Misternatural 0 #1 March 24, 2006 Ok, my girlfriend called me from work just now and said : "if you want to have sex with someone at your 20th college reunion that would be fine....I'm focused on getting my masters right now and you do what you have to do, what ever happens happens." WTF does that mean? Background info: together for three years. its a getaway weekend reunion at a hotel resort. Yeah, we joke around about hooking up and its funny but...serious??!! She's not screwing around so why should I. We have conflicting schedules that weekend and she can't go to my reunion. yes things have been rough lately because of her schoolwork and life in general. I don't even know if I will be attraced to anyone there and even if I am how is that going to play out when I get back? Holy shit Batgirl what a predicament!Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #2 March 24, 2006 QuoteOk, my girlfriend called me from work just now and said : "if you want to have sex with someone at your 20th college reunion that would be fine....I'm focused on getting my masters right now and you do what you have to do, what ever happens happens." WTF does that mean? Background info: together for three years. its a getaway weekend reunion at a hotel resort. Yeah, we joke around about hooking up and its funny but...serious??!! She's not screwing around so why should I. We have conflicting schedules that weekend and she can't go to my reunion. yes things have been rough lately because of her schoolwork and life in general. I don't even know if I will be attraced to anyone there and even if I am how is that going to play out when I get back? Holy shit Batgirl what a predicament! It means she has convinced herself that you are going to cheat and she has decided to deal with it pre-emptively. I might add that it's a trap--don't do it!!! Wat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
funks 1 #3 March 24, 2006 She is fucking someone else. Period. End of story. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #4 March 24, 2006 QuoteOk, my girlfriend called me from work just now and said : "if you want to have sex with someone at your 20th college reunion that would be fine....I'm focused on getting my masters right now and you do what you have to do, what ever happens happens." WTF does that mean? Translation: "I plan on have sex with someone while you're at your 20th college reunion and I don't want to feel guilty about it so I'm giving you permission to do the same. This permission will become null and void the second you start to act on it." Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CornishChris 5 #5 March 24, 2006 QuoteShe is fucking someone else. Period. End of story. I concur. She is giving you the option to sleep around in order to mitigate her own guilt. CJP Gods don't kill people. People with Gods kill people Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyGuyIIx 0 #6 March 24, 2006 Are you still head over heels for her? Cuz it sounds like she might be throwing the towel in.... (Hope I'm wrong) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #7 March 24, 2006 QuoteShe is fucking someone else. Period. End of story. Damn--how about giving her the benefit of the doubt?!!! Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #8 March 24, 2006 QuoteShe is fucking someone else. Period. End of story. I'm gonna go with that for $200 Alex.---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mostly_Harmless 0 #9 March 24, 2006 Do it and tell her nothing happen. That way if she is doing it while you are away she will feel guilty when you say you didn't want to because you loved her too much._________________________________________ www.myspace.com/termvelocity Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #10 March 24, 2006 you're pretty much screwed which ever path you take. Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thegreekone 0 #11 March 24, 2006 Regardless of whether she is or gonna be doing it with someone else, that is a Gigantic red flag. Now, that said, she may just be the coolest chick you ever meet and really cares about your needs being met. (yeah, and monkeys fly) Even if that is the case, that sounds pretty, how shall I say, obtuse? It would be nice if some of the dizzie female intelligentsia weighed in on the situation. ok....now run for your life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #12 March 24, 2006 My opinion...if a girl you've been in a committed relationship with for awhile all the sudden tells you it's ok for you to sleep with someone else, she's just not that into the relationship anymore. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk this weekend.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpjunkie2004 0 #13 March 24, 2006 If you go to the reunion and you decide to have sex with someone, she is willing to accept the end of your relationship. BTW - I'm a girl. I could give you the long six paragraph assessment, but it sounds to me like it boils down to the sentence above.Jump, Land, Pack, Repeat... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnnysgirly 0 #14 March 24, 2006 Okay, I can think of only two reasons I'd say something to that effect. 