broken1 0 #1 July 27, 2006 What do ya do when you have met the "one" and they cant give you back what you feel for them? When you have searched your entire life for this one person and they just cant find it in them to try to feel what you feel? How do you make the pain go away? How do you walk away from that person, when they still want to be friends, but you know in you heart that everytime you see them or talk to them, it will only hurt more and more? LOVE IS EVIL.....LOVE IS NOT FAIR!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adventurechick 0 #2 July 27, 2006 Grab your best friend... or someone random and take a vacation. You will see new spots that won't remind you of your significant other, you'll meet new people along the way, and don't forget the chocolate!! My longest relationship was 6 weeks... so this may not be the best of advice, but hey it might work! PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
broken1 0 #3 July 27, 2006 That person was my best and only true friend. Makes it that much harder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #4 July 27, 2006 QuoteLOVE IS EVIL.....LOVE IS NOT FAIR!!!!!I don't know about evil.... but I agree love is definetely not fair. It doesn't have to be though... because... it just doesn't...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyD 0 #5 July 27, 2006 QuoteWhat do ya do when you have met the "one" and they cant give you back what you feel for them? When you have searched your entire life for this one person and they just cant find it in them to try to feel what you feel? How do you make the pain go away? How do you walk away from that person, when they still want to be friends, but you know in you heart that everytime you see them or talk to them, it will only hurt more and more? LOVE IS EVIL.....LOVE IS NOT FAIR!!!!! Think about what you would write in this thread: http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=2348564;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;forum_view=forum_view_collapsed;;page=unread#unread Now ask yourself why you are pursuing the wrong person. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #6 July 27, 2006 QuoteThink about what you would write in this thread: http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=2348564;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;forum_view=forum_view_collapsed;;page=unread#unread Now ask yourself why you are pursuing the wrong person.um... but what if the poster's not a girl... cause... well cause unless the poster's gay (which is fine...) frankly that'd be wierd... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #7 July 27, 2006 Be patient. Eventually, we grow up & realize what we had all along. Don't give up, if you really feel that they are the one, give them a little space to grow. Usually, from a female pespective, we wake up one day & realize just how incredibly lucky we are to have the nice guy. It only gets better but you have to be patient. Sometimes it takes a while but it's worth the wait, IMO. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
broken1 0 #8 July 27, 2006 I pray to God that is exactely what happens. I pray for that every night. Thing is I have been so desperate. I have probably ruined any chance of that happening. I have been through a divorce and a bad engagement. Neither made me as crazy as this has. I mean it really has drove me to the point of being an absolute fool. I just want the hurt to be over. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #9 July 27, 2006 I'm not sure of your situation. I've been through a similar experience. Everyone makes bad decisions. At some point, we wake up & ask ourselves; what the hell am I doing? I think it is all in the timing. Personally, If my love didn't stick with me through the great times & the bad, we would not have the amazing life that we that share now. If you find the one, you will recognize them immediately. There are three levels of soulmate in my opinion. If you feel this person has that quality, do not give up. It is incredibly difficult to find someone you are completely compatible with. If you find it & they're not interested, at least you know they are still out there. Find someone to appreciate your strengths and happiness will follow. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #10 July 27, 2006 QuoteWhen you have searched your entire life for this one person . . . Don't spend your life searching for someone, other than yourself. Yeah, I know... that probably doesn't help right now, but that's what stood out to me in your post. I hope you feel better soon. Blue Skies, Keely Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #11 July 27, 2006 It hurts, I know. Does it go away, NO... does it fade in time, yes. The love will always be with you, take solace in that. I know that sounds a bit defeatest, but you can't make someone feel something they don't. Holding onto something that "may" be will only hold you back. This too I know. Focus on what makes you happy. Make yourself shine. Love you! If you sit and listen to sad songs - TURN THEM OFF! If you sit and look over pictures - PUT THEM AWAY! Not forever, only until you are able to look at them with peace and not pain. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #12 July 27, 2006 QuoteIt hurts, I know. Does it go away, NO... does it fade in time, yes. The love will always be with you, take solace in that. I know that sounds a bit defeatest, but you can't make someone feel something they don't. Holding onto something that "may" be will only hold you back. This too I know. Focus on what makes you happy. Make yourself shine. Love you! If you sit and listen to sad songs - TURN THEM OFF! If you sit and look over pictures - PUT THEM AWAY! Not forever, only until you are able to look at them with peace and not pain. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) g Extremely wise words. From Shotgun too. Find yourself, be yourself. I was in the same boat as you, but then decided no one was going to care about me better than me - and then everything started falling into place. ****HUG**** JumpScars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #13 July 27, 2006 QuoteDon't spend your life searching for someone, other than yourself. I want to reiterate this point. You must also make yourself happy. If you are not happy with yourself, then you can't make someone else happy. Don't do things because you think that that's what someone else wants. Do it because you want to and it's going to make you happy. You had a life before you met this person. You can have one after you met them too. It's your decision. Give it some time, back away from the situation. Let your heart heal and then go back and try to be friends. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #14 July 27, 2006 Quote decided no one was going to care about me better than me - and then everything started falling into place. Anyone ever tell you you're pretty smart? "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
