My ex is father of the year ....

[lisamariewillbe 1]

My child, my cute, innocent 5 year old son while playing hide and go seek just minutes ago, was found by me when his older brother told me where he was... upon finding out that his great place was found he loudly exclaimed "Oh Kyle you are so fucking dead" and starting chasing the older one... I thought I heard him wrong and asked him what he said and Kyle told me exactly what it was his younger brother had just said ... Not only is this horrible in itself, I broke out in laughter which just encourages them.... GRRRR at my ex for teaching these sweet innocent boys such a word. Now the question is, how do I tell them its bad when I cant stop laughing when they say it...I cant believe I just quoted my son and the F word in the same sentence....

Okay back to hide and seek .... just had to take a DZ.com break for this post. And have to make it a point to stop laughing if he says it again.....

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[guppie01 0]

I am not a parent, therefore have no real advise for you.... GOOD LUCK!!!

I just wanted to say that your new avatar is smokin HOT!!!!~

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OMG, is she okay?

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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I just wanted to say that your new avatar is smokin HOT!!!!~

Thanks sweety, I bought stock in covergirl...
They are hiding, while I am postwhoring... now I am working on parent of the year,..... granted I hear them giggling so they should be able to hear the keyboard...

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[waltappel 1]

Tell him you'll beat his fucking ass if he says any of that motherfucking kind of shit again.

Of course if you do that he might shoot the finger at you.

Walt

[ntrprnr 0]

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I am not a parent, therefore have no real advise for you.... GOOD LUCK!!!

I just wanted to say that your new avatar is smokin HOT!!!!~

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Seriously - did you sit through the "this will go great with your eyes" shpiel at the local Macy's?"

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"Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?"
"Even in freefall, I have commitment issues."

[skydivermom 0]

My 7 (almost 8-yikes) year old has heard a lot of profanity from some of the kids down the street where we used to live. He came home and just matter of factly asked me what the words meant. I would give him my best explanation and tell him we don't use those words. That's easier than your scenario because he isn't hearing them from someone he looks up to.

Probably not much help. Sorry LisaMarie.

Mrs. WaltAppel

All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28

[lisamariewillbe 1]

no jeesh , am I a dog without makeup .....Its eyeliner and lipstick, my mom got married I couldnt look total ghetto at her wedding

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[waltappel 1]

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My 7 (almost 8-yikes) year old has heard a lot of profanity from some of the kids down the street where we used to live. He came home and just matter of factly asked me what the words meant. I would give him my best explanation and tell him we don't use those words. That's easier than your scenario because he isn't hearing them from someone he looks up to.

Probably not much help. Sorry LisaMarie.

Next time tell him to ask *me* what the words mean and how to use them properly!

Walt

[skydivermom 0]

***Next time tell him to ask *me* what the words mean and how to use them properly!

Walt

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You're pushing it Walt! I'm gonna get in my car and come down there

Mrs. WaltAppel

All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28

[lisamariewillbe 1]

Yea doubt she will listen to ya lol and uhhh I wont either....

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[Muenkel 0]

I'm going to be serious here...smoking hot avatar aside.

IMO, a 5 year old using the word Fuck is not funny. If you want him to stop, you've got to lead by example. Do your best to not laugh at all when you hear him say it. Instead, lay down the rules regarding language. Sure, you may use the word yourself, but I'm sure you censor yourself while in the presence of your children.

Many people may think; What's wrong with the word 'fuck'. It's just a word afterall. I think it is a matter of having standards and a certain level of class. You're raising little people to grow up and go out into the world someday. There will be many times in their lives where that kind of language will be unacceptable. It's good they learn to censor themselves now.

Back to the hot avatar...yum!

Chris

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Chris

[skydivermom 0]

He's already done enough damage to my child!

Mrs. WaltAppel

All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28

[waltappel 1]

I'm only offering because I want to help.

I was traumatized when I was a kid over a similar situation. One day my brother looked at me and said, "I'm gonna piss all over you".

So I asked him what "piss" means and he wouldn't tell me.

"Mom, what does 'piss' mean?"

"Where did you hear that?!!!!!"

"[my brother] said he was gonna piss all over me. What does it mean?"

"It means 'wee wee' and don't you *ever* use that word again!!!!"

Then she demanded my brother tell her where he heard that. He lied and claimed he had no idea what it meant and that he had heard it at school.

When I look back on that I see my mother was a little weak in her parenting skills. She would have done a far better job preparing me for life if she had told me what it meant, told me to *never* use the term "wee wee", and told me that the proper response when someone threatens to piss on me is to go, "Sure, you can piss on me all you want as soon as I'm done taking a shit in your mouth!".

Walt

[slug 1]

Sorry don't have any kids
So consider this a question not a suggestion: what ever happened to using the bar of soap to wash out the potty mouth

Could this get a parent in trouble? Now that you know whats up "got to have a plan sam"

OTOH At least you ex doesn't say OMFG

Good luck.

R.I.P.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

No its not funny but it was funny to hear it , funny shocking way.... I choose to not discipline for something like this. I do not use that word ever in front of my kids... I will tonight explain its one of those words that people use when they have nothing intelligent to say. Its not a matter of their class or my parenting, its a matter of them learning from their father something that I didnt expect to ever hear. Heh as already recieved a nice email from me explaining what I expect. All kids swear at one time or another. Its really not a big deal though and ignoring future refrence to it will make it not such a fun word and they wont use it.

