Trae 1 #51 February 11, 2006 in reply to " Feel free to comment. " ................ I managed to stay on greatly friendly terms with ex's until one served me a cup of tea that tasted like bitter almonds. Now they can stay in the distance and the past. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #52 February 13, 2006 QuoteAs cliche as it sounds... Time will heal sweetie oh i know... can you make time go faster?????? ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bazelos 0 #53 February 13, 2006 I split with my ex two years ago, on Valentines day...I called it off, yeah I am bastard, we haven't really talked ever since, I'v heard she got married though.He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mdrejhon 8 #54 February 13, 2006 Of the four (shortest relationship was 1.5 year, longest was 5 year), I am on bad terms with two of them, and I am on good terms with two others of them. Of the four, there are really very widely different outcomes. I'm actually good friends and good roommates with one of them. Good friends but no sexual relations. 1.5 years ago we agreed we can move apart with a 60 day notice but we have found that we respect each other as roommates (we are such good roommates, staying out of each other's hair, we pay back each other quickly for things like food we buy for each other, and respecting each other, even to the point of having such a good guest policy. My ex now has a new SO and I'm cool with both of them being over if they want to be). Unlike with some other exes we don't have the same kind of resentments and baggage that appear to affect some other exes. Eventually my ex will move out, or that I find someone, and we both realize that. The first month was difficult but afterwards, we overcame that. So far we've had this roommate arrangement for 1.5 years now. We had our own reasons for going our separate ways relationship-wise and understand them. We have a fondness of each other and we do really wish the best for each other including a new love. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
laughlinlisa 0 #55 February 13, 2006 ok...first of all...why do you have any ex's? have you not had any luck keeping a man....~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ my tandem changed my life....i have never done it from behind....and i liked it.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #56 February 13, 2006 I'm going to assume that you're very young, or very lucky, or that you'll put up with anything. Because a woman over the age of about 19 who has no ex's is one of those three. That's how you find out what you like in a man/woman -- you try on relationships, see if they meet your needs, and end if they don't. BTW, the other member of the relationship is doing the same thing -- both people have needs after all. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
grue 1 #57 February 13, 2006 My most recent ex and I are each other's best friends. cavete terrae. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #58 February 13, 2006 Your comment is rude, not many women I know are even half as awesome as Gia is.Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #59 February 13, 2006 QuoteYour comment is rude, not many women I know are even half as awesome as Gia is. I am going to agree with you, Lisamarie, that the post by Laughlinlisa comes across a bit rude. Any man would be very lucky to spend any amount of time with Gia. Laughlinlisa~ Wendy has a point. It's only natural for people to have ex-BFs and ex-GFs, unless they marry their first love. Having an ex has nothing to do with not being able to keep a man or woman. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #60 February 13, 2006 Quotehave you not had any luck keeping a man.... Gia's awesome. It's not that she hasn't had the luck of keeping a man, it's that a man hasn't had the luck of keeping her. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #61 February 13, 2006 Dave, WTF??? Its no fun if its you putting yourself down! Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #62 February 13, 2006 Quoteok...first of all...why do you have any ex's? have you not had any luck keeping a man.... Why do you so quickly assume that she is the one who is the one who has been dumped? Maybe she dumped them all!She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GiaKrembs 0 #63 February 13, 2006 Wow, thanks all! I have been very fortunate that the men in my life are all truly beautiful loving people. I have the utmost respect for all of them, and don't regret one moment of my time with any of them. The unfortunate part is for one reason or another (I don't feel the need to justify it to everyone), the relationships did not work. I will always love and carry a special place in my heart for each of them. g Raddest ho this side of Jersey #1 - rest in peace brother Beth lost her cherry and I missed it .... you want access to it, but you don't want to break it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #64 February 13, 2006 Quoteok...first of all...why do you have any ex's? have you not had any luck keeping a man.... I know I haven't! What am I going to do with all these aprons I bought?!?!?!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #65 February 13, 2006 Quote I have been very fortunate that the men in my life are all truly beautiful loving people. I have the utmost respect for all of them, and don't regret one moment of my time with any of them. Read it and weep Remtard!!! Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #66 February 13, 2006 QuoteQuote I have been very fortunate that the men in my life are all truly beautiful loving people. I have the utmost respect for all of them, and don't regret one moment of my time with any of them. Read it and weep Remtard!!! She said the men in her life, Dave, not the boys. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #67 February 13, 2006 Bwahahaa! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,439 #68 February 13, 2006 I think you said it better than I did... Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #69 February 13, 2006 QuoteShe said the men in her life, Dave, not the boys. [blink][blink] That didn't hurt. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #70 February 13, 2006 QuoteQuoteok...first of all...why do you have any ex's? have you not had any luck keeping a man.... Why do you so quickly assume that she is the one who is the one who has been dumped? Maybe she dumped them all! not enough of these in this thread...... **********HUG************Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #71 February 13, 2006 Quote[blink][blink] That didn't hurt. You know I still love ya, Dave. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stoneycase 0 #72 February 13, 2006 QuoteWow, thanks all! I have been very fortunate that the men in my life are all truly beautiful loving people. I have the utmost respect for all of them, and don't regret one moment of my time with any of them. The unfortunate part is for one reason or another (I don't feel the need to justify it to everyone), the relationships did not work. I will always love and carry a special place in my heart for each of them. g These kinds of sentiments towards ex's have always baffled me. I don't mean to be argumentative here, but personally, I've always felt that a large number of girls/women stay friends/in touch with/buddies with their ex's because they want to keep that "string" alive and attached. They feel safer knowing that their former SO's/lover's still think about them, or want to talk with them. They're looking for safety and security, in case all else fails. Just MHO (and it's based on my personal experiences and those of my good friends and family). Personally, I've had both - good splits with friendly relations, and bad splits with no/evil relations. Each time, the split and relations afterwards were diff for both parties. I'm still into her, she's not. She's still into me, I'm not...whatever, you get the point. All I'm saying is one of the primary reasons (here's the .02) someone is good friends with most of (or all) ex's is because of the safety/security factor. Ask yourself, honestly, the one's you stay in touch with - do you ever wonder if you could/would get back together? Ever find yourself wondering if it will/can it cross "the line"? (rhetorical, no need answering) As I look at my own history, this is VERY true. She stayed good friends with me to have another shot, or I stayed good friends with her for years because I couldn't bear losing her - I wanted another shot badly. Funny thing is, I've actually got a bad split with no/evil relations that turned into a rather civil friendship years later - specifically because we never did any of the BS I'm talking about (pretending to be friends, calling to say hello, bla bla bla). Her and I had a great conversation about this topic not too long ago, and we both agreed, in examining our histories, that more often than not we stay in contact or close with our ex's because there is something "more" lurking beneath the surface. YMMV.Does whisky count as beer? - Homer There's no justice like angry mob justice. - Skinner Be careful. There's a limited future in low pulls - JohnMitchell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #73 February 13, 2006 Wow, That's very well put. Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #74 February 13, 2006 and what's wrong with having a backup/reserve? if you still appreciate the person, maybe they will be a good candidate when you both grow up a bit ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #75 February 13, 2006 Quote and what's wrong with having a backup/reserve? if you still appreciate the person, maybe they will be a good candidate when you both grow up a bit Nothing per se... but I really want a main before I can consider getting a reserve... and it sucks being led on by a woman that has comitment issues (or needs to grow up) Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