1. Yeah, I was afraid or had convinced myself that my BF was going to cheat on me. And like Walt said, was being pre-emptive about it. 2. I was screwing someone on the side and felt guilty. My advice would be to NOT do it....unless you're 100% sure she isn't screwing around. If she is, well then do it and say you didn't. Then she'll still feel guilty....and maybe you can pick up on it and RUN! Alyssa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PrairieDoug 0 #15 March 24, 2006 QuoteShe is fucking someone else. Period. End of story Exactly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #16 March 24, 2006 If she says she is working on getting her Master's right now, that's not something that is going to be done in one weekend. She's talking about a long term thing. "You do what you have to do, what ever happens happens." It seems to me like she might be saying she knows things have been a litte rough lately and she understands if you want something different. That being said, I think you should just ask her what the heck she means by what she said. It makes no sense to you and you would never cheat on her, even with "permission." Just my thoughts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #17 March 24, 2006 QuoteI think you need to have a heart to heart talk this weekend. And if you are still into each other and no one is messing around or planning to, why bother with a HS reunion? Those people are from your past, who cares? Skip it and do something nice for her. (she's either too insecure to be with you, looking around herself, or just too tired to maintain what you have - or you're a freak and she's trying to disengage) ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steel 0 #18 March 24, 2006 QuoteQuoteShe is fucking someone else. Period. End of story Exactly. Yeah, its pretty clear she is screwing around. The only thing that hasn't been mentioned is that for his best interests, he should be moving on as well. Then again some people enjoy open relationships. For me the thought is beyond sickening. If I could make a wish, I think I'd pass. Can't think of anything I need No cigarettes, no sleep, no light, no sound. Nothing to eat, no books to read. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #19 March 24, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think you need to have a heart to heart talk this weekend. And if you are still into each other and no one is messing around or planning to, why bother with a HS reunion? Those people are from your past, who cares? Skip it and do something nice for her. That's great advice! I couldn't agree more! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites leapdog 0 #20 March 24, 2006 QuoteMy opinion...if a girl you've been in a committed relationship with for awhile all the sudden tells you it's ok for you to sleep with someone else, she's just not that into the relationship anymore. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk this weekend. Exactly- forget all the other advice and go with this it makes perfect sense. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NWFlyer 2 #21 March 24, 2006 If bringing other people into your relationship is not a normal part of your relationship, there's two possibilities: 1) She's looking for an excuse to break up and rather than communicating directly like a mature human being, she's picking a fight, either now or later when you come home. 2) She's setting you up to see how you respond and if she can "trust" you. She somehow needs you to "prove" you love her. Red flags all around."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Misternatural 0 #22 March 24, 2006 Ok, all good info so far ....I will add the questions - What would each of you do in this situation? and have you been there yourself?Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NWFlyer 2 #23 March 24, 2006 QuoteWhat would each of you do in this situation? Break up. Now. But I'm guessing I might have seen these kinds of red flags before now. Maybe not. Quoteand have you been there yourself? Nope."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpergirl 0 #24 March 24, 2006 QuoteQuoteWhat would each of you do in this situation? Break up. Now. But I'm guessing I might have seen these kinds of red flags before now. Maybe not. Quoteand have you been there yourself? Nope. DITTO! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bmcd308 0 #25 March 24, 2006 >>She is fucking someone else. Period. End of story.<< no sh!t. ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 1 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
leapdog 0 #20 March 24, 2006 QuoteMy opinion...if a girl you've been in a committed relationship with for awhile all the sudden tells you it's ok for you to sleep with someone else, she's just not that into the relationship anymore. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk this weekend. Exactly- forget all the other advice and go with this it makes perfect sense. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #21 March 24, 2006 If bringing other people into your relationship is not a normal part of your relationship, there's two possibilities: 1) She's looking for an excuse to break up and rather than communicating directly like a mature human being, she's picking a fight, either now or later when you come home. 2) She's setting you up to see how you respond and if she can "trust" you. She somehow needs you to "prove" you love her. Red flags all around."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #22 March 24, 2006 Ok, all good info so far ....I will add the questions - What would each of you do in this situation? and have you been there yourself?Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #23 March 24, 2006 QuoteWhat would each of you do in this situation? Break up. Now. But I'm guessing I might have seen these kinds of red flags before now. Maybe not. Quoteand have you been there yourself? Nope."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #24 March 24, 2006 QuoteQuoteWhat would each of you do in this situation? Break up. Now. But I'm guessing I might have seen these kinds of red flags before now. Maybe not. Quoteand have you been there yourself? Nope. DITTO! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bmcd308 0 #25 March 24, 2006 >>She is fucking someone else. Period. End of story.<< no sh!t. ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