For real it sounded very funny coming from a kid wish a lisp whose normally a mommas boy

And thanks for the avatar comment...

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[lisamariewillbe 1]

Soap in the mouth has killed children. And since they have no idea that the word was wrong when they used it I have no desire to punish for this... death is a bit extreme. If its used after tomorrow they will get to write it alot... get it out of thier system. Im only waiting till tonight to have a talk with them because their friend is over and I will not embarrass my kids by lecturing in front of others unless its a life threatening action

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[StreetScooby 5]

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When I look back on that I see my mother was a little weak in her parenting skills. She would have done a far better job preparing me for life if she had told me what it meant, told me to *never* use the term "wee wee", and told me that the proper response when someone threatens to piss on me is to go, "Sure, you can piss on me all you want as soon as I'm done taking a shit in your mouth!".

I have 3 kids: 11, 8 and 5.

Never underestimate the ability of a kid to put 2 and 2 together and come up with 7. It's pretty remarkable. What ever you do, don't encourage that trait.

We are all engines of karma

[skydivermom 0]

I believe it's wrong to discipline a child for using a word when they have no idea it's a "bad word", and especially if they've heard it from someone who is supposed to be setting an example (a good one that is). My son knows he can always come ask me what a word means and I won't go "ape" on him for saying it.

If he continues to use bad words and I know he understands what they mean and that they are unacceptable, action will be taken.

Mrs. WaltAppel

All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28

[Thanatos340 1]

Reminds me of an old Joke..

Two little brothers decide it`s time to learn to swear. The oldest says,"OK, you say ass and I`ll say hell."

Excited about their plan, they go downstairs where their mother asks them what they want for breakfast.

"Aw, hell." says the oldest,"gimme some Cheerios."

His mother backhands him off the stool, sending him out of the room bawling and turns to the younger brother saying, "What`ll you have?"

"I dunno," says the boy,"but you can bet your ass it ain`t gonna be Cheerios!"

[slug 1]

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Soap in the mouth has killed children. And since they have no idea that the word was wrong when they used it I have no desire to punish for this... death is a bit extreme. If its used after tomorrow they will get to write it alot... get it out of thier system. Im only waiting till tonight to have a talk with them because their friend is over and I will not embarrass my kids by lecturing in front of others unless its a life threatening action

Thanks for the info. We had no idea.

Can you tell we haven't spent much time around the little ones. Being a good parent is a hard job and We weren't sure we'd be up to the task. In hind sight I was right .

R.I.P.

[turtlespeed 226]

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Soap in the mouth has killed children. And since they have no idea that the word was wrong when they used it I have no desire to punish for this... death is a bit extreme. If its used after tomorrow they will get to write it alot... get it out of thier system. Im only waiting till tonight to have a talk with them because their friend is over and I will not embarrass my kids by lecturing in front of others unless its a life threatening action

Thanks for the info. We had no idea.

Can you tell we haven't spent much time around the little ones. Being a good parent is a hard job and We weren't sure we'd be up to the task. In hind sight I was right .

R.I.P.

Tobasco works - but make sure the kid knew that it was bad and did it anyway - nothing screws up a kid more than unjust punishment.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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[FallinWoman 1]

Reminds me of an early parenting moment when my step-daughter came to live with us. She was eight at the time. We were playing cards, and apparently she thought that Skymedic was taking too long to take his turn. This angel faced, up to then perfect child said, "Play a fucking card!" She immediately hid her face and Marc and I were rolling on the floor laughing.

We then talked to her about those words, and how they are not ok. In the three years plus since then I have only heard one swear word out of her...and that was just recently.

~Anne

I'm a Doll!!!!

[meltdown 0]

My 10 year old daughter's heard it all, and she's been hanging around dropzones for the past 2-1/2 years, so she hears it regularly. Everytime she is exposed to something she shouldn't repeat I just tell her "that word will get you kicked out of school". Works every time.

[ChrisL 2]

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GRRRR at my ex for teaching these sweet innocent boys such a word. Now the question is, how do I tell them its bad when I cant stop laughing when they say it...

Rather than waste my time trying to teach my kids something that they will just ignore a couple years from now, which is that words are bad (an idea that I find to be silly) I teach them that words are words, that I dont find any of them offensive but that some people DO and what they need to learn is not to NOT say certain things, but instead to be mindful of who is around and to respect them and not say things that they might be offended by.

If you teach them to respect people, the language they use will take care of itself

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My mighty steed

[Rebecca 0]

That was well put, and wise.



I remember my first F-bomb. It was summer, 1983 in Frankfurt. Mom and I were cruising through whatever neighborhood housed my 4th grade school. I was in the back seat, technically belted as always, but so far forward, watching the city over the front wall of a seat, that the belt was just for show.
At no particular stop sign, I considered the expansive brick wall directly in front of me and said, "Fuck of? Fuck off? What does that...?"

Mom whipped around.

"WHAT DID YOU SAY?!!!?"

"Mom. It's written right there. Look. Fuck off? What does that mean?"





I can't remember what she said, but it didn't work, 'cause the next Sunday, bored on the way home from church, I suggested a rhyming game to my brother. Clever me, I waited until my third turn to suggest 'luck'.
Clever Mom, she didn't miss a beat.



I don't actually recall getting comfortable with it until college though.




So... anyway... hope that helped.

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