leapdog 0 #1 November 10, 2005 I'm sure someone has dealt with this before, maybe I can get a view on they handled it. Scenario, You are a guy at a boogie and a sky chick shows interest in you. You both really like each other, but it has to be long distance. You (the guy) have wanted to move to the state she lived in for a while, but now that you have met her you make things happen, after several months of planning you move. The plan is that you move in with her for a couple of weeks so you can find a place, get settled at your new job and such. There were small disagreements about some things toward the actual move date, but they (as far as you know) were solved. Four days later after you drive down to be with her and start to get things tranistioned, there is a simple dissagrement over something very silly but she gets angry and accuses you of not treating her right and kicks you out with no where to go. So, after you have made an effort to be with her and disrupted your life she just disrupted it even more. Not only that but the whole time you were getting along she got deep into your life and remains there after you split up. You are not deep in her life, because you are in a new state you never got introduced to anyone she knows, ect. Except that you will probally run in to her a the DZ since you live in the area she does now. how do you handle the situation? There s lots lots more to this, but I didn't want to give to many details because I feel like this is very delicate and I don't want things to get worse. Feel free to ask questions through PM. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rasmack 0 #2 November 10, 2005 Maybe she just never thougt it was meant to be that much, but was to weak to tell you. That would make her "look for an excuse". As for how to handle the situation now, ouch!HF #682, Team Dirty Sanchez #227 “I simply hate, detest, loathe, despise, and abhor redundancy.” - Not quite Oscar Wilde... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #3 November 10, 2005 Chalk it up and move on....My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,452 #4 November 10, 2005 What do you mean by "deep into your life?" And, well, maybe you guys disagreed on whether things were important or not, or settled or not. Did you ask? That said, I'd be kind of angry, but move on. It's not worth your time. She doesn't own you, and you don't own her (aren't you glad?). You wanted to move to that state anyway, right? So now you're stuck wondering if you're going to end up as yet another DZ drama. Behave civilly, and I hope she's not a CRW person too -- it could get sticky then, but probably not. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leapdog 0 #5 November 10, 2005 QuoteWhat do you mean by "deep into your life?" And, well, maybe you guys disagreed on whether things were important or not, or settled or not. Did you ask? That said, I'd be kind of angry, but move on. It's not worth your time. She doesn't own you, and you don't own her (aren't you glad?). You wanted to move to that state anyway, right? So now you're stuck wondering if you're going to end up as yet another DZ drama. Behave civilly, and I hope she's not a CRW person too -- it could get sticky then, but probably not. Wendy W. No she's not a CRW person, but she is on the CRW email list, she took it upon herself to ask to be added with out asking how I would feel about it. My friends understimated her kindness and told her how to get on the list. this is what I mean by deep in my life. I probally can't fart with out her knowing about it because she knows everyone I know, can communicate on every meduim I can, and has some of my very close friends phone numbers. I have told my friend what has happened but they still think that she is this kind person and I'm just upset that things didn't work out. There is alot more to it than that...Keep in mind that I don't miss her at all. but it would have been better if things didn't happen the way they did. Now I'm just trying to manage fallout and get my situation back in order. It is almost there. but the last thing is getting her out of my life. very very difficult. You're right we don't own each other, thank god I plan on acting as if she isn't even there. unless she speaks to me. then I won't know how I feel about when she does. I guess I could fall back on being a former Marine and just give yes and no, and other short answers, or avoid it by saying I have to go over here I'll be back and just don't come back. edited for PA~Skymama Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #6 November 10, 2005 Sigh...please don't use the forums to air your dirty laundry. Your original question was fine, but now you are getting personal. I know who you are talking about and I also know that there are two sides to every story. These kind of threads turn into a he said/she said thing which isn't productive for anyone so I'm locking the thread.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
