Men and marriage

[skymama 37]

I was clicking through my Hotmail account and saw a blurb for this article about men and signs showing that they are ready to get married. I found this paragraph interesting:

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His research has found that age can have a great effect on a man's attitude toward marriage. Most college-educated men don't consider marriage as a serious possibility until age 26. In fact, they enter a phase of high commitment between the ages of 28 and 33. Men who've gone on to graduate school -- doctors, lawyers, etc. -- hit their commitment-peak phase during ages 30 to 36. But Malloy says that once a single man hits 37, the chances that he'll marry start to fade. And after his 43rd birthday, he'll probably remain a bachelor for life.

For you guys, has your age really played into your decision to get married or to remain single? Do you think it's true that a man will remain a bachelor once he hits 43 and is still single?

*Note* I am NOT asking this because I'm dying to get married, I'm just curious!

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[skinnyshrek 0]

I think i was 32 when i got married. Age didnt really play a part. I just found someone that would put up with my shit. One day i'm sure she will explode

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[peanutt 0]

I don't know about an age number. I do know the older I get, the more "set in my ways" i get. Guess living alone has an effect

[yardhippie 0]

Married at 25. Not because of my age, but because the only one who would put up with me stopped calling me.
So I stalked her for a while, started skydiving, and she couldnt resist!

Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD
"What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me
"Anything you want." ~ female skydiver
Mohoso Rodriguez #865

[ccowden 0]

Nope, not age. It is about when you meet the right woman. I didn't feel like I was on any timeline or had a certain age when things changed. In fact, marriage was one of the last tings on my mind at the time I met my now wife. When I met her, everything changed. Things I didn't feel were important to me suddenly became so. She made me want those things that come with marriage.

[Taylor610 0]

Age really played no part in my decision. (Nor did an unexpected pregnancy) I will add that when my son was in his freshman year at college he was in a co-ed dorm. He said to me, "It's like a buffet Dad, anytime, anywhere, just pick what you want.

I think that times have changed as well as moral standards. Younger women are way more willing to have "casual sex" than they were 20 years ago. Men don't have to get married to keep a woman, because it seems like every corner they turn, there is a woman willing to sleep with them. I am not singling out younger women either. There are plenty of women who are out and on there own, a lot of them divorced, who are willing to "sleep around" without commitment.

And then there is Skymama, still saving herself until the right one comes along! If she ever does commit, there will be a million broken hearts...

[waltappel 1]

I'm 49 and don't think I was really worth having a relationship with until the past 5 years or so. I am open to all possibilities, including marriage, which is something I really wasn't open to before.

Of course, being "The Glory Hole Man" and all, yep, I'm probably gonna be single for life!

Walt

[CSpenceFLY 1]

He needed a green card.


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[jeiber 0]

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For you guys, has your age really played into your decision to get married or to remain single? Do you think it's true that a man will remain a bachelor once he hits 43 and is still single?

Definitely. No guy has any business getting marries until he's 29 or 30. We're simply too immature, and not ready to settle down. Women aren't much better, but they figure things out a little quicker than us men. Women are pretty much idiots until they turn 26 or 27.

As far as I go, yeah, I'd actually like to get married. I've lived the single live enough that I think I can look back with no regret.

If I'm having a hard time finding a decent woman now, when I'm a young 33, I can't imagine how difficult it'll be when even more of the good ones are taken at 43.

Jeff

Shhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring!

[skymama 37]

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And then there is Skymama, still saving herself until the right one comes along! If she ever does commit, there will be a million broken hearts...

I was married for 17 years. It takes some people two or three marriages to equal the length on my one! That's why I don't feel the need to jump into marriage again, my ex wore me out!

But, thank-you for the compliment.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Thanatos340 1]

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But Malloy says that once a single man hits 37, the chances that he'll marry start to fade.

Cool!! I am Almost Home free!!

Seriously.. I have never understood why any Man would sign a Contract that basically says... "If you ever get pissed at me, You can have everything I own". Oh and there is a Possibility that I will have to pay you until you find some other sucker to Marry you.

Sorry.. I just never understood why ANYONE would want to get Married. Date Forever.. Live together... Love each other till death do you part... Why do you need a legally binding Contract to do these things??

Most people RUSH into marriage because they are taught this is what they are supposed to do... I remember in College there 100`s of women who were just there for their MRS Degree and they were quite honest about it. Got to find them a Husband. Pretty sad if you ask me.

[skymama 37]

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As far as I go, yeah, I'd actually like to get married. I've lived the single live enough that I think I can look back with no regret.

What is it about marriage that you find appealing now as compared to a couple of years ago?

I'm not anti-marriage, I think marriage can be a good thing if you find the right person. Finding the right person is definitely the trick and the hardest part about it. I certainly never want to go through the pain of a divorce again, so the thought of marriage is just plain scary.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[LargeBoy 0]

marrige will die out eventually .... remember where you heard it first

[DTOXX 0]

Married for 19 years. I will have to check with my wife to get my opinion on this subject...


