Dumpster 0 #26 February 10, 2006 On good term with my first ex-wife, after all, we have three kids together. Not on good terms with any of my ex-girlfrends. Should be on good terms with my soon-to-be second ex-wife. So far everthing is going quite smoothly. I am working to keep her happy during the process. Easy Does It Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #27 February 10, 2006 I think there's a difference between being "friends" with an ex and being "on good terms" with an ex. For me, the former isn't all that common but the latter is. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #28 February 10, 2006 awright Mr. Technical!!!! g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #29 February 10, 2006 i'd say i'm friends with all but one of my ex's...... still working on the last one though...... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #30 February 10, 2006 Quotei'd say i'm friends with all but one of my ex's...... still working on the last one though...... Don't try to work too hard on it, let it happen.. it will come eventually.. ( I hope for you.. if that is what you want.. ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #31 February 10, 2006 Quotestill working on the last one though...... As cliche as it sounds... Time will heal sweetie. xoxoxo g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #32 February 10, 2006 QuoteQuotestill working on the last one though...... As cliche as it sounds... Time will heal sweetie. xoxoxo g You're so smart.. how you doin' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #33 February 10, 2006 QuoteYou're so smart.. how you doin' You tell me... g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #34 February 10, 2006 QuoteQuoteYou're so smart.. how you doin' You tell me... g Doing pretty good thank you very much.. Are you doing anything later? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #35 February 10, 2006 I try to be friends, and be there for them, but it doesn't always work. I feel being friends is usually good, because usually they do activities that you're in to, and you will see them around. I find that it's usually better for me to be on good terms with them. CReW Skies,"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #36 February 10, 2006 Yes. As long as things didn't end with someone really fucking me over then of course I'm going to be friends (or on good terms) with them. It would be a shame to get to know someone so well and then just throw all that away. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #37 February 11, 2006 I'm definitely on good terms or friends with all of my ex-boyfriends, some much closer than others, except for one. I care very much for all of them and wish happiness and love for them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AMax 0 #38 February 11, 2006 Define friends. Can you discuss your current relationship with your ex, ask for advice and expect to get an honest and unbiased feedback? In case you say yes, do you think your ex feels the same way? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yamtx73 0 #39 February 11, 2006 I haven't seen or heard from my ex in over 7 years and I like it that way... The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shark 0 #40 February 11, 2006 How many Ex's do you have?! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #41 February 11, 2006 QuoteHow many Ex's do you have?! It doesn't matter because they are all named Dave. Love ya, Gia! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #42 February 11, 2006 It seems to be similar to public opinion in a way. There are people that are good friends and most people like them. However, they are poor SOs and eventually get pushed back to the friend boundary. Others still accept them as good people. There are a few sexy, crazy, fun types that others hold at arms length. Eventually, they go back a little distance. Therefore, I think that I have the same reaction as everyone. If they are regarded as a nut case by the masses, I will eventually figure it out. (That said, that's if I could get a date. ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #43 February 11, 2006 I am on good terms with only one of my exes, my high school sweetheart. We keep in touch every now and then but don't see or get together at all. It's all email, maybe a couple a year. All the rest of them have been clean cut-aways. Well, one was a bit messy and took some serious effort to pry out of her damn grip. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
comslayer 0 #44 February 11, 2006 QuoteI'm taking stock on my personal life and realized that I'm on good terms with all my ex.'s but one. I'm wondering if this is the norm, or if most others choose for one reason or another to completely end it. Feel free to comment. I am friends with all of my ex's except my ex-wife, nothing uncommon about it. Sometimes it is just easier to move on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mnealtx 0 #45 February 11, 2006 QuoteIf I do say so myself, I'm a fairly decent ex! Suck-up!!!! Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites waltappel 1 #46 February 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteIf I do say so myself, I'm a fairly decent ex! Suck-up!!!! Yeah, well, at least I'm good at something. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites popsjumper 2 #47 February 11, 2006 Are you kidding? I once warned a dire enemy not to mess with my ex....poor sucker didn't listen. Now she owns half of his life savings, too. