Asking women out - does cheese work?

[udder 0]

Not cheddar or a matured brie. Im talking about flowers and chocolates... Recently I've been to movies twice with this girl who is a friend and I have no idea whether she would go for me. Usually i would've pulled every trick in the book by now but I have to see her everyday so if I fuck up I will face humiliation and have the piss pulled mercilessly for at least 2 weeks. And on friday some unknown weirdo apparently put a rose on her bonnet and I thought I better ask her out before this dude does.

To the guys : Does the flowers routine work?
To the ladies: Is this advisable or does it just make for more expensive rejection?

Or should I just buy a large plastic ring, write some bad poetry and go the funnier route? If I wanted all out hilarity my singing is pretty funny. Though she may be very embarassed for me...

Edit to add: Already own one large heart shaped $2 plastic ring and my mother owns a florist (the chick I wanna ask out knows this)

"In one way or the other, I'm a bad brother. Word to the motherf**ker." Eazy-E

[1969912 0]

A crystal buttplug seldom fails to impress...

"Once we got to the point where twenty/something's needed a place on the corner that changed the oil in their cars we were doomed . . ."
-NickDG

[waltappel 1]

I could tell you a bunch of things from first-hand experience that DON'T work, but that wouldn't be much help.

You mentioned having to see her every day. If you work with her, the best advice, the ONLY advice I can give is DON'T get involved. Trust me on that. DON'T get involved.

Other than that, why don't you simply ask her if she has any interest in exploring being more than friends? Take anything less than a full-blown "yes" as a "no" and let it go.

Walt

[cocheese 0]

If my user name is any indication, no.
Watch this ...
Hey ladies, would you go out with The Co Cheesecake ?

[udder 0]

I see her everyday cause of rowing. Well at least 4 mornings a week. Spose the real question is doin something nice or possibly funny going to improve my chances? or just result in brutal humiliation and shame? (im not exactly a stranger to it)

"In one way or the other, I'm a bad brother. Word to the motherf**ker." Eazy-E

[Andy9o8 2]

A coward dies a thousand deaths

A hero dies but once...

[airtwardo 7]

Cheese it bro....

if she's a nice 'take home to mom'
kinda girl, she'll eat it up and your 'point count'
goes way up!

If she's a gutter slut and deals ya "brutal humiliation and shame" ...so what?

What are ya out, a few bucks for the trinkets?

Some OTHER nice girls will see / hear about your gesture and in no time...

you'll be gettin' more ass than a toilet seat on 'Burrito Night' at Yankee Stadium!



CHEESE RULES!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[skymama 37]

What was her body language and reaction towards you on the dates that you went on? Did she touch you, lean into you, laugh at all your jokes, mention that you should go out again? Those things would be a good indication as to whether you would get shot down if you chose to take things further.

As far as the "cheese" factor goes, most women like it when they can tell a guy actually put some thought into trying to please them. It's a real compliment! I'm not sure about your choices though. If your mom is a florist, it seems to easy for you to get your hands on a rose which would make it less impressive. Anything associated with a ring at this stage might just freak a girl out if you haven't even kissed yet. I like the funny poem idea though, just attach it to something else.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[airtwardo 7]

I like the funny poem idea though, just attach it to something else.

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Like a single yellow rose and a box of GOOD chocolates!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[udder 0]

lol...its a large novelty ring. Like huge plastic shaped heart. I was going to part of the joke. But fuck it, im going to just lump it all together. It's gonna be an macaroni cheese of love.And not just a single rose - jesus no. I'm talking designer shit.

going out she laughs and seems pretty relaxed, and she invited me the second time. but there isnt touching etc which is the main reason I havnt done anything. Well I'll hit it up tomorrow and tell you all how it went. Time to sleep now.

"In one way or the other, I'm a bad brother. Word to the motherf**ker." Eazy-E

[Beverly 1]

Not sure if I went to the wrong charm school, but i hate the flowers and chocolate routine!
Is there something that you can get her that relates to rowing maybe? Something really thoughtful.

And dude, if she asked you out the second time, I would think she likes you too.

Go for it!