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[yardhippie 0]

So true.
Thats one of the many reasons I left AR.
so many of the women April and I went to school with, hand a one track mind.
Get married make babies. I just couldnt stand it any more.
Jay's argument was my argument for a long time. But then I realized what Hottie meant to me, and things changed.

hell, we've even had some problems, but we're big enough people to talk about those problems (no matter how much it hurts) and continue to be best friends.

Marriage aint for everyone, especially those that think that "time is running out", or it their main goal in life.

Get out, see the world, have FUN!

Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD
"What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me
"Anything you want." ~ female skydiver
Mohoso Rodriguez #865

[pullhigh 0]

I married young, 21. Been married for 14 years now. Age played a factor, I was young and didn;t know any better.... lol Can't change things now, too damned expensive. You can get away with murder alot cheaper than you can get a divorce these days!

Ganja

[NWFlyer 2]

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Marriage aint for everyone, especially those that think that "time is running out", or it their main goal in life.

I've never understood that mentality. Okay, I guess I understand it if you are a woman and having children is a definite goal and it's important to you to do that in the context of a marriage. Modern medical marvels notwithstanding, it does get more challenging to have a child after a certain age (not to mention more challenging to keep up with a child after a certain age).

But the people who need to be married to be married... they befuddle me. Completely. I had a roommate once who, in her late 20s, would date a guy for six months, then basically give him an ultimatim: propose or I'm moving on. Sigh. She finally did find one guy who proposed... no idea how that marriage turned out.

I'm a firm believer that when/if the right person comes along, marriage will make sense. Till then, I feel no need to pursue every relationship in the context of "Is this going to lead to marriage?"

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[RastaRicanAir 0]

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I think i was 32 when i got married. Age didnt really play a part. I just found someone that would put up with my shit. One day i'm sure she will explode

That visa running out didn't hurt either huh?

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[livendive 8]

Well, I got married soon after turning 19, but we separated at 20 and the divorce was final just after turning 21...so I don't think that one counts.

In the 16 years since that divorce, I've wavered back & forth on whether I ever want to marry again. Like Jay, I don't have a problem with the concept of lifelong committment without the state's blessing. As I get older though, I notice there are some benefits to marriage that I'd probably want to give to someone to whom I was committed for life. So at 37 I guess I've reached a point where yeah, if everything was perfect, I'd marry ONE (and only one) more time. Actually, I reached this point a few years ago...lived with a gal who'd already promised she'd say yes if I asked, and I did get her dad's permission, but I never popped the question because it just didn't feel quite right. Considering how things turned out, that's a good thing. Anyhow, like someone else said, it does seem that the longer I wait the less appealing my options are, but I don't think that substantially affects me. I mean, I've already decided I'll only marry if the relationship seems perfect, and I'm pretty sure that filters out a LOT more of the potential women than age and life does.

The only way I think age really affects me is on the children front. I'm not opposed to getting married again, and the door's not completely shut on having another kid. But my first marriage took place just because she was pregnant and I don't want that to happen again. So in order for this to work, I'd have to meet the right woman, get to know her well enough to believe she's the right woman, propose and go though an engagement/wedding, conceive a child, and survive the pregnancy phase. If I met the gal today, decided after only one year that she was the right one, had a three month engagement, and she got pregnant on our wedding night, the baby would be born when I'm 39. That would have me putting up with teenage BS while in my 50s, and paying for college right when I'm trying to make balloon payments to my retirement fund. If I don't get into that relationship today, it takes longer than a year to feel comfortable with a decision to marry, the engagement is longer than 3 months, or it takes some time to conceive, well the picture just gets worse. This isn't really covering whether I would marry a woman, but there are still a lot of women out there who want to have a child (or two!) with a spouse, and I guess my thoughts on the subject make me less than desirable to them. That's the only way I see age playing a factor in whether I ever marry again.

Blues,
Dave

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[simplyputsi 0]

I can't belive no one has asked you yet.

Since I'm in the range of men that wants to get married well ummm

Will you marry me?

Skymama's #2 stalker -

[Taylor610 0]

I married young, 21. Been married for 14 years now. Age played a factor, I was young and didn;t know any better.... lol Can't change things now, too damned expensive. You can get away with murder alot cheaper than you can get a divorce these days!

Ganja
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You ain't right bro!!!!!

[stitch 0]

I also think that finding the right person is the key.
I've never been married,but I have a son and have
had a few decent relationships.Either I'm too
restless,or too picky.

"No cookies for you"- GFD
"I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65
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[grue 1]

I'm not worried about it. It's unlikely i'd ever meet a woman that'd ever be utterly fucking crazy enough to be the other half of the equation

cavete terrae.

[skymama 37]

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Will you marry me?

Thank-you for the offer, but I think it would help if we actually had more than an internet relationship.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Frenchy68 0]

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Do you think it's true that a man will remain a bachelor once he hits 43 and is still single?

Got married at 20.
Then again at 28.
And will again at 38.
Will check in with you when I'm 43.

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."