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites waltappel 1 #48 February 11, 2006 Ok, this is off on the opposite tangent and I've posted about it before, but I kinda like stories about really vindictive exes. Not that I would ever wish that on anyone (trust me, I *wouldn't*) but I have had a couple and can look back on it and laugh now. I posted a story a while back about an ex-GF who was kind of volatile, to put it mildly. We had a horribly unstable relationship and I lived like Michael Douglas' character in the movie "Fatal Attraction" for about a year. I finally moved away and it was the final breakup. She had started dating someone else before I left (trying to make me jealous, I think, but I was just grateful that she was starting to leave me alone). Anyway, months after the breakup she would still call me to tell me how much happier she was with her new guy. I lived for those calls! The best phone calls were those when she would tell me that she had just finished having sex with her new guy and was laying there with (use your imagination here) dripping from her (you know) and was just laying there feeling satisfied, thinking about how much better in bed her current guy is than I was. Even though I was laughing and egging her on, those calls went on for months and she was being serious every time! I loved those calls. Seriously, I LOVED them! She was being really vindictive, but the distance made me feel quite safe so I was able to experience it in a much more objective way than I ever had before. I saw them for what they were--childish attemps to hurt me because she felt I had hurt her. I'll never know how she could have thought that. No question about it--I would *much* rather close the door gently on a relationship and remain friends. I've done it both ways and for me, there is no comparison. I want to be able to continue to love an ex as a person, even if things between us didn't work out the way we wanted. It's just better that way. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites PLFXpert 0 #49 February 11, 2006 I never dated too much, but the guys I dated I initially did not stay friends with afterward. In fact, I was completely against the idea for a long time. But, after a while, they started calling again, wanting to hang out, etc. And, I actually still keep in touch with a couple. My mind changed a little--but I was not in love with any of them---not even close. Love, changed my perspective. I'm still with my first (and hopefully only) love (5.5 years now). But, if God forbid we were to split---I can't imagine him not in my life somehow. I think intially I couldn't bare to see/speak to him, but once I was past that point, I simply would be missing out on such a wonderful, amazing person if I did not try my very best to keep a friendship with him. My point, I guess, is that perspective on that changes depending on the relationship.Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites GiaKrembs 0 #50 February 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteHow many Ex's do you have?! It doesn't matter because they are all named Dave. Love ya, Gia! That was pretty funny!!! g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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mnealtx 0 #45 February 11, 2006 QuoteIf I do say so myself, I'm a fairly decent ex! Suck-up!!!! Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #46 February 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteIf I do say so myself, I'm a fairly decent ex! Suck-up!!!! Yeah, well, at least I'm good at something. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #47 February 11, 2006 Are you kidding? I once warned a dire enemy not to mess with my ex....poor sucker didn't listen. Now she owns half of his life savings, too. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #48 February 11, 2006 Ok, this is off on the opposite tangent and I've posted about it before, but I kinda like stories about really vindictive exes. Not that I would ever wish that on anyone (trust me, I *wouldn't*) but I have had a couple and can look back on it and laugh now. I posted a story a while back about an ex-GF who was kind of volatile, to put it mildly. We had a horribly unstable relationship and I lived like Michael Douglas' character in the movie "Fatal Attraction" for about a year. I finally moved away and it was the final breakup. She had started dating someone else before I left (trying to make me jealous, I think, but I was just grateful that she was starting to leave me alone). Anyway, months after the breakup she would still call me to tell me how much happier she was with her new guy. I lived for those calls! The best phone calls were those when she would tell me that she had just finished having sex with her new guy and was laying there with (use your imagination here) dripping from her (you know) and was just laying there feeling satisfied, thinking about how much better in bed her current guy is than I was. Even though I was laughing and egging her on, those calls went on for months and she was being serious every time! I loved those calls. Seriously, I LOVED them! She was being really vindictive, but the distance made me feel quite safe so I was able to experience it in a much more objective way than I ever had before. I saw them for what they were--childish attemps to hurt me because she felt I had hurt her. I'll never know how she could have thought that. No question about it--I would *much* rather close the door gently on a relationship and remain friends. I've done it both ways and for me, there is no comparison. I want to be able to continue to love an ex as a person, even if things between us didn't work out the way we wanted. It's just better that way. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #49 February 11, 2006 I never dated too much, but the guys I dated I initially did not stay friends with afterward. In fact, I was completely against the idea for a long time. But, after a while, they started calling again, wanting to hang out, etc. And, I actually still keep in touch with a couple. My mind changed a little--but I was not in love with any of them---not even close. Love, changed my perspective. I'm still with my first (and hopefully only) love (5.5 years now). But, if God forbid we were to split---I can't imagine him not in my life somehow. I think intially I couldn't bare to see/speak to him, but once I was past that point, I simply would be missing out on such a wonderful, amazing person if I did not try my very best to keep a friendship with him. My point, I guess, is that perspective on that changes depending on the relationship.Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #50 February 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteHow many Ex's do you have?! It doesn't matter because they are all named Dave. Love ya, Gia! That was pretty funny!!! g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
