been my guess. I'm going to make a great third wife for my first husband.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 220 #11 July 31, 2006 QuoteI think it was more him ensuring that SOMEONE would hookup with him that evening. Orgy's would ensue!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #12 July 31, 2006 Whether I'd get irritated would totally depend on what he'd said to me. If we'd been out on a date or two or even a bunch but hadn't set any expectation of exclusivity ... well, I might be disappointed that I don't appear to be "the one" but at the same time, I'd now have a very clear understanding of where I stand. Now, if we'd had a chat about being exclusive and he was expecting me to be exclusive and I was promised the same, well then yeah, I'd be pissed off. Either way, that party told her exactly what she needs to know about this guy. What she chooses to do with it is up to her... walk away, or participate in his harem and/or orgy."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 220 #13 July 31, 2006 is this a recent development?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #14 July 31, 2006 QuoteProtecting his fragile little ego. He was so worried that one wouldn't show that he invited several. Pretty sad actually. Maybe he was hoping they would all just do each other Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #15 July 31, 2006 It's entirely possible based on the vague information given in the OP that this is a genuinely nice, good guy who likes to spend time with the people he cares about on a one on one basis, and in doing so has accidentally given them the impression that he wanted more out of the relationship than friendship. He then haplessly fell into an awkward situation when he innocently invited several of them to the same party. He could also be a total douchecanoe (thank's Grue) just looking to stir up shit. It's all in the interpretation of "thought she was seeing." WTH does that mean? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #16 July 31, 2006 QuoteIt's entirely possible based on the vague information given in the OP that this is a genuinely nice, good guy who likes to spend time with the people he cares about on a one on one basis, and in doing so has accidentally given them the impression that he wanted more out of the relationship than friendship. He then haplessly fell into an awkward situation when he innocently invited several of them to the same party. He could also be a total douchecanoe (thank's Grue) just looking to stir up shit. It's all in the interpretation of "though she was seeing." WTH does that mean? Whether it was accidental or deliberate, he's making it fairly clear that what he wants out of their relationship isn't what she wants out of it. She's now got that information and can act on it. What befuddles me is that she will probably continue to overanalyze his every action with her girlfriends and try to figure out how she can "make" him like her more. I really don't understand other wimmen sometimes. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #17 July 31, 2006 Quote Whether it was accidental or deliberate, he's making it fairly clear that what he wants out of their relationship isn't what she wants out of it. She's now got that information and can act on it. As long as we're making wild conjectures based on vague information, consider this possibility: He really is interested in her, and those other women were just good friends that had the wrong impression, and now she has the wrong impression and he's at home trying to strain the tears out of his soup. Or this one: He's the victim of accidental castration discussed in this post and since he lacks any sort of sexual pleasure in his life he gets his jollies by making several women fall for him at once, then dumping them all in one broad stroke (that'll teach women to cut off my dick!). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #18 July 31, 2006 No way of telling what other people are thinking unless you ask them. Likewise.. other people have no way of telling what you're thinking unless you tell them. Basic communication skills make it a lot harder for "the game" to be played. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #19 July 31, 2006 QuoteNo way of telling what other people are thinking unless you ask them. Likewise.. other people have no way of telling what you're thinking unless you tell them. Basic communication skills make it a lot harder for "the game" to be played. Quit making so much sense. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #20 July 31, 2006 QuoteQuoteNo way of telling what other people are thinking unless you ask them. Likewise.. other people have no way of telling what you're thinking unless you tell them. Basic communication skills make it a lot harder for "the game" to be played. Quit making so much sense. Agreeed. This is bonfire, not suppose to make sense here Now if we could just teach these skills to all...both men and women! She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #21 July 31, 2006 I'm sorry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Remster 30 #22 July 31, 2006 So whats the big deal? The "friend" wasnt into the whole orgy thing?Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites chaoskitty 0 #23 July 31, 2006 I guess she thought it was rude of him to have more than one date at a single event. Whats the rule anyway? Nobody gets two until everybody gets one? I hear that on the dropzone a lot. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites cocheese 0 #24 July 31, 2006 PM not sent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
Remster 30 #22 July 31, 2006 So whats the big deal? The "friend" wasnt into the whole orgy thing?Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #23 July 31, 2006 I guess she thought it was rude of him to have more than one date at a single event. Whats the rule anyway? Nobody gets two until everybody gets one? I hear that on the dropzone a lot. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
