SkydiveStMarys 0 #1 April 12, 2006 I have a very personal event happen to me about 4 years ago...no one here knows anything about it...it was one of those events that lasted off and on, for about 2 years...until one day I had to make a decision.....a fork in the road, if you will....today for some reason I went to that moment...and thought, "what if" I chose the other road....do any of you have those moments...I realize that we make choices everyday, but this moment has to do with a real life changing issue...a "what if" I did it the other way, where would I be today.... BTW...I made the right choice. just pondering, BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #2 April 12, 2006 Yes, I've had that moment. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mayberry 0 #3 April 12, 2006 Oh yeah. Don Here's to friends! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #4 April 12, 2006 Sure we do. I was 20 years old and had failed out of college. I'd worked two jobs and decided that this wasn't for me, and I wanted to go back to school. So I worked 75 hours per week and took 8 units of summer school at UC Irvine. For 12 weeks I had three days a week of work from 6-3, class from 3:30 to 5:30, and work from 6:30 -2:00. One night my friends at my evening job decided to intervene on night at about 11:00. I'd lost a lot of weight, they said, and I was never hanging out with them anymore. I needed to go with them and hang out that night. The problem was my midterm exam the next day that I needed to study for. I told them I couldn't hang out, I had to study. After a good sized discussion for about 20 minutes they left. I'd never felt so alone in my life. Of course, I aced that test. I got back into school, and I am now doing well. I don't wonder "What if?" I know "what if?" I would have set the tone for the rest of my life. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #5 April 12, 2006 Yup, I've had one of those.... Can't say whether it was the right or wrong choice to this day. g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PRSKY71 0 #6 April 12, 2006 I've had several. The biggest one I am still pondering years later. I suppose good things have happened to me since; however, what if I had chosen the other way? Maybe things would be better but I'll never know. For now thigs are pretty good! Character cannot be made except by a steady, long continued process. -- Phillips Brooks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #7 April 12, 2006 How long ago did it take place? For me as the years go by..I can be more insightful about it....and see it in a diffrent perspective. BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #8 April 12, 2006 Happened a lil over a year ago.... I don't think time will help with this one.... g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #9 April 12, 2006 I don't allow myself the option of looking back and thinking "what if". I am afraid that I may see that I made a mistake somewhere along the road and then begin to question all of my decisions. I have been at a place where I had to choose which fork in the road to take, it's never an easy thing to do. I'll never know if I took the right one but I can say that I am happy with who I am and the direction my life is going. For me, that's enough. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pop 0 #10 April 12, 2006 QuoteHappened a lil over a year ago.... I don't think time will help with this one.... g Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo 7 ounce wonders, music and dogs that are not into beer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #11 April 12, 2006 "I am afraid that I may see that I made a mistake somewhere along the road and then begin to question all of my decisions" The only way we learn from our mistakes is to recognize them and accept them for what they were...mistakes. By the same token...it is good to be happy with where/what you are..after all you can't change the past but you can choose your future. BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #12 April 12, 2006 Just curious...what would you say to someone that might be in the mist of a "what if" moment now...where they have to make that decision? BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #13 April 12, 2006 Quoteafter all you can't change the past but you can choose your future. Exactly. I cannot change the past and so I take those lessons with me, but I do not look back or wonder if I made the right choice. I cannot change the decisions that I have made, but I can move forward as a wiser and better person. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davedlg 0 #14 April 12, 2006 Yup. I had one some years back. I made what I would have considered to be the wrong decision in the short term. In the long term, it was almost definatly a good decision, but there is still the 'what if?' factor to this day. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #15 April 13, 2006 I have such moments all the time...actually, I think we all do. I usually try to not spend too much time thinking about the path not taken and more time on the path I've found (put) myself on. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #16 April 13, 2006 I guess for me...going back to that moment it was a"what if" moment but it was also one of those..."God, things could have been so different"...had I not recgonized that moment, where I needed to come to grips with where I was right then and there.....things would have been different...that type of moment...I'm not making sense...its hard to get my point across... I'm not saying the way you are thinking is right or wrong... BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skykat108 0 #17 April 13, 2006 Yeap. I had one just around christmas. It was the decision to either stay with my husband, support him while he sat around playing his videos games, and basically putting the computer and his friends before me. Or leave him and start my life over. I started my life over, it hasn't been easy, and it's only been about 4 months. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #18 April 13, 2006 Just so ya know...my "what if" moment was not filled with regret....I was actually looking at it as a "life saving" moment.....I guess not all "what if" moments have to be filled with regret. BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #19 April 13, 2006 No, I understand the point that you're trying to make. We just see things from different angles. For me, when I am at the moment where I have to decide I trust that my instincts, knowledge, and past lessons will help me to decide what to do. Once I make a choice I do not look back or question it. I continue on that road until it forks again. This has worked well for me. It doesn't leave room for regret and it allows me to be happy. QuoteI guess not all "what if" moments have to be filled with regret. You and I agree on this point. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #20 April 13, 2006 i often think about what if... like what if i would of stayed on active duty in the air force, well alot of things would of been diffrent this past year, i'd bee living in south carolina right now, but i think i wouldn't trade the choice i made for the life of me.. had a blast this past year, and who knows someday i might try and go back... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #21 April 13, 2006 Absolutely, most definitely. I have had many moments. I had one about a year ago and it was a very difficult decision, but definitely the right one to make. I couldn't be much happier than right now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites airtwardo 7 #22 April 13, 2006 Never look back, it's a fools folly! If it's a decision you made, then by that very description alone...it was right. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites leapdog 0 #23 April 13, 2006 QuoteNever look back, it's a fools folly! Agreed. I have had many. Some had to be made because of a previous "life choice". Some I am sure to this day it was right. Some others not so sure, but I don't look back. I made the choices and they can't be changed. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkydiveStMarys 0 #24 April 13, 2006 I agree...but what about "reflecting" on a situation...do you ever do that? Because maybe thats what really describes what I am talking about...reflecting on a situation... BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites leapdog 0 #25 April 13, 2006 I have. I'm sure we all do at some point. For me, reflecting usually came shortly after making the decision. Reflecting long term later on for meant that something happened where I was making a new decision again and I wondered if I had went another route if I would be faced with having to make the new decision. I think I just confused myself. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
airtwardo 7 #22 April 13, 2006 Never look back, it's a fools folly! If it's a decision you made, then by that very description alone...it was right. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leapdog 0 #23 April 13, 2006 QuoteNever look back, it's a fools folly! Agreed. I have had many. Some had to be made because of a previous "life choice". Some I am sure to this day it was right. Some others not so sure, but I don't look back. I made the choices and they can't be changed. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #24 April 13, 2006 I agree...but what about "reflecting" on a situation...do you ever do that? Because maybe thats what really describes what I am talking about...reflecting on a situation... BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leapdog 0 #25 April 13, 2006 I have. I'm sure we all do at some point. For me, reflecting usually came shortly after making the decision. Reflecting long term later on for meant that something happened where I was making a new decision again and I wondered if I had went another route if I would be faced with having to make the new decision. I think I just confused myself. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