apollard24 0 #15 July 27, 2006 I think I could have wrote this myself. I too am going through a major change with someone I love, its so hard. Sometimes I dont know that I can get through the pain but it will get better as time passes.Breathe out so I can breathe you in... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #16 July 27, 2006 QuoteI was in the same boat as you, but then decided no one was going to care about me better than me - and then everything started falling into place. I'm not so sure of that. Maybe it's rose-colored glasses, but I think the perfect relationship would include someone who cares about me more than I care about myself, and vice versa. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #17 July 27, 2006 If they are the one & you can’t handle being around them, keep your distance for a while. Make sure they have your # and give them time to think. In the meantime, do whatever else you enjoy & make yourself happy. When they realize they may have made a mistake, they will come back to someone that is happy & emotionally stable. You can use this time in between, although painful, for personal development. Don’t lose all hope but don’t dwell. Do whatever it takes for you to enjoy your life right now. Love yourself & keep your eyes open. The possibilies are endless. If it is meant to be, it will happen when you are both totally ready for each other. I wish you the very best. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #18 July 27, 2006 QuoteThat person was my best and only true friend. Makes it that much harder If you keep that track of thinking it will be. Surely before you met them you had friends and if you didn't...now is the great time to make new ones It's hard to let yourself get over things but some day you will be stronger and have found someone truely deserving of the love you a willing to give.Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cameramonkey 0 #19 July 27, 2006 I know that feeling all too well. Remember these words, they are OH so true. "...you dont look for love, it comes looking for you." -Shawn Colvin Love sux ass. Even when you think you have found it, its often just an illusion. Many times the illusion is only a partial one, but still..Two wrongs don't make a right, however three lefts DO! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PrairieDoug 0 #20 July 27, 2006 broken1 -- The feedback you've gotten is solid. However things turn out, I think you'll find when you get to the other side of this that it has been a powerful catalyst for personal growth. Of course,,, when I'm not getting what I want when I want it, I say "f#ck personal growth." Over time, though, it's something I've often appreciated more than what was lost. Good luck to you. Doug Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrad 0 #21 July 27, 2006 QuoteWhat do ya do when you have met the "one" and they cant give you back what you feel for them? When you have searched your entire life for this one person and they just cant find it in them to try to feel what you feel? How do you make the pain go away? How do you walk away from that person, when they still want to be friends, but you know in you heart that everytime you see them or talk to them, it will only hurt more and more? LOVE IS EVIL.....LOVE IS NOT FAIR!!!!! Been there....Am there. If they are married and you really care for them walk away. If they're still getting over someone give them time. If they're with someone else get on with living your life secure in the knowledge that 'whats for you won't go by you.' As for the pain, well thats what makes the highs so high, feel it, remember it, value it, it means you're alive.When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
plowdirt 0 #22 July 27, 2006 It's hard, I know. but I just kept on trukin. I don't know about your hidden factors, but when I seen the ones I was going through. Ha ha. I couldn't believe it. Some days we can all look back on our lives and be like ahhh crap, other days you will say ohhh O.K. Sounds like today is an ahh crap day, Chin up buckerooo, you'll have the chance to say I told you so. Hope ya feel better, real soon. E Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ifall 0 #23 July 27, 2006 I love what you and Shotgun had to say. Broken1 this is what you need to do. I have just been through getting my heart broken as well and I'm just about to the top of the hill. I got there by doing what these two smart women have told you. It really works, you don't need to stop loving the person but don't get your hopes up that they will come running back. It usually never works anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #24 July 27, 2006 Think of the opportunity you have..... to be free and able to let true love find you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #25 July 27, 2006 QuoteWhat do ya do when you have met the "one" and they cant give you back what you feel for them? If they can't love you and appreciate you for the person that you are, then they aren't really "the One", are they? Don't pine away for someone who can't give you what you need. If you are hurting this badly, walk away from the situation for awhile. Take one day at a time, find yourself and do the things that make you happy. Be open to meeting new people and finding the real "one" for you. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
