Do you blame your SO instinctively?

[Mike111 0]

if youre god... there wopuld be a lot of benefits!!

[yamtx73 0]

In that case I guess it means I'm just guilty by gender....

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

[cameramonkey 0]

Has she adopted the attitude of "no keeping score" and "no nitpicking"?

Mine did. If I call her out on something once, I am nitpicking. Cant do that, its bad. If I save them up and caller her out on it later, I'm "keeping score". WTF????

I still love her tho'.

Two wrongs don't make a right, however three lefts DO!

[Hipwrddude 0]

Hi Mike, here's the lowdown, the big skinny, the gimme what ya got, in the church of what's happening now.
She's blaming you for every little thing because she is feeling something. What that is is up to you to find out. Here are some possible reasons; She could be throwing verbal daggers to try to get you into a confrontation with her. Perhaps she's angry at you because she may feel you don't give her enough attention, or forgot a birthday, or are not fulfilling a particular need (i.e. intimacy, not necessarily sexual.) The two biggest factors in long-term relationships are kindness and intimacy. Couples who've been together awhile filter what the other says often resulting in disconnects on key emotional messages. It could also be salvos in a desire to end the relationship. Another explanation, unfortunately, is she could be attracted to someone else and your presence now annoys her.
Whatever it is, you want to find a quiet evening to sit down and address it ... ASAP! It will not go away on its own. I know exactly the feeling and it took a life change to end it. Later my family and friends told me how she would say all these bad things about me (true or false, whether I was present or not.) I heard them but they didn't register with me emotionally--she was my girl. Sometimes the heart thinks for the brain and the result is a depressing quality of love life. Sorry to be so finite, but sometimes you have to confront your SO on the road of life to see if you have the same maps.
Good luck!

You're always the starter in your own life!

[warpedskydiver 0]

You too huh?

[waltappel 1]

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Any advice?

Well, if you want to keep having sex, accept that the woman is always right and make the phrase, "yes, dear" your mantra.

End of story!!!!

Walt

[Mike111 0]

[Mike111 0]

lol she keeps a score for me but never for her.

lol always remembers my mistake but according to her shes done nothing wrong!

[Mike111 0]

Thanks man, that sounds pretty similar to what is going on...but the idea of tlaknig to her does sound a good one!

Cheers!

[livendive 8]

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make the phrase, "yes, dear" your mantra.

I HATE that phrase! It's either so condescending and arrogant or just represents a person with no backbone.

I much perfer spirit.

Maybe start asking "why" it's your fault that there's a bug there or what ever else she is annoyed by. Not in a bad way, but to try to better understand her logic.

k.

I've occasionally used "yes dear" specifically to provoke such a reaction. In my world, it's relationship-speak for either "You're being so absurd that I'm not even going to bother formulating a real response" or "Screw it, I can do whatever it is you're asking me to faster than I can convince you to accept an alternative."



Blues,
Dave

"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!"
(drink Mountain Dew)

[darnknit 0]

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In my world, it's relationship-speak for either "You're being so absurd that I'm not even going to bother formulating a real response" or "Screw it, I can do whatever it is you're asking me to faster than I can convince you to accept an alternative."

that is the best advice for this particular situation. do not forget the general lesson, it doesn't matter who is right, what matters is: how can i (watch the game, go to the dropzone, play poker with the gang...).

it is easiest to accomplish a personal goal when your teammate thinks you are behind them all the way.


keep it in the skin

pulling is cool. keep it in the skin

[turtlespeed 226]

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. . . her logic.

k.

Bwahahahahaha And the Easter bunny was humping Santa's Leg last night too right?

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[Slappie 9]

WORDS WOMEN USE

FINE

This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

FIVE MINUTES

If she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

NOTHING

This is the calm before the storm. This means "something," and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with 'Nothing' usually end in "Fine"

GO AHEAD

This is a dare, not permission. Don't do it.

LOUD SIGH

This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

THAT'S OKAY

This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

THANKS

A woman is thanking you. Do not question it or faint. Just say you're welcome.

WHATEVER

this is simple really if your female says this she is really saying "F--- You!"

"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

[shropshire 0]

- Soooo True

(.)Y(.)
Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome

[Mike111 0]

ill second that!