RhondaLea 4 #26 January 22, 2006 QuoteCool. Did that work Rhonda? Given some of the nonsense I read (and post) in these forums from day-to-day, I'd say it was eminently workable. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PsychoBob 0 #27 January 22, 2006 CUT AWAY! CUT AWAY! Be careful Bro or you'll be scoping out new daycare centers instead of new objects!"I'm not a gynecologist but I will take a look at it" RB #1295, Smokey Sister #1, HellFish #658, Dirty Sanchez #194, Muff Brothers #3834, POPS #9614, Orfun Foster-Parent?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #28 January 22, 2006 QuoteBut it's a lot worse when they do reciprocate, and you fail to appreciate them the way they deserve. I thought it was better to have "loved and lost" then "never to have loved" Edited to add: Not that I would know...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #29 January 22, 2006 QuoteQuoteBut it's a lot worse when they do reciprocate, and you fail to appreciate them the way they deserve. I thought it was better to have "loved and lost" then "never to have loved" Well, I don't know about that. It may apply to some situations, but I don't think it applies to the one that we see so often: boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, girl gives it a go, boy either neglects girl or is mean to her, girl gives up and goes away, boy has regrets. Now perhaps that works the other way, as well. I've seen threads lately that give me the idea that it does. But my own experience is the former, not the latter. And in such cases, it would've been a lot better for the girl if the boy hadn't bothered. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #30 January 22, 2006 QuoteQuoteBut it's a lot worse when they do reciprocate, and you fail to appreciate them the way they deserve. I thought it was better to have "loved and lost" then "never to have loved" It is. Trust me, it is. Only once the wound has faded to a scar will you see the truth in that statement. I have a few scars that I would not give up for the world. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #31 January 22, 2006 QuoteAnd in such cases, it would've been a lot better for the girl if the boy hadn't bothered I experienced that exact scenario a little over a year ago. I think the difference in regretting love and learning from love is the intensity with which it was shared during the realtionship. In my case we had a love that is rare and amazing. It rocked me to my core. He gave me memories that I would not give up even if I knew that by giving them up I could erase the pain that came with losing him. We still love each other deeply. True love will never die, but it may change its form. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #32 January 22, 2006 QuoteI experienced that exact scenario a little over a year ago. He treated you badly? And you still feel this way? rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #33 January 23, 2006 Quote...is mean to her, girl gives up and goes away, boy has regrets. Abuse is never a good thing... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #34 January 23, 2006 QuoteQuote...is mean to her, girl gives up and goes away, boy has regrets. Abuse is never a good thing... Y'know...I'm not saying that it's not worth getting into a relationship that can't last for reasons beyond anyone's control. I've done that before several times because I counted the cost as worthwhile. But that's not the same as the example I gave above, which happens to be a discouragingly common scenario. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #35 January 23, 2006 Quote"Faint heart never won fair lady." nothing ventured nothing gained? I still don't know which side of that argument I land on. However, the world does need more love. Not the hallmark kind - the real kind.Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #36 January 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteI experienced that exact scenario a little over a year ago. He treated you badly? And you still feel this way? rl Absolutely not. He did not treat me badly, it was more that we both had other things happening and failed to communicate effectively. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #37 January 23, 2006 QuoteAbsolutely not. He did not treat me badly, it was more that we both had other things happening and failed to communicate effectively. I didn't know what you were referring to when you said you experienced that exact scenario, because what I was thinking of had more to do with ill-treatment than with bad timing. It's always sad when the right person comes along at the wrong time. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