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

[NlghtJumper 0]

Well, I agree with most of the above. You already got her to bite, you just have to hook her and reel her in. I dont know her or anything so i cant give you tips cuz EVERY girl is differnet. You will know what gets to her best. But usually, the best thing is confidence, and humor. If you can get her to laugh, your golden...

Good luck man!

A man will do anything for the right woman,
and when that woman destroys him,
that man will become a hunk of meat with the common sense of a rodeo clown! ~ Christopher Titus

[kbordson 8]

Best advice I would have to give is just be yourself.

Try to make her happy, smile, ect.... but not at the expense of being someone different from who you are. If you're not natrually a flowers and candy guy, then do the humor thing. Love (or something like it) has so much more to do with compatible personalities than flattery. If you snag her with gifts and then 2-3 month from now she realizes that you aren't that kind, then starts the "what have you gotten me lately?"

Besides, not all girls are wanting to be spoiled (ok, maybe a little lie there)

Karen

[SarahC07 0]

I'd agree with the humor routine. Personally, I wouldn't dig the chocolate/flowers/poem combo.... unless it made me laugh in some way.

Make her laugh! Be a goof! Do something she would say to 'Awww... thats cute' and then laugh or something.

Yes, cheese works.

[Andy9o8 2]

Back when I was in the dating phase of my life & was trying to impress the girl, but not yet ready to move into the "jewelry phase", I'd get her Chanel No. 5 perfume, which at the time was considered a very nice, fairly expensive perfume.
Just a thought.

[plowdirt 0]

Try this go chase 100 woman,see how many stick around, then be yourself around 100 others.

remember this you got to talk to a million to find the right one. good luck.

BE YOURSELF

[RhondaLea 4]

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Try this go chase 100 woman,see how many stick around, then be yourself around 100 others.

remember this you got to talk to a million to find the right one. good luck.

BE YOURSELF

What he said.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

[gmanpilot 0]

Not all women dig the flower/poem routine, even if it's funny, and especially before you have a real date. It might freak her out. If you have been friends for a while you should have some sort of vibe about her. I would suggest making it a low key approach. Instead of "will you accompany to dinner and a movie next weekend?", maybe "You wanna hang out Saturday night?" would allow for more options. If she wants you to persue her, she'll give you some signs if you are paying attention. She'll stand a little closer, look in your eyes a little longer, pupils will change size, etc. Don't be afraid to be bold, but apologize if you're wrong. She'll understand either way. Jump in and good luck.

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-There's always free cheese in a mouse trap.

[Canuck 0]

Plastic ring = "What the fuck am I supposed to do with this? Wear it? Does he expect me to still be wearing it the next time he sees me?"

Chocolates??? Is the plan to plump her up so other dudes don't hit on her?

Perfume = "What, do I stink? You don't like the perfume I already have? And where the fuck is the bonus pack - probably gave it to some other girl!!!"

Cheese is cheese dude. Just be nice, actually listen when she's talking, do shit that is fun for both of you, and when all else fails, impress her with the good 'ole skydiver card.

Canuck

[SBS 0]

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What was her body language and reaction towards you on the dates that you went on? Did she touch you, lean into you, laugh at all your jokes, mention that you should go out again? Those things would be a good indication as to whether you would get shot down if you chose to take things further.

Or did she go more for the Skymama approach, grab you by the scruff of the neck, get a demon-like look on her face as her hair started to stand on end and scream, "STICK IT IN!!!!"?

Cause that's unsually a good indication.

-S

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I'm not conceited...I'm just realistic about my awesomeness...

[Ragnarok 0]

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BE YOURSELF

What he said.

rl

[pBASEtobe 0]

Can I just add here that dating sucks!!!

[HydroGuy 0]

Just ask her out...and not to a movie. How the hell do you get to talk and flirt with someone at a movie? I always thought movies were lame dates at the start of things personally.

If she rows, she's athletic and likes the outdoors...opens up endless possibilities...plus nature sex is great

Get in - Get off - Get away....repeat as neccessary

[wrightskyguy 1]

Have you tried sausage? I have found that most women will melt at the sight of a big sausage.

John Wright

World's most beloved skydiver

[RhondaLea 4]

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Can I just add here that dating sucks!!!

Don't date. Make friends. See what happens.

It's a lot less of a false beginning than dinner and a movie.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb